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i have a BF that i should'nt have. My parents belive in arranged marriages. i love him dearly....me 13 yrs old

whats ur opinions about these horrid arrangements?!

2007-07-15 16:23:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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this is a very general question but i think that you will go for arrange marriage of your choice. like if your parents have any option then you have that kind of daring to show that you should also reject him but if you think that he may be the right person for you then you will please accept him. and you will talk to him frankly and share your future plans with him frankly.
you will have to judge him but i m sorry to advice you that you think upon this topic very soon. friendship is good but don't think about marriage at this age.

2007-07-16 01:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by ashutosh c 1 · 0 0

I know a few pals who are doing organize marriages. Despite the fact that I think you would love virtually any person; love and marriage is not some thing i'd entrust on any individual else, I consider marriage is some thing that will have to evolve from an headquartered relationship. Nonetheless, I do comprehend of a couple of men and women who are fortunately married by means of prepare marriages; but it surely's no longer for me.

2016-08-04 05:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

If you are in the UNITED STATES, your parents should be living their lives as US CITIZENS and not forcing the culture of their former country on you ESPECIALLY if you were BORN in the USA.... IF, however, you are from another country and the tradition in that country IS arranged marriages, then I guess you have to abide like your ancestors before you in the arranged marriage.. I wouldn't make waves yet as you are only 13 and unless they plan on marrying you off in the next year or two, you have NOTHING to worry about YET....

2007-07-15 16:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0 0

First of all you're too young to be thinking about marriage, and no i don't believe that arranged marriages have a thing of working out. Maybe like only 25% of the time, but it's rare.

2007-07-15 16:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think a person should decide on who they should marry. You can't force love. You should find the person who you were destined to be with. The one you know from the first time you lay your eyes on, that it's the person you were meant to be with. Not somebody who your family thinks is good for you and will be a great husband because he has money and will make sure you a financially set. Without struggle and controversy with someone you truly love then you have nothing more than a piece of paper stating that you are husband and wife. You should always follow your heart no matter what someone tells you. Only your heart can tell you what you truely desire.

2007-07-15 16:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anna S 2 · 0 0

You're only 13.You'll have lots more boyfriends before you're ready to settle down and worry about this.
However,I think arranged marriages are a bad thing and should be abolished.I feel they should be a thing of the past no matter where you live.

2007-07-15 16:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1 0

I say arranged marriages are wrong, people should be able to pick their own partners, but that is tradition in some countries and we have no power over that, if a mutual loving relationship comes out of it that a good thing

2007-07-15 16:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by justin h 3 · 1 0

although i did have a boyfriend at that age..
to look back now it was so silly and lost out on a lot of years just growing up with my friends... at your age you shouldnt be really worried about this kind of stuff unless your parents are arranging yourself to be married
if that is your religion than this must be done.. but in my opinion arranged marriages are cruel and do not give people a chance to find love themselves.

2007-07-15 16:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think that they are funny and usually work out nicely. Though your parents need to realize that you are growing up in a different culture and they will not be able to impose their own culture on you.

Though uh... 13 is a little young for a bf. I'd wait until 16 if I were you, anything before that is really pointless.

2007-07-15 16:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Red 2 · 0 0

An arranged marriage is a way in and a way out...
What is more important is what is most important in Ur life?

2007-07-15 16:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 0 0

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