when you asked her to marry you how long before you told any one.. my bf asked me.. it has been a month when i ask him last wk why he has not told any one he say he has not had time..but he calls his parents everyday even though they live 10 min away and tells them about work.. and he has not mention it to his twin brother.. should red flags be flying.. because they are at the moment.. so i am thinking of telling him we need to stay gf and bf.. he did the same to his ex.. they never knew they were once engange.. and they had 2 kids together
2007-07-15 14:24:22 · 19 answers · asked by vis 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
their twin but furtneal.. so they dont look alike
2007-07-15 14:33:05 · update #1
I see more red flags than a Russian May Day parade..
2007-07-15 14:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We called both of our parents together within ten minutes of our accepting.
I never like describing anything on Yahoo Answers as a red flag because we only read one side of the story and nobody knows each other. That said, I do find your boyfriend/fiancee's behavior curious. Next time you are spending time together and he says he doesn't have time, tell him how about right now.
2007-07-15 21:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Matt G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flags should go up. My best friend is getting married and he didn't tell anyone except his guy friends for like a year. He did it because he still messed with alot of his old booty calls and he didn't want them to know and the less people he told, the less people that knew and word wouldn't get around. I would tell him you want to wait. He isn't dying to get married anyway, believe that and you should check out what shady stuff he is doing when you get a chance.
2007-07-15 21:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by big stan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definatly red flag it.... If a man loves you and has heartfully proposed cause he wanted to, both of you would have spread the news ASAP, and parents would be the first people told.
It sounds suss, I'd remain as bf and gf. I really think you should start looking in other avenues, He doesnt sound serious about you
2007-07-15 21:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by 1 kidlet & due in 9 weeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, red flag! Red flag!
My ex-husband, key word being EX - put up a red flag that I stupidly ignored. He proposed (in a suprise - we never talked about marriage before the proposal) He proposed to me in front of our families and friends and forgot to say he even loved me until after the fact when I asked him if he loved me. He said, yeh, sure.
Well, what a sucky marriage of 9 yrs that was! If you have red flags - be ware and be careful. Don't rush in!
2007-07-15 21:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAGS HONEY! Something is wrong here. Either he can't stand up to any negative feedback from his parents or something else is going on big time. Leave him, it will never be the same if you take a few steps back.
2007-07-15 21:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by angels_eyez2012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I enjoyed picking up thje bottom jaws as they hit the floor when I anounced our engagement. I see a lot of red flags in your situation. If he is not the happiest man in the world, then I would wonder.
2007-07-15 21:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bob G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not ready to tell the world, why did he ask you to marry him? Marriage is a public commitment, if he can't even announce the engagement and be joyful, why should you trust that he'll go through with the marriage?
2007-07-15 21:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd announce it maybe the next day depending on when I proposed..I'd say red flag.... Keep the ring and run...
2007-07-15 21:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by M J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man told everyone within Minutes
2007-07-15 21:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋