We've been the best of friends since 3rd grade, and now she's gone to China to study there FOREVER. I have no other best friends like her and don't know what to do. I don't want other friends, just her. But I.... I don't know what I should do. I'm soo lonely. I ... I just don't know what. I want her back, but how? She likes it there she's making good new friends, I need her so much. What on Earth should I do?????
2007-07-15 21:50:05 · 25 answers · asked by Lyra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can still be long distance friends and remain close. Keep in touch with her with letters, e-mail, text messages, and the good old telephone. Be happy for her. She is getting the education she wants. Meanwhile make some new friends. Once you open yourself up to new people you will be amazed how many great people you meet and bond with. I have four long distant friends. We have been close for an average of twenty years. We get together every two years or so. I met them one at at time.
2007-07-23 12:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by curious connie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. FOREVER IS A LOOOONG TIME to go study in China.
Sounds like this is a good opportunity for you to make some new friends, you know, branch out a little. This kind of thing can be hard, I know, but maybe it would be a little easier if you made some plans of your own. Take a class or something. Meanwhile, can't you two call or text each other? Send letters?
You didn't mention how old you are. Are you in 4th grade or are you like 40? That makes a difference, too. It is great to have had a best friend but just look on the bright side: no matter how long the two of you were inseparable, now you both have a chance to grow and learn, and someday perhaps you will reunite to talk about how you've spent your time apart. Good luck, seriously. And if you are in 4th grade you better get to bed. ;)
2007-07-16 04:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by plum.creek 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well your friend have moved on to another country, you can continue to write or phone her to keep the friendship. You should be happy for your friend, that she have met good friends, as well as she would be happy if you stop beening so depress and meet other people. Yes you been friends since 3rd grade, but life goes on and you have to go forward. Maybe soon or later you can visit your friend in China.
2007-07-21 21:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lyra,
I am sorry to hear about your friend. I wish life could work in such a way that the people closest to us would never leave, but unfortunately, things happen. You can't bring her back, but you can change your view on her departure. It's healthy to keep in touch once in a while. However, you will need to keep yourself busy with your priorities. Discover yourself and your talents. People will be drawn to you, and hopefully, you may find another friend like her.
2007-07-24 02:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Andre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your very best friend in the world, right?? and she is happy in another place that doesn't include you?? Why can't you be happy for her and her new life?? You are still her friend
Only not exclusively. Why do you want so much control over this friendship?? You have to get on with life, stop trying to hold so tightly to something that doesn't belong to you. She has.
2007-07-24 00:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by angels_angelsarehere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know sort of the feeling you have. I had a friend who I thought would be my friend forever but 2 years ago he got into the advanced class. since then he has been shaking me off to hang out with his new friends and i decided that if he doesn't want me as a friend anymore I'll just get a new best friend and that is just what I did. Is your friend just leaving you or will you stay in touch because I will just not even talk to my old BFF. because he shunned me. If your friend shuns you just make new friends if not i don't know what to do.
2007-07-16 04:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by wedgeredleader 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I understand what you're going through. My best friend and i live on oppisite sides of the country and it kills us both. We have kept being bestfriends by talking on the phone all the time and email, but we have still made attempts to make other friends. We both know that no one will ever be able to replace either of us in each others lifes, but we still have to find people to spend time with hear and now. It's hard, I know, we just look forward to the day when we might be able to live close to each other again.
2007-07-16 05:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Yuri's Momma 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
for real bestfriends distance is not a matter, you can still communicate with her, technology today keeps people together whether they're are miles away....but having only one friend is not good you have to meet other people and make more friends...in this case you'll will not long for only one friend but enjoy the company of more friends around...
2007-07-22 23:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lyra, years ago my best friend (Mark) left, just like yours. He joined the army. We did everything together - played music, worked on cars, worked at the same grocery store, rode dirt bikes, double-dated, went hunting and fishing, played football and basketball, etc., etc. I actually stayed mad at him for a while. But you know what? I found another friend. In fact, I found several more friends. And, best of all, I remain friends with Mark to this day.
Hang in there - you'll find another friend just like I did.
2007-07-16 05:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You definitely deserve more than this, why not try get out there and live your life. Still keep in touch with her and get updated or both your lifes. You got to live your own life someday, so why not now. Best of friends is not to have her by yourself but wants the best to happen to her. I believe she will never forget you as a friend. She will definitely wants you to be happy and lets just get alive. I believe you can do it.
2007-07-16 04:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by zenchua34 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋