2007-07-15 14:14:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove - William Shakespeare
2007-07-15 14:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its hard for people to forget when & how they felt they were wronged. They may never forget. Have patience with them. Time can help heal, but an apology helps also. " Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." Thats in the Bible, Romans 12:21
"And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. "Mark 11:25
Forgiveness is suppose to be unlimited. I am one who has a hard time with forgiveness at times. I have to remember that Jesus Forgives me for all the bad things I have done, so I should forgive people for the little or big things too. The Bible is the only thing that has helped me with this problem, I am not trying to push it on you. However it cant hurt to see if it can help you and your friend. Good Luck
2007-07-15 21:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by T I 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it is hard to forgive, but if you don't you never move on.
I was sexually abused as a child for about 2yrs and then again by a so called boyfriend for months. But I was finally able to forgive them. How??
I learned that "people who hurt people are also hurting themselves". I know that doesn't make sense, but the fact is that when someone is hurting inside they tend to hurt others. So the people who hurt me by abusing me were also some how hurting deep inside themselves. It kind of made me feel sorry for them just a little bit.
I was able to forgive them. I will never ever forget that they hurt me in that way and to this day I hurt just thinking about it, but I have forgiven them.
Luckly these people are not in my life. I haven't seen them for years and think I'd throw up if I did.
Forgiveness is more of something you do deep inside yourself. So if someone in your life won't let you forget something I'd say just let it blow over your head. Let is go in one ear and out the other. Just know deep inside yourself that you have forgiven and move on.
2007-07-15 21:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trickiest thing about forgiveness is you do it because you want to forgive...not because you want to change the reaction of another person.
The only person you can control is you....if the other person is still bringing it up I guess they havent forgiven YOU. Talk to them and let them tell you why they are still hurt. Their feelings will not go away because you decided its resolved.
2007-07-15 21:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by jackie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the catch, where lies true grace.
'He drew a circle that shut us out.
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.
But Love and I had wit to win,
We drew a circle that took him in.'
Good luck.
2007-07-15 21:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL SINCE ME AND MY OLD GF MARIE. WE FELT BAD
WE DIDN/T STOP AND THINK. I FELT BAD WE COULDN/T GET TO DO ANYTHING.BECAUSE WE ARGUED. AND GOD HELPED US OF GETTEN ALONG.WE BURIED THE HATCHET IN MARCH 2001.WE DON/T HOLD A GRUDGE.
2007-07-15 21:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by PAUL P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will help you. Forgive anyway!
2007-07-15 21:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sheryl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to stop bringing it up.
2007-07-15 21:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋