i heard you should be with someone for at least 5 years...is that true? and do you think its better to live with someone for a few years before getting married or to take a more traditional approach and live together after you get married?
i think its better to move in with someone THEN get married but my parents think thats stupid and "un-lady like"....theyre a bit more...or alot more conservative then me...so your thoughts?
2007-07-15 20:15:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Marriage is a choice and not an obligation. Some do it sooner than others, and some do not choose to get married. There is no time limit on love.
2007-07-15 20:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Richard S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should definately live with someone first! There is so much you find out about a person when you live with them that you cannot tell otherwise! I lived with my husband for 3 years before we got married. I think that was good enough for me to decide. Been married 6+ years now.
2007-07-16 03:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by cutesy76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is between you and your partner, and in the end, it should not be up to your parents to decide. You can be with someone for 7 years and still don't know a lot about them, or you can be with someone for 5 months and know them inside-out. The number of years doesn't prove how long-lasting the love will be. The key is to communicate. Talk about everything, like your insecurities (trust me, we all have them), even the most embarrassing and personal stuff. What you don't know about someone usually is what makes them human. Try travelling with your partner. You should be able to have a taste of all the little things they do. No one is perfect and there's a way to embrace our differences and true nature by practicing tolerance.
2007-07-16 03:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by yesveggies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no set rule, really. Once you're ready, you're ready. For example, my husband and I were only dating 2 months before he proposed to me. Almost a year after we started dating, we got married. We would have done it sooner but circumstances got in the way. We lived together for only a short while but I don't think that would have made much difference. If you love someone and if you want to spend the rest of your life with them are the questions you REALLY should be asking yourself.
2007-07-16 03:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together is totally wrong in God's eyes. But date for one year and then be engaged for 4 to 6 months or less than that to get ready for the wedding. If you really can't wait then just get married fast but I would wait. Sometimes it is because of your emotions. Let your emotions settle down and then see how you feel about each other.
2007-07-16 03:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by blazek35 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't feel the need to be blessed by a church I don't believe in, and it's not the states business who I live with, so I'm not married, but I've been with the same man for 12 years now and we're very happy.
2007-07-16 04:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
long engagement is a very good to make sure that you and partner, lover are really meant to be, but five year is really long period,but if you and your partner are emotionally and financially ready to get marry go a head and do it.
though living together before marriage is a very practical idea in this way you can also to check if the two of you are really compatible. you should know your partner in life to be more before you get married or before they will make the biggest mistake, i mean biggest decision in their lives, but if your parents don't want that kind of idea don't do it, they don't want your dignity to be jeopardize or put to shame as you see your parents only want whats best for you.
2007-07-16 03:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by adnerb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think that depends on what type of a person you are.
to answer your question...if you are the type that likes to try something before getting yourself really into it, then you should try living before marrying. this is given that you have enough money to do so.
for me and my gf, we are going to be with each other and get to know each other real well before we move in. i think this is the safer method. i say safer because theres no way in completely knowing another person!
you'll make the right decision and if not you'll learn from it, but remember to think it through beforehand.
2007-07-16 03:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by st 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100 years
2007-07-16 03:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your age...i'm 18 and i'd like to date my b/f for at least 5 years before getting married.
2007-07-17 14:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by mexc@n b!tch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋