MY MARRIAGE ENDED UNEXPECTEDLY,HE WAS DOING DIRT THAT HE WOULD NOT ADMIT TO AND OUR PASTOR HAD TO TELL ME EVERTHING, HOW DO I HANDLE BEING LEFT WITH ALL THE EXSPENCES AND EVERTHING ON MY OWN,I REALLY ALSO WANT TO KNOW HOW TO GET THIS S.O.B BACK FOR ALL THE HURT. THE ONLY GOOD THING THAT CAME FROM THE RELATIONSHIP IS OUR TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN.
2007-07-15 15:44:25 · 7 answers · asked by MissLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you go to court the judge should make him help pay the bills. You will also get child support, which I know isn't enough to raise children on, but look at it like this at least now your free of his ways and can start over. It isn't easy but it can be done. Take one day at a time.
2007-07-15 16:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are hurt and want to get even with your ex. The best and most effective way to get revenge on your ex is to live your life like he did you a favor by leaving. Be happy, be outgoing, focus on your health and happiness and that of your children. Be the best mom you can be to your kids-don't bad mouth their dad (they know or will know someday what a louse he really was and then form their own opinion).
Get a new hairstyle; get some exercise; eat healthy; seek some counseling; if you need to take antidepressants, do so if they will help your well being. Let your kids know that life isn't fair, but you go ahead. "What doesn't destroy you will only make you stronger". It's true.
Don't fight with your ex; don't beg him to take you back; don't take him back even if he wants to come back (more than likely he will want to if he sees you doing well); don't have any un necessary contact with him.
If you need to, talk to an attorney about filing for bankruptcy for the bills. If you know there's no hope in paying them off-just go ahead and file and get it over with.
Sorry this happened to you. I wish you lots of luck. You've got a long road ahead of you, but you can do it.
2007-07-15 16:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your situtation and believe me I know how much it hurts and how much you want to get him back for what he did but try to focus on the good in your life, your kids and whatever other good friends and family you have. You can make a determination to make it financially. decide what you can cut back on and get a job, if you already have a job, you may need to get two. I did. But spending your energy thinking about getting him back will just sap you drain you from being able to pick up the pieces.; The best revenge you can have on him is to end up happy with a good life and most likely he will be miserable. Believe me this is true. I wish only the best for you and keep the faith. God helps those who help themselves..
2007-07-15 15:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to let him see his kids...no matter how much of an SOB he was to you...(unless he hurt you or the kids)...that is first.
The best revenge you can have is by living your life extremely well. You can start doing that by going to individual counseling to sort out your feelings/vent to a party that won't judge you. It will also make you stronger and keep you from taking baggage into your next relationship. This is how you can get healthy again.
Your ex-husband will get his without any interference by you. What comes around goes around. That energy he put out will find him...
Live your life well!!
2007-07-15 15:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by makinitthru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well and being happy.
Lean on your friends for support, take it one day at a time.
2007-07-15 15:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get over him...thats the very best payback. live life and be happy. he wont, show him that you CAN live with out him. oh and, (yes, you can!!)
2007-07-15 15:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be hella happy around him
and dont let him know how mad u r
b strong for u n the kiddies
2007-07-15 17:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by ez-goin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋