Okay I know you will think this is kinda slutty... My ex and I were still dating and we broke up. I didn't think I was pregnant in the beginning but now I am really thinking that I am... My boyfriend at the moment does not want a girlfriend with a child. I do not know what to tell him without him getting upset and leaving me... In the beginning of our relationship I told him that it was possible. But then we stopped talking about it and now I am freaking because I have missed 2 months and I have been having different symptoms of someone who is pregnant. I have talked to everyone I know That I was but I do not want to him to leave me. I hurt thinking about it and knowing that he will leave me.
2007-07-15 16:33:17 · 30 answers · asked by Lind-z 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I live with my Christian grandparents and aunt...My mom doesn't know my brother doesn't either but my sister does. I want to do it in a way that no one yells at me or gets really mad.
2007-07-15 16:35:33 · update #1
Darlin, that man is not worth your time. If you are pregnant then you are a package deal. You do not want anyone who will not love you and your baby. If he was worth anything at all then he would. The question is have you told the possible father? You also need to tell your family, because you will need their support. You need to pray about what you need to do, weither or not to keep the baby. There are alot of couples out there that would love to give your baby a home.
2007-07-23 11:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by thismomisgreat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost get a home pregnancy test and take it. This will dispell any drama and give you a better focus on the path that you will take. If it comes up negitive, well, there ya go, and you should probably get some sort of birth control established if you are going to be sexually active. If it comes up positive, well you have tons of options, first of all, try and not to worry about what your current boyfriend thinks ~ I really do know the pain of the heart in such matters, but alas,if you are, you just cannot worry about if he will leave or not, in fact, if he will not step up, then believe me, ya don't need that...not now, not anytime. I am sure that telling your family will be a challenge, but family is family and yea, they may be all upset for a minute, but that is human nature and they are entitled to emotion and truth. If they know the love of Christ, then they know how to love. Ya might want to let your ex in on the situation, for he would have every right to know as well. I Know that this is a hard time for you right now, but from the way it sounds, you are young and pretty much surrounded by people that care. In that arena you are blessed. Just take a deep breath and buckle up, you can do it. ~~~ Blessings~~~
2007-07-23 21:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by TWO RAVENS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have to take responsibility for our own actions so put up your hand and accept what has happened, don't panic because if your family are true christians, then they will forgive you and welcome the new addition to the family but if not I'm sure you'll love your child anyway. If the child is not your boyfriends and he doesn't want to stand by you, don't you think your child is more important than a maybe relationship? Stand the right dad up at the plate to bat for you. You've only been dating this guy for 2 months, Im sure there will be someone better for you down the track. Friends and family are always there, the rest will follow.
2007-07-23 23:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by stumpstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to be tested immediately. If you are pregant, you and your baby need proper prenatal care. You should also buy some generic prenatal vitamins when you buy a home pregnancy test. It is important to get the essential vitamins and nutrients while pregnant.
Then you to sit down with your family and tell them. I know it will be hard. Believe me, I know. However, your family should be there to support you. If they start yelling, leave for a while. Stress is bad on both you and baby. It sounds like you are stressing enough already.
Then you should tell your ex-boyfriend. Even if the two of you have no desire to reconcile, he should know that you are pregnant with his child. It is important for you to tell him immediately and not wait until after the baby is born.
After you tell him, you should tell your current boyfriend. If he runs for the hills, so be it. He's not worth looking at.
Refraining from sex for a while probably wouldn't be a bad idea either--until you have found "the one." It is dangerous to go from partner to partner. This is how STDs are contracted.
Good luck to you! Just remember to be strong. The faster you get this secret off your chest, the quicker you'll feel better.
2007-07-23 20:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by mjh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if you are pregnant. If not, no problem. If you are, tell your ex first. Then tell everyone else. It's not something you can hide. Your boyfriend has already told you he does not want a child ,so it's not fair for you to expect him to. He made that plain to you for a reason. Two months of dating someone is not enough time to expect that your relationship is strong enough to handle this type of situation. You sound very immature. Why are you living with your grandparents? You should be old enough to be on your own before you get yourself in such a predicament. You labeled yourself.
2007-07-23 18:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by Morningstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to your ex? He is the one that got you pregnant.
And why are you so concerned about being with a man that one, you've only been casually dating a couple months, and two, flat out told you he isn't interested in fathering another man's baby? You do realize that most men don't want to be with a woman that's pregnant by someone else, right? Especially since you two don't have a long dating history together.
You need to go to the grocery store and buy yourself a home pregnancy test. That would definitely be step one. From there, you need to tell your ex, because he will forever be part of your life, regardless if your new bf stays with you or not.
2007-07-15 23:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You can't win in this situation. What ever you do someone is going to get hurt. The very first thing you need to do though is take a pregnancy test and find out if in fact you are pregnant. My SIL missed her period for almost 3 months but it was just stress, so there is a chance that your not pregnant. If the test is positive then you need to decided if your going to keep the baby. If you decide that you are then you need to sit everyone down and tell them. There is no hiding a pregnancy once you start to show.
2007-07-23 20:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i want to tell you the truth but its not pretty....... First off, you shouldnt have been having sex if you werent married, but you did, so now you will pay for the consecuences. These include your family being upset, and probably loosing your bf. Just because he doesnt take you with your baby doesnt mean he is not a man. You have to understand a baby is a big responsibility. But he might stay with you, you never know. If he does leave you, then you cant hang on to him, now you have to care for your baby. There are men out there who will take you with your child, but not alot of them. Im sorry to be telling you this, but everything we do in this world has consecuences. About your fam, dont worry, they love you. They will be upset at first, but with time, they will become your greatest allies. You made a mistake, now the fall is going to hurt, but get back up. Its gonna be hard, but you can do it.
2007-07-23 20:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by firekiller 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I think you have bigger concernes if you are pregnant like caring for the child. I understand you care for this new BF but if he won't stick by you then he doesn't care that much for you. I can relate to him also because a child is a HUGE responsibility.
First thing to do is find out if you are pregnant or not then worry about telling everyone. You are getting all stressed when you aren't even sure.
Good luck
2007-07-23 02:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by anjelahoy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he knew that it was a possibility in the beginning then if he's worth n e thing, he'll stay. if he leaves, trust me you're better off w/o him. the first time i got pregnant it was by a married man that i'd been seeing for about a year. my family is very christian and i straight up told them and you know what, they excepted it because their was nothing else they could do. they love me and my 3 kids (all by different men) no different then they used to. if your family is realy christian they'll forgive you and love you and support you. they don't have to support your decision but they should support you. also take a test and then you wont have to worry n e more
2007-07-23 20:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋