I've been seeing a beautiful and kind woman for a few months now. She works as a cocktail waitress at a nightclub and doesn't live in the same city I'm at. She's into Asian men and I seem to fit her type. I'm clean-shaven, soft-spoken, well-groomed and sexy when I smile at her. When we see each other, we talk for a short period, sometimes buy her a drink, and hug each other when saying goodbye or saying "Hi" and tells me "I miss you" when we meet.
Recently, she gave me her # because she made dinner plans for my B-Day. We spoke shortly a few weeks ago on my 1st call and said she's busy. When she called back, she left a VM to call back. A week later, we saw each other and spoke and still decided to take me out on my B-Day.
After all we've been through, I'm not sure if she's serious about the dinner. We always talk briefly on the phone and she seems very polite, but I don't know her very well yet. The date still goes on as planned and I don't know what to before that.
I'm in doubt!
2007-07-15 14:23:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When we're at the nightclub, we're ok talking to each other even though its a short time. However, when we talk on the phone, our conversations ends up short when we talk and she's still interested in my birthday dinner plans we made a few weeks ago.
I told her a few times for the past couple of weeks and she said, "YES" and I don't know if she's serious about the dinner in a couple nights and it puts me in doubt.
Based on this situation, what do u think she feels about me? Like I said, I doubt the plans.
2007-07-15 14:26:17 · update #1
Sounds like you're in the "friend zone"... but it's still early.
Go on the date and have a good time, get to know her a little better. You'll know if she's interested by the end of the evening. Best case- you fall in love, get married and have a bunch of kids. Worst case- you make a new friend. What do you have to lose?
Best of luck to you!
2007-07-15 14:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by SQ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are looking too deep into what is going on. Why do you say '' after all we've been through"? A few phone calls, a planned date that has not even taken place...............???????????? If she is a cocktail waitress she probably tells everyone hi, and tells most of her regulars that she misses them also. (she may say a lot more to other customers so she makes better money) If she is serious about the dinner, don't make a big fuss about it, it has not even happened yet. After all it is only dinner........good luck
2007-07-15 21:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by jason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it does sound as though you are more into her than she is into you.
Unless you could find yourself being in the same room as her without saying anything to her, and having her come up to you and having a full conversation... than it could work
Coming from another girl, you might seem like an acquaintance to her. A simple hello, smile and short convo. You even said yourself that you don't know her very well... well if you don't know some one very well would you throw them a B-day Dinner? I hope she isn't leading you on, because that would be very cruel. She might just be saying that so you would get the idea...
Pull yourself away from her as painful as it may seem and find some one else you wouldn't have to work as hard to get their time and attention...
2007-07-15 21:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by aleasha_Sam01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta confront her. Calling her once a week won't cut it. She seems interested, but waiting for you to make the move. Call her up once every 2 or 3 days, if she seems really into you, go see her at the nightclub, and ask her when her break is and if she wants to dance. Good luck!
2007-07-15 21:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going into any relationship with someone you haven't know for a while is going to be risky. It sounds like she does have some interest in you and wants to get to know you a little better before bringing in any sort of committment. My advice? Go for the date and be yourself, try not to let the stress of doubt overcome you so that you're constantly analyzing every little nuance of the evening. She'll pick up on that and may let you go..
2007-07-15 21:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ember-san 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww! Just relax and take things casually for now. If things develop, then run with it. If you are relaxed about it, there is nothing to be nervous about and your interactions with her will be more pleasant and less awkward. Also, if you keep things casual (but remain open to possibilities), neither of you will be hurt or insulted if the other goes in another direction romantically.
You sound like a sweetie, so I can't imagine why she wouldn't be charmed by you. :-)
2007-07-15 21:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by nicholebeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not in doubt, your in lust.
First things first. You have a date so keep it. Until then you can just hang low. Being anxious and pressing will make you look like a stalker, so don't do it.
May your date lead to a relationship and not just a freinds with benefits kind of night.
2007-07-15 21:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by lovingdaddyof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call the night before and say so is this where we're going to meet and everything? so you don't miss each other. OR ask her is she really looking forward to it or not chances are if she keeps talking about it she is. good luck
2007-07-15 22:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by jiafcs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show up. If it's a game, she lost a good thing in you and you are better off. Your life will go on and you will find someone who deserves a well-groomed, sexy guy. Good luck.
2007-07-15 21:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by realbohemian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are about to have a breakdown then you might be obsessed. That's not healthy. Try to put your mind on other things and go with the flow. It might happen and maybe not. If you're obsessed with this lady, you might give off vibes to her that could scare her away.
2007-07-15 21:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by marie s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋