my fiance and i decided to cancel/postpone our august 4, 2007 wedding. we're still together and in the process of working on our relationship.
i was told the according to proper ettiquette, we should return our shower gifts. we in the process of writing our thank you cards for our guests but also want to add on the thank you card that since our wedding is no longer taking place(for the time being), we want to guest to know they have the option for us to return their gift.
we neeeeeed help on how should we word this!!!!
HELP!!
2007-07-15 14:37:23 · 6 answers · asked by Shrimpboat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, you have to decide if you are cancelling, or postponing. If you are cancelling, you must return all the gifts. If there's even a chance, you should return all the gifts.
If you're only postponing:
"Thank you very much for the (item name here) that you gave us at the wedding shower. At this time however our wedding arrangements have changed and we are not sure when it will be rescheduled. We feel it is only fair to offer to return your gift if you feel it would be appropriate. If you would like us to return the (item name here) please get in touch with us to make arrangements."
If you're cancelling, just leave out the maybes and the bit about rescheduling and say your wedding plans have been cancelled and due to the current state of your relationship don't feel comfortable accepting a wedding gift.
Good luck to you with your relationship.
2007-07-15 14:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make it an "option" on the thank you card. I would just automatically return the gift. Unless you have a wedding date in mind and it is not far from the original date, then I would say you automatically have an obligation to return the gifts no questions asked.
2007-07-15 14:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation. I don't know about ettiquette but I would feel wierd getting a gift that I gave back to me , but then again, if you didn't offer I would be angry. So maybe when you write people, tell them that is is postponed and you would like to return the gift and tell them to "save" it for you. In a cutesy kinda way.
Example:
We are sorry to announce the postponement of our wedding, thank you for your generous gift but we don't feel right keeping it. Please hold it for us as we work out the details, thank you again.
2007-07-15 14:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Notorious LJo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something like, " due to a postponement of uncertain length to our wedding we would appreciate a call regarding your lovely gifts you gave to us"... or.....something else?
2007-07-15 14:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by raisedbycoyotes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just send a note saying thanks for you walmart cheap gift didn't like it anyway. Next time just send cash instead lol
2007-07-15 14:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by James M 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
rohak said it best!
2007-07-15 14:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋