is there any way to tell if a man was sexually abused as a child?

Answer 1

There is no fool proof way of knowing other than asking him. I do know, though, that many people who are sexually abused as a child will usually show severe mistrust for individuals of the same sex as the abuser...or just in general. Also, they sometimes have trouble connecting with people relationally b/c they fear they will be hurt if they let anyone get too close. Not all people who are abused act that way, but many do.

Answer 2

There's no way of recognizing it unless there's a unusual behavior. Now, if he's your boyfriend I'm sure there is a way you can approach him very carefully and with wisdom. A man or woman who has been sexually abused has scars and is very painful. They can have suicidal tendencies, sometimes can be fearful of getting too close to someone with fear of getting abuse (again). A certain percentage of those who has been abused usually abuse others only a percentage, but thank God there are those who are truely heal in their emotions and are able to talk about the ordeal.

Answer 3

I was sexually abused by my own grandfather until I was 8 years old. No, I'm not joking, I'm not sick like that. Just thought I would mention that because there was a b*tch who figured I lied and told a bunch of people about it. Anyway, the only way for people to know is if I tell them, it's not like there's physical evidence or anything, it's just something you have to ask about.

Answer 4

sure .. the man will have some behavioural problem with regard to his married life. how he conducts himself in society.. how he moves with friends lots are the signs which an expert analyst can make out whether a man was sexually abuses as a child

Answer 5

There is not necessarily any physical evidence. Children are impacted by paedophiles in many ways besides physical. As individuals they deal with it as best they can.

If he wants to tell you, he will. You shouldn't count on being told the truth of it or any the details. The majority of abuse goes completely un-reported. It could simply be stored forever in the back of his mind and you will never know.

Victims are also aware that paedophiles are more likely to have been victims themselves... so male victims sometimes have difficulty sharing emotions. Fearing that they might be the same.

The maiming, castration and public denigration of known paedophiles should be mandatory.

Answer 6

There are several ways to tell if a man has been abused. Some ways are his fantasies. When a Person believes that they are sharing fantasies with you, they are sometimes projecting past history in time present. Also, some men tend to project through phobias, ie Homophobia, or severe concern for their own children's safety in one area of life, or for spouse safety in a certain area. It takes so much to get them to confess to you. but you have to give them your honest dependability in the department of trust.

Answer 7

A lot of great answers on on here, for you to know the truth you need to speak with him about it or bring up the subject about the priest with the kids and get him to talking. Many people want to forget that terrible time in their life because it might bring up memories that he has suppressed. You need to observe him to see if you should mention the situation or even touch on that area. If this is you bfriend he might just pull away and if this is your husband he might just shut down so thread this area with caution. I wish the best.

Answer 8

The only way u can tell is if he tells u should be no secrets if u love eachother.

Answer 9

everyone is different.Some take it out on the one that they are with and some have triggers.Things will set them off for no reason.If you think something has happened ask him.I'm now 50 and I still have triggers.

Answer 10

He will be sensitive on some issues. It also affects his relationship with people, if severe trauma was felt. Ask him and he will tell you if he trustes you.