2007-07-16 00:47:30 · 9 answers · asked by BLACK81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Boy, this is a tough one. I have had the same dilemma in the past and found it to be helpful to go to counseling alone even though divorce was inevitable. It didn`t save the marriage but helped give a new prospective of the future.
2007-07-16 00:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. Maybe there are behavior issues or psychological baggage you and your husband can address that would bring back your mutual caring for one another.
There's nothing better than growing old with your dear friend. If that can come about, it's worth the work. But if you've both gotten as far as considering divorce, it's going to be a LOT of work to get back to loving one another. Both of you will have to be equally committed to trying again, too.
I've read time and time again studies done that asked divorced people if they were happier with their lives after divorcing. The results were most who responded were not significantly happier, they said they just had problems of a different sort.
I'm not against divorce. I just think... relationships are worth saving if they started in love. I send good thoughts your way for your happiness.
2007-07-16 01:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by PediC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is worth it and while it did not work for me and my X, I have seen it work for other couples. So while you are drifting away from your marriage, there is time to put the brakes on on your situation. Go to the counseling and try to save your marriage. Remember what you both together and revive those feelings. God bless you both, I am sure your spouse is not happy about this mess either. The marriage is not over until it is over and even then, in CA 10% of the divorced couples end up remarrying again. Goodl luck.
2007-07-16 01:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by jorge e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is worth saving a marriage. In life, you have to earn your way out of a marriage and do all that you can to see if it will work. Too many couples just call it quits over issues that can be fixed. If couples don't start taking marriage seriously, this world will never see couples EVER celebrating 50 + years of marriage.
2007-07-16 00:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're already gone if your mind is set on leaving....you left a while back. Counseling probably will not help the marriage, but may help you understand why it didn't work out.
2007-07-16 03:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by dizzybee15 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it could help you see things from a different perspective. it could also help you to confirm what you already know. it could make things allot clearer and perhaps give you piece of mind that you are making the right choice. good luck.
2007-07-16 00:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by fi fi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling has been know to change your mind because it gives you a new perspective.
2007-07-16 00:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is really to show that there is an alternative to your thoughts, but if you want to leave, so be it.
2007-07-16 00:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: No.
2007-07-16 01:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋