I have a million questions... opinions, please?

Question

To save points, I'm condensing a few similar questions into one.

If you're not LGBT answer these:

1) If you're not LGBT, why are you posting here? Do you feel you have a legitimate reason or are you putting down homosexuality?
2) How does someone have the right to tell me that Homosexuality is wrong? I can do what I want with my life. Have I ever said that Heterosexuality is wrong?
3) [this gets me] You tell me I choose to be homosexual. Well let me ask you something... do you choose to be hetero? No!

LGBT answer these:
1) So I'm not out to anyone... but Y!A. When you did come out/are going to, do you think you spent way to much time thinking about it? Did it really bring you down?
2) If you were originally raised under a religion, which one was it? Did it play a major role as to coming out to family?
3) Do you think it's absolutely necessary to come out now if I don't have a real "need" to? I'm only 15 and I'm not dating anyone.
4) Should I just wait until College to come out?

Answer 1

1: I think it best that kids stay in the closet till they are of age at least or till they graduate college is good too.
This way you don't create problems for yourself that you can't handle.
2: Catholic and I decide it was my personal business.
3: Again you are young and if you do want to come out to anyone it shold only be to your hopeful.
This is good for you and him as he will probably not want ot be out either.
You must take you friends feelings into consideration as well.
If you were out most guys would not want much to do with you because everyone knows.
4: Yes, though you might want to check with the guy in bed next to you first.
You never know in college there might be a guy laying there and you may not want to hurt him by not asking first.
Hugs kid

Answer 2

I'm not LGBT.

1) Because I'm browsing through the whole Cultures and Groups section and checking out whatever questions I bump into. I'm interested in the LBGT questions as much as the other questions and last time I checked this section was open to everyone, not just LBGT people. I have as much right to be here as anyone else and no, I'm not putting anyone down. On the contrary I'm a supporter of gay rights.

2) Nobody has the right to tell you that homosexuality is wrong. They have the right to feel that it's wrong, they have the right to hold that opinion, but they don't have the right to control your life or tell you who you should love and spend your life with.

3) By all means stop lumping us all together. Not all non-LBGT people hate you or think you chose your sexual orientation. I have no problem with LGBT, but I do have a problem with angry rants pointed at me for having the same sexual orientation as some idiots who give you a hard time.

Answer 3

Before I did come out, I spent many hours thinking about it. It didn't really so much bring me down. I was raised under a couple different religions. Some of my family was Eastern Orthodox, some was Baptist, some evangelical, and some episcopalian. Basically it exposed me to hypocrisy in religion at a young age. It might be a good idea to wait until college or until you are in part financially independent from your parents. At 15 is not necessary to come out.

Answer 4

LGBT:
1) I am not out yet and i don't think I will ever be.Where I come from the whole subject is taboo.
2) Islam, that is one of the reasons I cannot come out.
3) No it is not necessary to come out at all. If you feel comfortable where you currently stand don't.
4) Wait until you feel a need to come out. Don't do it because everyone else is.

Answer 5

I'm hetero, so:
1. I am a supporter of the LGBT community, as I have many loved ones back home that are part of it. Living a peaceful, harassment-free life is all I can ask for them (and anyone else, really.) I lurk here more than anything else, but like to put in a good word when I can (whether online or in RL).
2. As long as you are a consenting adult, nobody has any business telling you or legislating who you may love. Being part of a "minority" faith, I feel ya!
3. It gets me too...I never chose to like guys...I just do.

Answer 6

Bisexual
1) I came fully out at the age of 19. Looking back I think I spent the right amount of time and came out when I was ready. No it was one of the most liberating experiences in my life.
2) Methodist, No I was taught as a youngster to be accepting and love all of my fellow humans.
3) Only come out when you are absolutely sure you are comfortable doing so. Even if you are in a relationship if you feel the time is right don't rush it.
4) See answer for #3

Answer 7

♥ Proud Lesbian

1. I came out when I was 18 years old. I did spend wayy too much time pretending to be straight. I was afraid of what my mom would say.... but in the end it did not bring me down. It took my mom a few months to accept it but now she is helping me & my fiance of 15 months plan our wedding. :-)

2. I was raised in a Christian environment until I was about 10. We moved and I didnt wanna find a new church.... so At that time I was given the choice... I could go to church when I wanted or not go at all.... I chose not to go. I'm not a religious person...

3 & 4. No it is not necesary to come out now, you should come out when you are ready. I waited until I was in a serious relationship and 18 years old. I wish I would have came out earlier though, because I spent so much time pretending.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

I'm gay/lesbian, and to answer your question:

1. I came out last yr...I had been holding it back so long, but then I reached a point during the summer where I was just like...f*ck it..if people accept it then they accept it. if they don't then they don't. I wanted to live my life the way I wanted and I was tired of living the way people expected me to. The hardest part was coming out to my parents. With friends its easier because you know..friends come and go..but you're family is you're family..they're always gon be there no matter what. So yeah..I told my friends first, and then I came out to my parents..and to my surprise they reacted totally diff. from what I expected..they supported me 100%. I was so happy when I was fully out..and afta I recieved the support from my parents, anybody else that was to find out didn't matter..as long as my friends (of whom all supported me) and my parents supported me thats all that mattered..even if they didn't though, I still would be living my life to the fullest and doin what I do now..though with more difficulty and complications but still doin it.
2) Nope, my family isn't really religious though they believe in God..
3) Hmm..it all depends..on you're family and how they are..if they're not really the supportive type on homosexuality or the real religious fanatics and such and your not stressing from being in the closet then you should just wait..if they're the kind that don't care and would support you no matter what orientation you are just because you're their son/daughter then why not..its always good for your family to know stuff...i mean but really it all depends..i have to know you're type of situation and family and such

Answer 9

Ok, since I qualify as the LGBT section of your million questions here are my answers :-D

1. I came out to my friends when I was in college, to colleagues when I started working, and lastly to my parents. It all happened over a period of time, and was based on my comfort level with the people i came out to.

2. I was raised in a Hindu family, and we were pretty much unorthodox about religion anyway. I don't believe in any religion as they exist today, more into spirituality and the metaphysical. Religion absolutely did not hamper my coming out to anyone.

3. It is not necessary for you to come out just now. You can bide your time, and be independent before you do so.

4. You could wait until college, but then it is entirely up to you when you wish to come out to anyone. Don't force yourself into coming out though.

Answer 10

Not LGBT:
1. never posted anything in your section
2. never said, not even thought, that homosexuality was wrong
3. I haven't told you anything
4. I wish you good luck and a very happy life! I hope I will have the chance to meet you someday... ;-)