What is your opinion on having sex only on weekends?

Question

What is your opinion on having sex only on weekends?
My wife works and tells me its to uncomfortable thru-out the day for her after having sex the night before.
I feel she's just not into it anymore.

Answer 1

she's probably not, she's probably just tired.

Answer 2

OH WOW, I THINK IT'S BULLSH*T!!!!!! THAT'S WHAT I THINK. U REALLY NEED 2 TALK 2 HER CUZ HER EXCUSE IS BULLSH*T 2!!!!!!!!! EITHER SHE NO LONGER FINDS U SEXUALLY INVITING OR SHE'S HAVING SOME TYPE OF MEDICAL ISSUE.

MAYBE SHE'S GOING THRU MENOPAUSE AND HER SEX DRIVE IS EXTREMELY LOW. LOTS OF THINGS COME INTO PLAY. HOW LONG HAVE U BEEN MARRIED? HOW OFTEN R U ASKING 4 SEX? HOW OLD IS SHE? LOTS OF THINGS.

IF U HAVE BEEN MARRIED 4 LOTS OF YEARS, MAYBE THE SEX JUST GOT OLD AND IT'S NOT INTERESTING ANYMORE, SO WHY BOTHER? IF THIS IS THE CASE, THEN BOTH OF U NEED 2 TALK ABOUT IT AND SPICE IT UP!!!!!!!!!! BRING SEX TOYS INTO THE BEDROOM, LOTIONS, OILS, TASTY LUBRICANTS AND STUFF. READ UP AND FIND DIFFERENT INTERESTING THINGS 2 PLEASE EACH OTHER. CUZ U NEED 2 SATISFY HER JUST AS MUCH AS SHE NEEDS 2 SATISFY U.

IF SHE'S 2 OLD OR SHE FEELS 2 OLD THAT COULD BE A BIG ISSUE. MAKE HER FEEL BEAUTIFUL AND LET HER KNOW THAT SHE STILL TURNS U ON!!!!!!! MAKE HER WANT 2 MAKE LOVE. COOK A ROMANTIC DINNER AND TURN ON THE MUSIC, DANCE THE NIGHT AWAY, DRINK WINE OR NOT, AND THEN TAKE THE DANCING INTO THE BEDROOM. AND MAKE LOVE.

THE THING IS U NEED 2 COMMUNICATE, FIND OUT WHAT THE PROBLEM IS AND THEN U CAN POSSIBLY FIX IT. IF SHE'S NO LONGER INTESTED IN U AND HAS SOMEONE ELSE, THEN PRETTY MUCH IT'S OVER. I'M NOT SAYING THIS IS THE CASE, BUT IT SURE COULD BE POSSIBLE. I ONLY HOPE THAT'S NOT THE CASE HERE.

FIND OUT, CUZ UNLESS UR A REALLY BAD PERSON, U SO DON'T DESERVE THAT. U DESERVE THE TRUTH AND SHE OWES THAT 2 U. FIND OUT WHATZ REALLY GOING ON AND THEN U CAN EITHER FIX IT OR WALK AWAY.

AGAIN, I THINK IT'S NOT RIGHT THAT SHE WANTS 2 LIMIT U 2 ONLY HAVING SEX ON THE WEEKENDS. IS THAT ONLY 4 TIMES A MONTH OR IS SHE WILLING 2 DO IT BOTH DAYS? DOES IT INCLUDE FRIDAYS? IS SHE WILLING 2 PUT OUT SEVERAL TIMES A DAY? IT'S JUST NOT RIGHT I THINK. I MEAN IF UR MARRIED THEN UR PARTNER SHOULD TAKE CARE OF U IN ALL SHAPES AND FORMS.

GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT 4 U.

Answer 3

My feeling is that if it works for both partners, sex only on the weekends is perfectly fine. However, I get the sense that you feel as if perhaps you're missing the intimacy you previously had with your wife in this case.

I agree with the assessment of other people that it's very possible that she could just be very tired from working and not up to having sex. If this is the case, then maybe taking on some of the household tasks would help her out and make her feel a bit more in the mood. At least she'd have a little more energy to expend. She would probably also appreciate the extra attention, if nothing else, and feel more favorable towards the idea of sex. Sometimes in the day-to-day, sex gets lower on the list, because there's just so much to do, and when she sees you putting the extra energy and attention towards her, she will see how important you and the relationship are to her.

It is also very possible that it is as she says, that she's uncomfortable after having sex. If it's the "after-flow" so to speak, perhaps you could have sex earlier in the evening, and then she could have a nice gentle bath afterwards to clean up. If you're not too tired yourself, you could join her (if your tub is large enough), or shower together, and then cuddle together in bed after the bath or shower. That would deal with the clean up issue, and still maintain the feeling of loving and intimacy.

Talk with her and see if either of those would be workable for her. If you make it clear that it's the loving and intimacy that you crave and not just the sex act, I think she will not feel put upon.

Answer 4

there is nothing wrong with weekend sex! If you both work all day and have kids that you have to feed, and bathe and clean up after, then there are the chores that have to be done you wouldn't exactly be in the mood on weekdays either. Besides on the weekends you don't feel rushed, like your on a time schedule and have to be done by a certain time. You have time to enjoy one another, of course a little during the week is always nice but noone should feel guilty for wanting to skip a night, besides there are other things you can do besides actual intercourse that are just as fun!

Answer 5

if she asks you that is kind of weird.. there are many moments to do it when you love someone. Planning it seems rather impersonal and stiff... sex is something you do when you feel like, not anything you schedule. On the other hand saying that it feels uncomfortable the day after is kind of a lie... it's a perfect exercise and even your skin looks great, you feel happier.. if she feels uncomfortable maybe it hurts when you do it, that would be another answer.

Probably she has some sort of problem with it, figure out what it is, maybe she's not as sexual as other girls, in which case you guys should talk and clear things up... probably if you talk about it, she can tell you what you are doing wrong or what she feels about sex that she can't control and doesn't let her enjoy it as much... or.. the scariest one.. she has someone else...

Answer 6

That sounds crazy to me, sex only on the weekends would suck, you'd think she'd want sex to help her relax and not stress out as much at work the next day, from a womans point of view, sounds like she just doesn't want to have sex as much anymore....talk to her and try and find the real reason, ask her what you'd like her to do to make it more enjoyable for her during the week or more comfteable, but to me it sounds like she's making up excuses to have it less and that's sad....she needs to open up and talk to you about the real reason behind it, all you can do it talk and talk somemore and hope she'll tell you how she's really feeling.

Answer 7

ok whoa cowboy, what are ya doing to her that shes so sore the next day? lol

ok 2 things to think about here :)
if its making her uncomfortable physically, then you have to be understanding, and maybe be a little concerned, maybe its something she should talk to her doctor about. That should be your first concern. Women have alotta plumbing goin on down there and sometimes we get problems we're too shy or worried about to tell ya, so go easy with her.



and secondly, if its really because shes not into it anymore, maybe that's because it's become too much of a routine for her. (i been there lol) Maybe its her feeling you're too persistant in wanting it too. Either way, give her some time and think about being a little more creative in the bedroom the next time you both 'in the mood'. Maybe treat her to a night out, do something she wouldnt normally expect you to do just for her. That really makes us girls feel special, and when we feel special, trust me you'll feel the effects of that, IF ya know what i mean lol

But talk to her about why its uncomfortable and try to understand or atlest be there for her no matter what the reason is. She'll appreciate that the most.

Answer 8

If I were you I'd try spicing up the sex a bit. She could just be getting bored. Change things up and be different in a better way. Try the sex only on weekends and if you change nd she likes it, she'll be begging for more than just on weekends. Good luck!

Answer 9

It's fine to have sex only on weekends.

When someone works they are too stressed out and tired to have sex. Weekends are for relaxing (including sex). A lot of working couples have sex only on weekends.

She IS into it. You're just not being very understanding.

Answer 10

I think I understand what she means. Do you use a condom? If not your *stuff* can shoot up high in her lady parts...4 me sometimes it drizzels out during the day and thats nasty. I have 2 toddlers I am home with, plus cleaning, running errands and taking care of the pets just exhausts me and I am really not in the mood at all. So many things can make her feel *eww* and not want to do it. Your married this is what happens. Liven things up! Bring her flowers, buy her trinkets, take her out on a date. maybe she just feels fat and not pretty anymore. This is YOUR marriage. I can rattle off a number of things that *could* be the problem and not actually be anywhere close to a solution. You need to sit her down and ask her whats up. DOnt say hey wanna F***? and then go on how she never puts out. You need to have a REAL conversation with her instead of asking the morons to help with your problems

Answer 11

Hmmmm.... sounds funny to me, especially if this being "uncomfortable" just started.
Woman can have sex, use the washroom (push mostly all of it out) clean with a cloth, shower or bath and use either a tampon or mini pad to absorb what, might leak later. Generally that's how it goes. Other than perhaps a leak, I don't understand the "uncomfortableness"... obviously if you were being rough and it was making your sex life bad, you'd change that...
Sounds like something else has gone awry and this is just part of the bigger picture.