What can i do to make my husband want me more?

Question

We have been married for 3 years and have a 1 year old son together. He also has 3 other kids from his previous marriage. Anyway, i don't know what to do. He doesn't ever seem ''in the mood'' to do anything with me anymore or at least lately. He says he is always in the mood but he never tells me. When i ask him why he doesn't answer. He also seems to be in a depressed mood lately and i try and talk to him about it and he doesn't answer back. No, im not a nagging wife infact i give him plenty of space. This situation is really bugging me. It's like we're an old married couple with sex being last. Now i don't need to hear how sex isn't everything because believe me i know it's not but it's different when it's pretty much non existant. My husband's other son besides the one we have together lives with us too and he has slept by his friend's house 3 nights in a row yet my husband and i spent ZERO time together all 3 nights! Does anyone see a problem with this? I do. I haven't let myself

go im skinny, petite, and even have a collection of lingerie and am always willing to wear it whenever he wants. I don't understand what his problem is. It's dragging me down and i don't like it.

To John S~ I have 2 sisters but believe me im the normal of the 2. Their lives are so full of drama it's crazy. My hubby IS lucky because i don't nag i don't use sex as a weapon need i say more?

Answer 1

I agree with you completely. I dealt with this same situation just a few weeks ago. My husband and I have a 6 month old baby and we've been married 2 and a half years. He had always been so into sex until about 3 months ago. It's like he became a zombie out of nowhere. He was always so depressive it made me depressed. If I tried to talk to him he couldn't give me any reasons why he was acting that way. His average response to my questions, "I don't know." and he'd just stare off into space. It turns out he was depressed. Luckily I've studied psychology long enough to watch his behavior and know. I was also able to talk through it which was sooo difficult. But now we are doing great and everythings perfect again. If he won't talk to you and you are really worried I suggest a marriage counselor. Otherwise just keep communicating. Depression isn't something to take lightly and can become a serious problem. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

couple questions:
1. How much does he work?
2. Do you show him that you truly appreciate him (who he is, what he does)
3. Have you talked with him about it and told him that it bothered you?

Couple more things to possibly help:
1. Ask him if there's anything you can do for him and do it.
2. Make sure he feels respected (for a man this truly means love)
3. Do what you can to make him feel wanted and needed emotionally and ... physically... ^^;
4. When he agrees to do something finally, do what he wants and do most of the work if you can (give without expecting any in return, get on top, etc..)

Not sure what else to say. If we can't help you here though I would either call up Dr. Laura Schlessinger or buy her book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands"
I would recommend the book.. I'm a guy and even I want to read it. Good luck.

Answer 3

Don't you hate it when the word "nagging" is correlated to a wife wanting some communication from her husband? Anyway, I really feel for you. It's hard when someone so close to you seems so distant. Is he going thru any unusual stress lately--maybe at work? Are you doing any other activities together? It sounds like there is something going on with him. I would definitely suggest talking to him before things get any worse. Communication is key. In the meantime, you should try initiating the sexual contact. Spice it up a bit. Show him how much you desire him. If you can, plan a getaway for just to 2 of you. Plan "dates" with him doing the things that he likes to do. If he is going thru a depression, you have to let him know that you are there for him, no matter what. If this continues, I would suggest counseling. I really hope things turn around for you.

Answer 4

I like you gave my husband his space and boy did he run with it. I no it never occurred to you that he might be cheating on you just like it didn't to me until the day he said he had been thinking about moving out for sometime now. I gave him absolutely no reason to go out side of our marriage but he did anyway. I never said no when he wanted sex,I even enjoyed it when he was drinking how many wives can say that. We never argued we got along good and he could go out with his friends after work. Golf every Saturday but for some reason it wasn't good enough for him.He had to sleep with a co-worker and destroy everything we had and for what a different piece of A S S that happened to be 10 years older then him and ugly and not build good at all. Now you tell me if my husband will do that what makes you think yours wouldn't. Please don't say you know him because you only know what he wants you to know and nothing more I promise you that.

Answer 5

Mind games take many forms that you may not think of, for example, pretending you're in love with someone else or planning to be with another (to make your ex jealous) is a terrible thing to do, and can seriously backfire.

Don't be mean or vicious. Going back to controlling your emotions -- you probably feel like taking revenge of striking back for the pain it caused you. Think deeply about this -- imagine how much worse the situation could become by fighting fire with fire.

To come up with a solution to this saying, the only thing to fight fire with is water. Obviously this is a metaphor, but the meaning here is to defuse the situation instead of resorting to base instincts.

It's not a nice thing, especially when children are involved to disrespect the other person, no matter what he feel they have done to you. You don't want to poison the minds of others, as you may end up hurting them as well.

Keeping a calm demeanor about yourself and continuing on with your life will make you much more approachable, and when you have really calmed down, it will be a lot easier to discuss the situation in a civilized way.

This is only the very beginning of making amends and getting your relationship back together, and it is a good idea to seek further advice as to where to go next.

These are just the beginning steps when asking - what can I do to get my ex back They are the initial techniques I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren't my original ideas. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

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Answer 6

You have been seeing the same guy for a while now. As far as you can tell things are just lovely between the two of you. He calls you up and tells you, he needs to see you, because it is very important.

You begin to think, what he could he possibly want to talk to me about that is so important. Maybe he is ready to take it to the next level. Could he be ready to make a real commitment?

The two of you meet and he tells you he loves you. But, he needs some time to himself to think things over. It's not you, he tries to explain, but you do not want to hear it. The only thing you can think about is, what in the world just happened?

On your way home you are thinking, how can I get my ex boyfriend back?

First, ask yourself this question. Do I really want him back? This is something you must think long and hard about. Deep down inside you want him, but are you really sure?

Take some serious time to think about it. You need to have an clear mind in order to make the right decision.

After you have thought about it and you have decided to fight to keep your man. Take it one step at a time. Ease up and put yourself first, because he is the one who broke up with you. It is not going to be easy, but with the right frame of mind, you can do it.

Here is the way you handle the situation:

1. Do not call him
2. Do not text him
3. Do not try to contact him through his friends or family
4. Do not give him any special treatment



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Answer 7

First- your husband is a fortunate individual, you have any sisters??

Sex is like the milk boiling over in the pan (ever pun intended) It is the collective result from lots of other "areas" being tip-top in a man's life.
Some of those smaller things need to be reset in order to play their part in the conglomerate picture and subsequent effect on the hydraulics.

Start with responsibility;
-Tell your bloke that you are glad he is who he is and how well he handles the Brady bunch family demands.
-When you are out together, subtly point out a poor physical male specimen and tell yours how much you love it that he has a great bod'

Passion;
-Take his hand and demonstrate how ready he makes you feel
-Let him catch you masturbating and tell him you were thinking about...(then show him)

Intelligence;
-Over a period of a few weeks mention how much you like discussing topics (afterwards) with him

Sorry can't cover every topic but I assert what I started with;
That is he is a fortunate bugger having a lass who cares enough to ask as to how to improve things. Good on you angel.

Answer 8

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