I just found my husband's stash of online porn that he saves from the internet and most of the clips he saves is of the guy cumming into the girls mouth or on her face. What does this say about my husband? Its hard to tell what he's into when half the porn he watches doesnt have intercourse in it (granted he doesnt know i've seen these). I just want to know if its something I should be worried about? I would ask him this myself but i dont want to embarrass him. And another question, why does he hide it from me? I've told him over and over that he doesnt need to hide it from me, but he still does? Why? Any type of answers to these questions is appreciated! Thank you.
2007-07-15 17:55:20 · 17 answers · asked by fayth_rc85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW, i have let him do this with me before, even before i found his porn, so thats not a problem. And as far as our communication, we dont have a problem there, i just didnt want him to be embarrassed by the question, plus, if he's like most guys, i know he wont give me a real answer, which is why i'm asking for everyones opinion on the matter. But thank you for all your answers, i'm open for more if anyone else has any input!
2007-07-15 19:00:09 · update #1
My hubby has that kind of stuff to, and it's not that he doesn't like watching the act of sex, it 's that he likes blow jobs and enjoys watching them, all men are different and like to watch different things, and it's nothing at all to worry about, he likes watching *** go into a girls mouth or on her face,,,,,next time yall are in the room ask him if he'd like a *******, and let him *** on your face or in your mouth,,,ten to one he won't be watching or saving anymore of that porn once he's getting the real thing...but it's nothing to worry about and as for him hiding it, you say he doesn't have to worry and that's great but it's just human nature for men to hide it, they don't want to be embarrased, even though we tell them they dont' have to they still hide it, ...but don't worry girl, he's a normal man, dont' sweat it.
2007-07-15 18:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The porn your husband is saving is just the stuff he has connected to on the Internet that he found interesting and worth saving. Reality is he will save it, probably never watch it again and then delete it six months later when he is running out of disc space. It certainly does not mean that this is the reality he wants, only that it reflects the fantasies that he was having at the time he downloaded it.
To be honest, sometimes I will download porn in the background while I am doing something on the computer and I never watch it, or watch it once and forget it because it is not very exciting. Am I addicted to porn, do I not love my wife, is there some secret fantasy that is driving me? NO.
Simply doing something in background to make what I am doing on the computer in the foreground potentially more exciting. Self delusional in the main because I have never found anything that I have permanently kept, but porn is mainly about self delusion anyway.
2007-07-16 03:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is probably a fantasy he has. That's why he saves it. Second, his probably concern what you would think if you knew his fantasy. Some women don't like having a men cumming over their face and into their mouth. But this is what he likes and wants to do. If you don't have a problem with it then maybe make the suggestion that you want him to do this to you. At least you can break the ice and let the cat out of the bag. He won't know you saw it but even if he does it would be a relief for him that you know. Then you may even open up a door to new things that even you have fantasied about with him.
2007-07-16 01:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well just because he likes porn with no intercourse doesn't mean its weird. Porn is a world of different fetishes, not just the standard stick it in variety. Maybe he wants to try the facial stuff with you. But he is shy in asking it because he figures you may say no to him. Also the fact that if he did bring it up you would think he is a perv for asking you to do something like that with him. So he probably keeps it hidden from you so that you don't think he is some kind of a freak. I suggest letting him do it some time. Or better yet you get on top of his face and stuff and tell him you think its really hot when there is c_u_m all over your face like this or even if you said you wanted his c_u_m on your face. Just make him feel more comfortable and not ashamed of doing something like that. Only if you are into it mind you. Don't need to do anything that grosses you out.
2007-07-16 01:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the other guy. You have problems comunicating and thats big. WHen u r married if u have a prob you should be able to say something up front with no worries. The porn means nothing...just that hes sneaky. Blow him a few times. OR work on your computer and block those web sites he goes to. OR tape a picture of yourself to the monitor. What else does he hide from you? keep control of your man
2007-07-16 01:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny because i fount the very same thing as you,the guy was cumming on her face.What is it about that I don't no about you but i won't let my husband do that to me so i guess seeing it is the next best thing. Men no that us wives find that kind of stuff disrespectful and would never allow them to do that to us. When i saw the porn i put it in a file where he will never find it and i told him i got read of it.I don't like the fact that he finds it necessary to hide it from me specially when we have watched porn together.
2007-07-16 01:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be worried. First red flag, he is hiding it from you! He must not think that you would approve. IF men are watching porn to get their rocks off its because they are needing more than your giving out! Or they are total perves and have this raunchy side about them they do not want you know at all or otherwise he should invite you to watch with him! Maybe surprise him by doing something out of the ordinary to him during sex and dont let him know that you know his rauchy little secret and wow him with your own little clip!
2007-07-16 06:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by jalaney_delaney 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, men like to masturbate and like to see other men largely masturbate in porn to reassure themselves that it is normal and healthy. Women don't like to watch men masturbate. It is usually not a turn on for a woman.
Women like a whole cover saga story around it in order to masturbate or have sex. Men don't need a story when a picture paints a thousand words. That's the money shot, the *** shot, for men. Every 6 seconds he thinks about sex is considered healthy and normal. Men are horny a lot more than women. They masturbate and she doesn't as much or to that kind of visual stimulation.
No, it is nothing to worry about. You wouldn't snoop if it really didn't bother you, so he knows it bothers you. It's not nice to leave any kind of sex device on the coffee table.
You can see if he wants a bj but there are a lot of guys who feel awkward about doing that with their wife. You might have to reassure him that you really really want to see it squirt out too. Won't he be surprised. Lots of them like to watch the *** squirt out like that. On the face, butt, boobs, whereever, whenever. He might want to do it like that again a lot so if you are squimish about it, think about it some more.
2007-07-16 01:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kathleen b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...that he's a fairly normal guy.
Now, granted, it would be nice if the two of you could watch some together (my wife and I do), but we also allow each other some private time to pleasure ourselves.
You, see, we don't consider masturbation to be an "inferior" form of sexual pleasure. It's just part of the total pleasure we experience.
Let the man have some privacy and let it be KNOWN that he has it. Don't make him feel guilty about it.
2007-07-16 07:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it embarrass him? My hubby and i are very open about sex. I think to have a healthy sex life you have to be. Maybe he likes that type of thing? Do you let him do that to you? If not, maybe it is something he likes and can't get it from you, so he looks online at it. My hubby also looks at porn and doesn't keep it from me. My ex was very secretive about things, embarrassed and he was a cheater! I am happy to have a man now who isn't afraid to tell me what he likes and wants. don't be afraid to ask. You are married, and you are supposed to be open. Good luck.
2007-07-16 01:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋