I was a homosexual?

Question

I lived as a homosexual for eight years. I'm now engaed to be married and have a newborn son. What happened? Does anyone else have a similar story?

Note to Erika. I love my fiance and my son is the greatest thing to happen to me. Marriage has everything to do with love, but it shouldn't affect when you have children. Most of my freinds and family have had children before they were married. And all is well.

I am very happy and feel 'complete' in my relationship.

Answer 1

sure you do

Answer 2

Sure do. but you can't live within two dimensions at the same time unless your partner knows about it and willing to share a sex life with another Bi-sexual. Fathering a child is easy, bringing the child was the hard part. Showing your love and care may be easy too, but leaving and hurting someone is a chaos that will affect a lot into your life. Before you finally get married, make a choice; will you be happy doing it or do you still have the tendency of going back. Try not to hurt anyone "coz it will all come back to you at a later time.

Answer 3

Could it be, that maybe possibly, you were bisexual all along, and that this could be the first time you've fallen in love or even felt attracted to a member of the opposite sex?
There are many men who have been happily married for years and years, and then come out as being gay later on in life. Maybe this was the same but in reverse?
Either way, good luck. As long as YOU are happy, what else matters? Congratulations on the baby and the engagement.

Answer 4

Phil - good luck to you. Personally I think that sexuality is a fluid thing and can change with your 'growth' as a person. I don't see why people feel the need (not that I'm saying you are) to get on the defensive or start making assumptions about what someone is or isn't when they make a decision like yours.
I have a friend who was in a 'committed' relationship with a man for 10 years and then one day he 'fell in love' with a woman, the relationship with the man 'broke down' and he now is married to that woman and happy. He doesn't regret his homosexual past, but he now says he feels complete as a person.
What I'm trying to say is we are who are and as long as you can truly say you're happy what does it matter what route you take to that happiness!

Answer 5

Maybe you are Bi and you have met your perfect match . Does you fiance know about how you lived before , if not discuss . If you already have looks to me that your set for life .
Your main problem will be that your wife to be will get jealous if you look at other men as well as other women !!
Congratulations on the birth of your son , you have found true happiness , enjoy it .

Answer 6

You were never homosexual to begin with.

It is possible you are what is known as a transitional bisexual - a person who makes a "one-way trip" from one sexuality to the other. Transitional bisexuals can pass in either direction and this is what fuels the popular biphobic expression used by some militant homosexuals "bi now gay later" (referring to people who go in the other direction).

Transitional bisexuals don't make bisexuality any less valid. There are bisexuals who spend their whole life being attracted to both genders.

Answer 7

Hi there Phil81, I do believe that you are bisexual. I do not think that it is possible to be gay and then 'change.' Regardless of what gender you have chosen to spend your life with, it is great to hear that you are happy. As long as you are happy, that is the main thing. Congratulations on having a son! I am sure that you will bring him up to be non-judgemental of people. I wish you all the best! :o)

Answer 8

There are only three possibilities to this situation.

1) You were always heterosexual but got yourself involved with those of the same gender and you are now returning to your true heterosexual nature.

2) You were always homosexual and are now perverting your nature.

3) You are a lying religious homophobe attempting to make people believe that gay people can become straight, even though Jesus Himself said that homosexuals are BORN that way and exempted them from male/female marriage.

A homosexual is not a perverted heterosexual. You are one or the other. A heterosexual who pervertedly has sex with the same gender or a homosexual who pervertedly has sex with the opposite gender is engaging in that which is unnatural for them and it is referred to as bisexual acts, which are forbidden by Leviticus and Romans. If you are actually homosexual and you are marrying a woman because you are trying to make yourself heterosexual, you are dooming both yourself and your poor wife. She will NEVER have your whole heart and one day your natural homosexual identity will rebel against the deceit. And should you have children, you will do even worse damage to them. I suggest you do a serious self psycho-analysis to determine who you really are, because you are about to mess with a lot of lives, starting with your own.

-Rev. Jim Cunningham
GayChristianSurvivors.com

Answer 9

Yes, my stepdaughter was a lesbian for 6 years, now she's engaged to be married.

Congratulations! I hove no doubt you will be happier now, living a life that is more fulfilling.

It's a shame that you will be a pariah in the gay community because you committed the ultimate act of heresy, choosing not to be gay. This ruins the political mantra of the agenda that gay is a genetic condition.

Answer 10

Phil, if you WERE homosexual, if that orientation was shaped in your genes and in your mind, you are STILL homosexual. You may deny it, you may torture yourself and marry and bring life into the world, but your sexuality does not change on a whim. It doesn't answer to a snap of the fingers. I'll do my best to be honest with you, Phil. If you were gay for eight years, you will be gay across your whole span on this little blue rock. Human nature is human nature. But be well, lad, and be kind to the woman who is to be your wife and always to the baby.

Answer 11

Yes I lived as a heterosexual for the first 20 years of my life, married, one son and then I saw the light and haven't looked back.
Despite what the bible-punching fanatics will want you to believe, this is just one of life's little mysteries.
Although my sexuality is now set, you need to be aware that yours may revert.