I have been married for 5yr But latly some thing has happend I have a friend I that has become a party of my life I think there are felling he married to But I do not want to hurt my husband but Monday is my birth day but he asked me out for lunch my hubby said I can go but he not sure if he like it that much . I guess I am not sure I am confused I know how he feel and I feel about him . What would you all do Please I am confuse
2007-07-15 15:21:17 · 13 answers · asked by mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks all that what my heart was telling me but I need to hear it from some that I did not know thanks again I do love my husband I just was wondering if the grass was greener but who cares at this point . ty all again
2007-07-15 15:28:17 · update #1
You promised to be faithful to your husband when you married him. If this other guy is causing you to feel tempted/confused or you are developing feelings for him, you need to cut him out of your life 100%. Otherwise you are already cheating on your husband emotionally, & it will lead to physically cheating. Doesn't your word mean something to you?
2007-07-15 15:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ottergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you're entering deep waters by being friends with this other guy. You're just opening up a door that you may not be able to close later. If you, or this guy, can't handle the feelings or whatever you have in a mature way, then it's best you not see each other anymore. You don't want to put your self in the position of being tempted to do anything you'll regret. On the other hand, I think you probably need to step back and do a little thinking. If you're having feelings for someone else, what does that say about your marriage? That would tell me something. At least you need to evaluate your marriage, and ask yourself how you feel about your husband, and if you truly love him. You owe at least that much to your husband. And if you do realize that you don't love him as much as you think you did, handle it respectfully. Talk to him about it, talk about working on the relationship, talk about divorce if nothing works. But do not have any sort of relationship with this other guy until that divorce is final. Cheating will only make your husband feel like crap, and also, should make you feel bad too, if you've got any morales. That other guy isn't going anywhere, and he and you can wait until you've each got your lives straight.
p.s. Why wouldn't you want to spend your birthday with your husband. I know my husband would be hurt if I did that. We always spend our birthdays together. That's a really special day for most people, and it should be shared with the ones you love.
2007-07-15 22:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by garciajennifer@att.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is somthing that will hunt you for a long time if you were to go out with an other man. First your hubby may not ever let you forget about the time if you stayed with him, and or the other man may not respect you and could use you as a trophy of some kind, by him being able to get between you and your husband. You already have five years with one man, and now it will be like you wanting your cake and want to eat it to. I'd be carfull if I were you, feelings and love are things that could get you into a lot of unwanted trouble if you were to cross them.
2007-07-15 22:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go to lunch with him. It's a date, and you're both married. What you're doing is wrong.
If you're tired of your relationship, get a separation and try dating then, but don't drag your husband along for the ride. If you still love him at all, which you obviously do, you don't want to hurt him.
What your doing will inevitably hurt him, though. Think carefully before you put your faith in someone who's also playing a game with you. There's no guarantee this other man will devote himself to you like your husband does, especially because he's proving to your face and for your benefit that he has fidelity issues.
So my advice? Spend your big day with somebody who actually loves you. Lust isn't worth loss.
2007-07-15 22:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bellicosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, happy birthday.
Now, let's analyze the situation:
you have a husband, and a (boy) friend.
now you're having feelings (a translation of LOVE) about that guy... let's make it simple... you have tendency to cheat over your husband. :) being honest, I would never live a single day with u again, if u do cheat on me!
now the solution: Explain the friend guy that u have a husband, and quit the playing role! you both are married! remember that! just forget him... your husband may break :) he needs u
best of luck.
2007-07-15 22:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't know because right now I'm dating a 16 year old boy named Eric and he i think after 4 months then he will ask me the question every girl wants to hear will you marry me
2007-07-15 22:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by babe12461993 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like trouble to me. Although lunch is innocent there are still those feelings between you. Be fair to your husband and dont go.
2007-07-15 22:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very common to feel something for someone when ur married.
its human to want some adventure and thrill.
i would suggest you do not go coz u r married. it doesn't matter if this guy is married or not. U R.
2007-07-15 22:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Spark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit seeing the other guy and concentrate on your marriage. Be honorable and respect your husband.
2007-07-15 22:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with that other guy. You have a husband that loves you. Work on your marriage and God Bless!!!
2007-07-15 22:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by j b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋