will you help me?

Question

my friend gave me his cell phone number (well actually his girlfriend did but he said i can save it in my cell phone). i called him two times within 30 minutes.............my questions are: 1. do you think calling him two times within 30 minutes is too much? 2. how often should i call him? 3. what happens if he doesn't call back? i ask these questions because he's a really good friend and i don't wanna lose this friendship because everytime i have a friend i always find a way to blow it and they won't talk to me anymore.

Answer 1

You need to relax. It's not cool to be too needy. One call is enough, he will call you back when he can. If he doesn't, don't sweat it, friends are over-rated anyway. It's best to have one good friend then 100 phony friends.

Answer 2

To answer your first question of whether calling him twice within 30 minutes is too much, that actually depends on the reason that you call him for. If his answer is very important to you, I think it should be okay. Regarding how often you should call him, I think that as long as you have a good reason to call, it should be okay. If he is just a friend, maybe calling once every two to three days is okay. If he doesn't call you back immediately, maybe he is busy or does not have access to his phone, or maybe he doesn't check his phone very frequently. I know someone who sometimes does not check her phone for two to three days...

In a nutshell, just take it easy and treat your friends just as a normal friend. Have confidence in yourself!

Answer 3

Dude...when girls tell you that you're calling too much...you're calling to much. First of all, his girlfriend gave you his number...and even though he said you could save it, it's not the same as him giving it to you. That should be your first indication of where you stand. Secondly, Dude...his "girlfriend" is his best friend, get it? You don't start calling a guy the first day you get the number, and you don't call about things you "need". You call after you see him and you say, "Yo, you going to be busy later? If not, what do you say I give you a call and see if you want to hang out?" or something like that. That way he'll let you know if you should even bother to call, and if you should, when to call. He could be in the middle of something with his girlfriend and doesn't want to be disturbed by someone who just got his number...comprende?

Guys call guys because they're going to "confirm" something or after they've made arrangements to call. Girls call just because they're bored and want to talk. There's a difference, okay?

If he doesn't call you back, forget it. Don't ask him why he didn't call you back, don't ask him if he got your calls, just forget about it. Once you've made arrangements to call him and he doesn't pick up, then don't call back...just leave a voicemail and say, "I called, guess I missed you. Give me a call if you're not busy." then hang up and don't call again. "then" you can ask him the next day if he got your message. You'll probably figure out by then if you should just delete his number or keep it on your phone just in case...but don't call anymore.

Hope this helps

Answer 4

Yes, I do think calling anyone two times in thirty minutes is too much. Try one time a day or once in two to three days. If you call too often you will appear as too needy and your friends may start to feel like they are suffocating then they may want to distance themselves from you.
If you are suffocating your friends, I would like to help you to not do this. You need some hobbies. Maybe start with a chart you can make. Put walking on it and set a goal, maybe one mile. Put a check mark each day you walk the mile. After a week or so you may want to increase the mile to two miles. On this chart you could keep track of how much water your drinking each day. You need at least ten eight ounce glasses of water daily. You may not be able to drink that much at the start but you could track it and increase it when you can. You can add some exercises, chores, bike rides, etc. to the chart and mark them off daily as you complete them. This will keep you busy, healthy, and wise. You will have something uplifting and positive to talk about with your friends when you do call every few days. So, have fun and "make up my mind to make my life shine" as Helen Redding put it in her song. Go for it!! :)

Answer 5

maybe you're just being a little too... clingy... well, maybe you shouldn't call 2 times in half an hour, but as often as you NEED to call your friend.

just because you have your friend's number now doesn't mean you need to call all the time.

for example, there was this girl who got these nice pants from hollister... she wore them like 2 weeks straight. (yea i know it's gross)... blaablaablaa the moral of the story is just because you have something doesn't mean you need to use it all the time...

...and chill... if you are such good friends, it'll be ok if you don't call every 4 times an hour or whatever... just don't be negative in thinking that what you do is gonna make your friend not like you anymore... just don't worry and don't call for no apparent reason all the time... if he's your good friend, you'll keep being friends...

don't worry and hope i helped!!! :)

Answer 6

1. I think callin him 2 times in 30 min was way to much. It seems kinda stalkerish, unless u really needed something.
2. U should call him like once a week if he is a really good friend.
3. If he dosent call back maybe u should talk to him face to face and casualy ask him why he didnt call u

Answer 7

ok seriously do u like him as more then a friend? cuz like why would u call him 2 times in 30 minutes if u keep doing that ur gonna push him and then u wont be friends jsut take a chill pill relax and just go with the flow

Answer 8

well Brian dear,

Two times in that short of time is a little much.. But I talk to some of my friends like a dozen times a day.. But they are ill. and its a girl thing too.. Being a
mother of a son he does talk to some of his friends a few times a day he calls or they call.... Sometimes he gets them sometimes he don't.... And he mite try later
or not it all depends on what he wanted them for.... So its all to do with what you want to say, and your friendship is like, if you call very day or once or few times a week.... Just relax and take a look at your friendship and see what kind you have.... you need to talk give me a e-mail at [e-mail].... I''ll help if I can.... Take care Brian.... Connie....

Answer 9

I talk to my best friend's boyfriend 2-4 hours every night. You didn't call too much. But if he asked why you called twice so soon, say you need to ask him a question about your friend or something. My Bff's bf and I are just friends, but if you have real feelings for this guy you really need to examine your relationship with your bff and her bf. Trust me things get very complicated very quickly.

Answer 10

That is definitely NOT too much, but you think that maybe you might like this friend of yours? But seriously don't worry about it 2 calls in 30 min is DEFINITELY not too much. And if he doesn't call then like the next day just leave ONE message like hey wats up? Just wanted to call cause i wanted to but your not picking up loser or whatever just try and seem cool and make it short then if he still doesn't call then when you see him don't pester him about it just be like hey i called you just wanted to make sure everything was ok or whatever and then like just drop the subject. If he keeps on screening your calls then just don't call him. Sorry about your problem, hope i helped :)