What is wrong if a woman has a relationship with another man especially when her husband is drunkard and has been pretending to her and telling lies to her that he doesn't have this habit at all and spends money on this and tells hundreds of lies for this and she comes to know about this habit thro one of this office colleagues itself. Added to this if he happens to be earning less and incapable of running a family whereas the wife happens to earn more than him. Will any woman have any respect for this kind of a man will she not be agitated and wanted to have her own kind of life. Pls do not say divorce since it is being considered as a taboo even today by some family . What do you say if a woman has been bearing with this kind of a man for nearly 4 yrs. At least if he is settled in life to certain extent we can accept even that is not there means won't any woman's mind get diverted. That too when she is forced to bear with this man. After all she is also a ordinary humanbeing.
2007-07-15 22:50:11 · 10 answers · asked by janu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was given chance once for his this kind of habit. Now he has been given another chance tho she is not willing just on her people's advice to reform him.
2007-07-15 23:16:44 · update #1
bcoz of this she is not even in interested in her sexual life with him. So definitely she may need that sexual pleasure to be derived thro someone of her liking is it not. Afterall she is young woman of 32
2007-07-15 23:24:02 · update #2
Do as you wish, it’s your life, if divorce is taboo in your family & adultery is respectable thing then you should go ahead with it. After all who can stop you for this illicit relationship? As far getting sexual satisfaction from other men if satisfies your inner frustration that has been enlightened by your alcoholic husband & his habit of acoholism, go ahead with it, why ask any one if it is right or wrong. People here will only advice you what is morally & legally acceptable in the society. No one will say you must do what ever you are doing is correct as every sensible person knows that it is not. I had already advised you to get rid of this man by divorce but for you it’s a question of family taboo so what else I can say in such a case. Best of luck!
2007-07-16 00:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
32 oh!
She must divorce.
What does she have to loose, if divorce is a taboo then infidelity is a bigger taboo and it is illegal in most local, it is considered "An Adultery"can end up in jail, or worst dead.
Still it will have to be her choice and choice of her partner in crime.
Two wrong does not make things right so her first choice is divorce,and the second, third and all other ones are the same, divorce.
Family must understand the simple facts, and will understand this once divorce is finalised.
Then she is free do what is best for her.
2007-07-16 07:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD says: My dear one,ask me and I SHALL HOLD YOU.
u have indeed suffered and ur getting into another relation is not anyone's decision but urs.But how can u guarantee hapiness in second relationship or 3rd? Has the 2nd guy guts to propose to u knowing everything? okay so u take full creit of knowing the constraints of 2nd guy while starting a night life. You know what, my late mother used to say- u will find that after ur marriage, life turns into a T point,u will get to choose 2 paths, the left evil strewn with roses and the right good paved with stones. U wil be tempted to move to left and the moment this happens, ur feet shall be immersing in a bog of sin.But if u keep faith in GOD,he himself shall make u realise how to get out of the situation.IF there are children, make urself sprituall y strong for their sake.if not, sti u are answerable to urself. contact NGO HELPER SITES for an alternate shelter till u give a legal notice. lust begets sorrow, give ur wounds time to heal, do not rush into relationships. Pray to lord to give u strength of character and a practical head.
2007-07-19 05:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong in seeing. Seeing is actually doing. You are doing the same now when you are trying to understand the space. I would suggest you to go into the depth of the relationship. Analyse without any preconceived notion..no one else thoughts should influence in this case. Understand one thing..our life is short. Whatever you have to achieve has be earned within this life span. Howver, be focussed in your approach. Will you be happy with your next move? Will that bring joys to your life..whatever your choice be..will you not come across the same personality in your next move. World is full of them. It is only the time which unveils them. My suggestion would be you understand yourself first..your desires, your destination without any conclusion. Life will try all that if you have self knowledge.
2007-07-19 05:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by MyWorld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I feel that ya its right if she do so
but before that she must try every effert to bring back her life on track with her husband
if she fails in it than she can be speared for that as she is also an human being.
I respect ur feelings
I feels that this story is related to uor some of ur friend
so solve it with full cinfidence............
women can change the whole world
2007-07-16 06:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Priyanka M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relation between husband and wife may provide every liberty to each other except interrelation sexual affairs. I mean to say, you can do every thing except having sex with another person than your spouse. Please keep at least this social dignity alive in this Indian sub-continent.
2007-07-18 04:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by cnkhadga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aha! Someone trying to justify their cheating by blaming it on a drunkard husband.
Nice excuse lady, keep going and you'll truly believe it.
2007-07-16 06:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you acquire taste of other man in sex, where is the guarantee that you will be stable with one man. You may look forward further for new man. Who knows you may convert into prostitution subsequently for the quest of lust.
2007-07-17 05:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by ky d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what a pathetic sob story.. u cant handle the marriage get out of it.. stop whining.. but for god sake dont cheat {}
2007-07-16 05:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by who ?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when ur mind need apology for what ur done! is wrong!.others are none !!.be truthful on u.
2007-07-19 05:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by white b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋