"life's unfair, it's complicated, it works in was we wish it didnt. but don't be sad, i can feel you trying to drift away....makes parting away easier, but then could u really stand the fact of separating knowing htat you guys are distant or parting knowin u guys had last good memories together? but makes going away harder.... "
my friend said this to me when she was moving soon and when i avoided her because of that....what do you think it means to you?
2007-07-15 19:57:49 · 14 answers · asked by bianca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think your friend was saying that she could tell that u were trying to avoid her... and she is saying that the reason you are avoiding her is to make it easier for both of you when she moves...
but she is saying what would you rather do...
distance yourself so that it would be easier for the both of you 2 when she moves...
or would you rather be friends until the day she leaves even if it does make it harder for the both of you...and at least when you look back on your friendship with her you will remember all the good times you had instead of wishing you hadn't distanced yourself from her...
think of it from your friends point of view...
she is moving far away, starting over fresh... this is gotta be pretty scary for her but also one of her best friends has started avoiding her at school.... she probably isn't very happy that you are avoiding her...
plus even if she does move away that doesn't mean you cant stay in contact...
The both of you can still talk on msn or on the phone or something...
i hope everything goes well for the both of you
2007-07-15 20:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend was just really sad about moving away. And she's a pretty good writer! If a friend said that to me, I would be very touched. Perhaps you should examine her words more closely, and try to figure out what she's saying to you. In my opinion, she's implying that you're unconsciously avoiding her and drifting away because in your mind somewhere deep inside, you don't want to part with her, and drifting away now will make parting easier.
2007-07-16 03:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by julia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, it sort of sounds like your friend was telling you she forgives you for growing didtant. She is telling you that she knows it seems unfair that she has to move, and that she knows that's why you were avoiding her. Also that it makes it easier on the both of you when the day comes. But she is also asking if you're sure that's how you want the last bit of time swhe has there to be spent. Could you have made it more pleasant on the both of you if you had spent more time with her before she left.
2007-07-16 03:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by There can only be one - (ANSWER) 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well for me world is beautiful, what i see , what i perceive, what i believe is all that make me fell good, whenever i get angry or hopeless to my life.. i always recite above line, and yeah.. this may be the case that i haven't seen much trouble in my life.. or may be lack of experience. When ur friend told you "life's unfair, it's complicated" may be she has only thought about the bad part of life.... my friend life is not too complicated nor unfair.. its we ppl who drift our life complicated and drive it in wrong way. Some one said this to me.. " Don't loose ur life to an extent that it will slip from ur hand and mock on you.. or don't tighten to the extent that it's want to run away from ur hand.
2007-07-16 04:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Gohan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think she said what she meant.
i did the same thing when my best friend was moving i was trying to not be as great friends with her because i knew how bad it would be the day he left but now i know how bad that was because we could have made at least 20 more great memories in the time i spent avoiding him
2007-07-16 03:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kelsey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems she felt you were moving away, and sad she had to go, and tried to make sense of it all. Further, seems she was right about you moving away, as you ignored her afterwards...you did what she felt you were busy doing.
Either way, she likes you a lot and tried to tell you it is ok for you to move away in your heart, and for her to move away like she did. It shows she understands, is all.
2007-07-16 03:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by justaguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means you're pushing her away because you're afraid of how much it's going to hurt when she actually leaves, it's easier to that too, rather than to deal with things.
and she asked if you could really live with yourself after she left, knowing that you were a stubborn brat who pushed her away when she needed you the most.
2007-07-16 03:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by aprylx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she is emotionally upset. Unable to get in the grips that life throws at you. Don't avoid her, she may need your help now.
2007-07-16 03:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by slmac11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to prepare you to be strong for her move away. She knows it's going to be hard for the both of you and is trying to make you feel strong and understand the meaning of your friendship together.
2007-07-16 03:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous100 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
it's true lol life is unfair and almost never goes your way but hey? what can u do about it? i just smile and carry on =)
forget something bad happend and move on.
2007-07-16 03:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋