I work out of town a lot. All of the time. My wife has never complained about it and wwas always okay with it. I have just gotten some info that she has been cheating on me. She admitted it. Should I even the score?
2007-07-15 16:00:00 · 26 answers · asked by jalwells 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes.
You spend all this time away from home and keep faithful, just to come home and find out that she isnt.
Hope you arent supporting her financially, otherwise shes been getting away with it and getting your $$$.
Even the score and then get a new woman.
2007-07-15 17:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Revenge is a dish better served cold honey. If you do it now, she's expecting it and then what? You've both scraped the bottom of the barrel when it comes to morals and you've become just as shallow and untrust worthy as she has. If you want honesty, and you aren't too hurt by what she's done....play on it. Guilt does crazy things to people. Get in a few more games of golf. Enjoy a few nights out with the buddies, anything and everything to keep her wondering. Then, throw in a few "how could you" every so often and she'll be cooking your dinner and bending over backwards to make it up to you.
Or you can just take the high road and divorce her. If you job status hasn't changed, and you are still going to be on the road, she'll probably cheat again. So kick her to the curb, leave her with nothing but her clothes and find some new honey who has a little more respect for you.
2007-07-15 16:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That only makes things worse. What you need to do is decide if you want to work it out with her or not. Leave or turn your relationship back into a loving trusing one. STaying in a relationship and getting revenge means you plan on it getting worse and worse. Plus, poor girl you sleep with is being used and you've just brought in a chance for diseases. 2 rights don't make a wrong. You won't feel better by doing that either.
2007-07-15 16:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you feel better? really?
Will it help your relationship?
How does she feel about herself, after that?
Admiting it can be a way of saying "I am sorry" or does she mean " So what...?"
What would you gain?
Revenge is sweet, only if you have no intention of sharing anything with her again. Is that what you want?
Or, is it just your injured pride?
Don´t try and find out more than you need. If it hurts, you will start working on your fantasies and blow something meaningless out of proportion.
Just try and talk it over, and admit your hurt, and she her mistake, and get together to help each other feel better. Then, never mention the subject again. Bury it.
Good luck.
2007-07-15 16:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by tango bailado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge....... and this is an old cliche' but its true........... is to live well. Cheating on your wife won't make you feel better in the long run.
To me, cheating is one of the only deal breakers for a marriage. There's very little chance of coming back from a cheating spouse. Not to be terribly pessimistic, but divorcing and moving on with your life... and having a good life at that.... is the best for you.
2007-07-15 16:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it won't make you feel better. First decide what you want now. Do you want to make it work or do you want to move on. She admitted it - has she ended it? Counseling and honesty are what is needed here. Marriages can survive infeidelity but it is hard work. Your wife must end the affair and be ready to take a lot of heat from you for how much damage she did. She will have to be willing to say she is sorry for as many times as you want to hear it. So, take a moment and look into your heart and decide what you want from your life.
2007-07-15 16:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by geminijeanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...that will not accomplish a thing. You need to sit down with her and find out if the marriage is salvageable. If she has had more than 1 affair, then if it were me I would seek a divorce. If she is not remorseful about the affair, then again I would seek a divorce. but having an affair to get her back....no, be the adult here.....you need to talk, and find out why she did it, how long, how many, and then you decide what you want to do......it is very easy to forgive such an act.....but you will never forget it, and you will always think about it every time you are intimate with her.
2007-07-15 16:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the marriage is over, you are more into striking back than into saving the marriage. It is not a cause of even the score, but a cause of adding fuel to the fire.
Consider contacting a divorce lawyer and moving on, then you can still be a honorable person and score as often as you want.
Its your life and your choice, just remember there is often a high price to pay for our choices.
I can never forget one of the things my great grandmother(a full blood Native American)taught all of us--Be careful who you have sex with, because your soul mixes with the sex partner, if they are a bad person, some of their bad will replace your good, and they will get some of your good in return.
2007-07-15 16:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! If you are not happy, either get counseling with her and see if the problem can be solved, or get a divorce. Revenge will not make you feel better, two wrongs DO NOT make a right!
2007-07-15 16:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoop down to her level. Two wrongs don't make a right.
And cheating on her for revenge will not help you to feel any better.
2007-07-15 16:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋