how do u no if ur gay?

Question

ok well im a girl and i dont think im gay i dont wanna be gay its against my religion and it disgust me and thats the way i was raised but i love gay people cuse there cool but i dont belive in being gay but ok im a girl im 15 and i look at boys u no and think there hot and i have a boy friend and always imanged being with a man its just when i see a woman i think o she has nice legs or nice breast and i cant tell if im compareing myself to them or i like them...but i dont think im gay....i want a man i want to get married and have kids but the thoughts always there im not sexually arroused my really ither man or woman i think that sex is a beautiful thing between both and when i watcha porn video or something i like to see regular sex..i just hate to question it...i have nothing against gay people i just wanna be normal and i think i am and even if i was gay i would never have a girlfiriend i would always go with a man and im not bi. i think im stright.. or least hope what do u think

Answer 1

I think you are very confused about what your religion tells you, and what you think is right. I don't necessarily think you are gay, you are going through that stage that everyone goes through when they question their sexuality and everything about their lives. Your religion has such strong views against gays, but your heart tells you there is nothing wrong with it. I think you are confused about what you are being bombarded with in your home life. If you fantasise about another woman it DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE GAY. It just means you are a normal young girl, with normal feelings.

Answer 2

Women do admire other women; it's perfectly natural. It's partly envy, but it's also the fact that feminine beauty has been the standard of what we mean when we say "beauty" for many centuries. Men are admired for being strong or well-proportioned, handsome is the usual word. But beauty is the term applied to women, so naturally you see that beauty. You have eyes.

Don't worry about all this. You mention that religion is a factor in all the stress you are feeling over it. Is there a Sunday school teacher or other counselor at church with whom you could talk this over? I suspect they will say the problem is too much emphasis on sexuality in the media has confused you.

At the age of 15, you should be just now becoming aware of sexuality, still able to be very much a girl rather than a woman most of the time. But things like those awful Bratz and little-girl clothes that make them look like miniature prostitutes have distorted the normal maturing process and created a huge amount of stress for modern teens. Try to relax about it and let maturity develop slowly.

Remember that the less attention you put into sexual maturing, the more you can put into intellectual and social maturing. Take your time!

Answer 3

why do u feel the need to explain to us ur actions...if u see that a chick has a nice *** or **** or whatever, that doesnt mean that u r gay...dont u know we all look at each other for two reasons...because some one looks ugly or cute...not just because we might wanna date them or because they are a certain sex...u r 15 but notice how females of all ages always go out of their way to look at another female..is that because we are all lesbos? society puts labels on the most natural things to make us question ourselves for no reason...u shouldnt be trying to find out if u r gay or straight..what u feel is normal..and anyone who says its not has gone through the same thing but is in denial.. just be a 15 year old girl and stop worrying about what ppl think makes u gay

Answer 4

What religion are you? because you said you have a boyfriend, and you like watching pornos...most religions I know of do not condone nor promote such activities at a young age...So all BS aside...Chicks look at chicks...to compare themselves. It is normal to have feelings of attraction to other girls because we are hard-wired emotional beings like that* - do not mistake this as being bi-gay ....it is a natural process in identifying yourself as a woman...as you are becoming one. If you look at a girl, and think "Wow she's hot" Consider it admiring her rather than thinking that you are gay...I think you are like every other teenager finding their identity. It is normal to admire the beauty of a woman, Your thoughts only need to be further examined, when looking at another chick actually turns you on. So for now, chalk it up to comparing and admiring. =)

Answer 5

You ask this in the R&S section so your going to get a answer that is of God, If you chose to be gay it is your choice, The Bible talks againest it, God loves everone so it is not a bad thing to love people that are gay but what they are doing is a sin and so is watching porn, Love and sex is not the same thing, God wants you to love everyone but don't confuse that with sex that is something that you should wate for untill after marrige.

Answer 6

It relies upon your gay or bisexual. if your gay, you like an identical gender, yet while your bisexual, you like the two. ask your self those straightforward questions. a million) Do your parents care who you're? 2) Do your parents provide you loose time on my own? 3) Do your parents aid you pass out with pals, and spend the night, and dangle out for the duration of nights? parents that provide their newborn loose area shouldn't care what you're doing, purely hoping not something inapropriate. if your parents do care what you do and lock you in the domicile all day, it is going to harder to tell them your gay or bi. before you tell them something, you prefer the two parents collectively on an identical time, so which you do not could repeat it two times and notice a extraordinary looking face. a lot of human beings think of being gay or bi is misguided, notwithstanding that's organic and a human element...human beings do exactly not see that for the duration of any respect. don't fret what your parents think of, purely ask them when you tell them your gay or bi "Are pleased with that?" and with a bit of luck they're going to say confident. in the event that they are pleased with that, (They perhaps are purely announcing that to make you sense foodstuff, yet don't fret what your parents think of too a lot) your in super shape. i wish I helped (and not telling you suggestion you already understand)

Answer 7

It's natural to compare ourselves to others in a way.
Just checkin out what other people do, how and why.
And women, are big on "image".

No, you are not gay or bi, unless you CHOOSE to be. That is the ONLY way!
NOone is born gay.
People just say that crap so as to try to justify their >sin<.
It is totally unnatural, and is punnishable by Hell.

It does'nt work, and never will. It's rebellion against God's desire for us to "Be fruitful and multiply".
Gay/bi is a lie.

But you should'nt watch porn. Why do you need to watch others?
It will only corrupt you.
I was addicted once to porn.
I know the effects and consequences.
It is immoral.
It desecrates what God designed as "sacred".
There is NOTHING you need/have to know about sex, that your passion and desire and hormones won't guide you in.

It causes divided devotion and conflict oif interest.
And causes us to "compare".
It is totally impure and unhealthy!
And ESPECIALLY for men!
Who are more visually stimulated than women.
It is one reason why so many men have trouble committing, and being/staying devoted, and to only one woman, one "image".

And don't have sex outside of marriage unless you desire devided devotions, conflict of interests, unfaithfulness, and you do not want "security".

There is NO security or true devotion in sex outside of the "I DO" marriage covenant!!!

No, you are not gay/bi. You are just curious. And you are a woman, image-conscious.
That is all.
And yeah, if you look at porn and such, yeah you will always "compare" and get contaminated in your devotions and perception of sex.

God is love.
Love is a choice.
Choose well.

Wait till marriage, or you WILL be sorry!!

Answer 8

Dang daniel no need to take your anger out on someone with a problem , least you could do is become normal for a second THEN answer

Answer 9

Ok when you don't shave your under armpits and start to wear leather jackets and drive a harley. Then your a full blown DIKE ON A BIKE.

Answer 10

hmmm...i'm gay...and to me i don't think you're bi or gay..you're straight..but it seems like your question emphasizes denial a lot...because there are a lot of things getting in the way if you really were bi...such as you're religion..