hi...i'm a 20 yr old woman. i had this classmate of mine in school. he was the school heartthrob kind and i was just a plain jane. i was quite happy being myself and style wasn't my cuppa tea. i never had any showdowns with him and didn't even have anything against him but he always bullied and teased me. his words used to be so cruel sometimes that i used to wet a whole pillow crying at home. i always wondered why he did that. i despised him...i really did. then once we met at a party and i got to know that his family and mine knew each other pretty well. well....that didn't make any changes in wat he was already offering me. i've known him for about 10 yrs now. even after school was finished we used to see each other occasionally at parties and stuff...he's even been to our home once with him family. and he's always been so sweet with my elder sister and everyone at my home...i thought he really hated me for being so mean. yesterday he proposed me and...wat do i make of it? shocked..
2007-07-15 21:27:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Run as fast as you can and kick some dirt in his face! The man is a sadist! He loves to invoke pain and then be nice just to invoke pain again! Run for the hills girl! And give him a kick in the pants!
2007-07-15 21:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by brenda r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It is good that you are taking some feedback before taking decision. The decision to live life with someone is the one of the most important decision of life and you are there at the cross road. But as far as this decision is concerned, from my point of view, it is simple and clear.
The guy who has bullying mentality, marriage provides a better opportunity to continue doing that. Human is the cruelest in that sense if it creates some kind of abhorrence.
There could be many kind of assault on fairer sex. Physical can still be marked, noted and corrected but verbal abuse is the ugliest one. You can not show your heart to anyone to show your damage. So always beware from any such person who does not give you dues respect.
As you mentioned that he is friendly with your elder sister, indicates that he has lot of other interest through you. He must be abusing your sisters too. So you can check that.
As he knows that he was heartthrob in school so he will always keep you down giving some or other reason. He will have plenty of sexual variations and force you in different sexual activities to show his smartness.
He may be rich. He may be successful but they are not for you. Closeness of even relatives will not come to your rescue for day to day matters. You will be forced to live a miserable life.
So, please keep yourself away, just be normal with him. Do not think of ever living life with such guy. Do not stay even for day. You are a brilliant girl and you will get some one more courteous boy. Enrich and enjoy!!
2007-07-15 21:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by kamekish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At first I was to say he's an abuser say no however being your situation I would say that he evidently has had some kind of issues regarding him self with falling for you and he can no longer deny his true feelings now how do you feel? If it's a mutual thing then I would suggest you would put him to the test I'm not saying play games by any means.That's never good in any relationship. Go out for awhile though & take it from there. Good Luck : )
2007-07-15 21:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he liked you even then. Men can be rather immature and think that pulling on a girls pigtails is a sure-fire way to get her to like him. If the bullying stopped and he's a little more grown up now, I'd say it all fits. If he's still taunting you and making you feel worthless, then he may be one of those sickos that likes pushing people around.
2007-07-15 21:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the bullying has to go if he loves you. He should win you with presents and sweet words instead.
2007-07-15 21:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to bully you for the rest of his life.
2007-07-15 21:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Bleu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the latest style of bullying
2007-07-15 21:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He love you but could not express his thoughts and his strong dessire for you. Tell him you love him too.
jtm
2007-07-15 21:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋