MY HUSBAND IS IN JAIL AND ACCUSING ME OF THE WORST. I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING TO HIM OR OUR RALATIONSHIP I HAVE DONE EVERY THING TO PROVE THAT I AM HIS AND HE STILL DOES'ENT BELIEVE ME I HAD OUR CHILDREN TO PROVE THAT TO HIM ALL HIS NEEDS ARE MET. O AM SO FED UP WITH HIS BEING JEALOUS IM THINKING OF FINISHING IT ALL WHAT DO YOU MY FRIENDS THINK? AND NO BAD COMMENTS!THANK.
2007-07-15 16:25:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop worrying about HIS needs. HE needs to make something of his life. And you need to make a life for yourself and your children. The best of Luck to you!
2007-07-15 16:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
U have a lot to consider, especially since U have children! Ur husband has something going on and that includes that he is in jail right now!! Do U want Ur kids to have that kind of example growing up? Does Ur husband want that kind of lifestyle Ur kids growing up in?
Doesn't seem like there is any communication between U and Ur husband....or someone isn't listening to the other....
Maybe seek counseling, U, Ur husband, maybe even Ur children!
If U are seriously considering finishing the relationship U have to be firm and not give in...U have children to set a Good example for...
Hope everything works out for the best!!
Good Luck!
2007-07-16 00:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just angry that he's in jail and he's scared that your doing something, sounds normal, i know you've never cheated or done anything wrong but if you were in his shoes you'd probably be wondering also what he's been doing while your away, sounds like you need to have a good old fashion talk with him and tell him how your feeling, ask him why he feels this way. communication is the key to a healthy relationship, hopefully you can get him to understand his jelousy is is making him upset, but it should be no reason to just throw it all away, i wouldn't leave him becasue of it, when he gets out and yall are together again and you talk about it and spend time together maybe he will stop it....i wish you the best
2007-07-15 23:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? If you do and you just want him to stop being jealous, I suggest you have a serious talk ... Try carefully to relate to his insecurity and explain that you understand it, and then explain that trust is respect and it's essential to a marriage, and tell him you will consider the marriage a failure if he can't manage to have faith in you. If you don't love him and honestly would rather just be free of his possessiveness, I think you should tell him that you understand his insecurity and have done all you can to ease it, and that you do consider the marriage a failure, and hand him the papers. Same as you ought to do if he were not in jail -- I think you should really try not to take advantage of his confinement in any way, and try also to show consideration of his misery, even though you are exhausted by his paranoia.
2007-07-15 23:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by zilmag 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is... if there is no trust in a relationship, then there IS no relationship. You are just sharing the same house, and in your case you aren't even sharing the same house.
You need to decide what is best for your kids and then think about yourself... then worry about him.
The Best Interest of your children should ALWAYS be your "Guiding Light" in life.
2007-07-16 00:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by eric_the_red_101 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, your husband is in jail, and you are seemingly yelling at us, and you want no bad comments? you are going to get them. you had children with this man just to prove that his needs were being met? that is the dumbest reason i ever heard! you need to leave this guy ASAP. the minute he got put in jail you should have packed yourself up and walked out.
2007-07-15 23:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to get some counseling while he is incarcerated. Tell him the only thing that could possibly make you leave him is his insane jealousy and it is driving you away. If he won't deal with his jealousy you don't have to, either. Know what I mean??
2007-07-15 23:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by DPL06351 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
soooo, what is he accusing you of? What is he in jail for ... a felony?
If it is a trust thing...are you doing anything to make yourself untrustworthy OR has he done something that makes him assume you've done it too?
2007-07-15 23:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by makinitthru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds psychotic. You should demand that he regularly attend counseling BEFORE allowing him back into the house. You sould attend some/all of the counseling sessions with him.
2007-07-15 23:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋