Is it rightm for your husband to turn the checkbook over to his Mom and let you ask for money from her?

Answer 1

That is a big red flag and no it isn't right. I would take it back from her and if he didn't like it, then he would decide who he was married too.

Answer 2

That would really really really irritate me. However, how do you handle money? If you spend way more than you earn and are not being responsible with the money then I'm sorry but I do see his point. Maybe his mom is really good with money and he knows that she will make sure the bills are getting paid and the money is not being spent frivolously. There must have been some kind of problem for him to resort to this extreme behavior? Do you have a job? If so, then you do have a say in this too. If not, go out and get one and show him that you can be responsible and do your fair share. I once dated a man that was divorced and the reason he was divorced was because his wife never worked and he worked 7 days a week, then she would get into his wallet and take money out without telling him and go out shopping and wanted to live way beyond what he could provide. After a few years of her taking such gross advantage of him he had enough and divorced her. I don't blame him for that. After they divorced she had to get a job and actually got caught embezzeling money from her employer. I am not saying that you would do that but I am saying is you didn't give us enough information to give you a fair assessment of this situation. I know that if I was not good at handling money and my husband wasn't either then I would resort to doing whatever it took to get myslf out of debt and on the right path. Who in their right mind would want to work every day and never have anything to show for it? I know I wouldn't. So if you can't manage money then I guess you should be thankful that his mother can but I would NEVER,NEVER want my mother in law to know I was irresponsible and had to depend on her for anything.

Answer 3

It depends- how do you feel about it? You know if you and your husband are really bad with money and you've tried and you found you just aren't capable then it takes a big person to have an outsider interveen. Its a little sticky that its his mother because I wouldn't want my mother-n-law to know everything I wanted to spend money on (like sex toys or something) and you don't want your husband to be totally dependent on his parents forever. But if you can't afford an accountant and she is good with money and you are indepenedent in every other way it was a tough choice that I commend you for.

On the flip side if you are not comfortable in anyway with the arrangement don't let it continue. It can tear apart your marriage and your relationship with your in-laws. You have to be ok with your mother-n-law having so much control. Every family is different. You have to do what's best for yours.

Answer 4

NO, but you may want to question his motives. Is there a money issue that should be addressed?

It sounds like he or you have lost control of the household budget and he is using his mom to bring things under control.

Answer 5

No it isn't right at all. You are his wife and you shouldn't be lowered to asking his mom for money out of his account. He needs to grow up and stop being a momma's boy from the sound of it.

Answer 6

H*LL NO.....IF this going to happen, then you need to stop putting your money in the bank account, and set up your own.....is he not responsible enough to keep the check book himself......apparently he is still a mama's boy, and can't handle paying the bills himself.....If I were you, I would set up my own account.

Answer 7

Tell him to stop pissing away $ and pull up his drawers and be a man!!!

Answer 8

No. His mom does not have a say in your finances.

Answer 9

NO! Sounds like he has more of a marriage with her than you.....

Answer 10

100% no. And almost creepy.