For people who are married: I have quick survey questions about marriage.?

Question

1. Gender, age, # of years married.
2. What does marriage mean to you?
3. Why do we have the institution of marriage in our society?
4. What are the benefits of marriage?
5. What is the male’s role(s) in marriage?
6. What is the female’s role in marriage?
7. Where did you get these ideas regarding the roles of marriage?
8. Did you and your partner discuss these roles prior to getting married?
9. What is the most likely thing(s) to cause problems in a marriage?
10. What are your views on who takes care of the children if you have any?
11. Why is this your view?

Answer 1

1) Female, 44, 11 years
2) Life time together
3) It is what life is all about
4) Your best friend forever
5) To be your partner
6) To be your partner
7) Books, parents, friends, living life
8) Yes
9) Communications
10) Shared by both of us equally
11) We are in it together and we share it all.

Answer 2

1. Male 15+ years of marriage.
2. Partnered with someone with whom to share your life and surroundings with.
3. To show commitment and a unity when children are born.
4. Help from a loving partner when needed. Lower costs in certain areas. Not sleeping or waking up alone, but with someone who has pledged a life for you.
5. Bread winner, muscles when needed, help with the raising of children, organizing safe haven for entire family.
6. Home organizations, raising children.
7. Parents, grand-parents
8. Yes, but you must understand that your questions are relative to say the least. These are our beliefs, not neccessarily how we opperate.
9. Lack of finances, adultery, lack of communications.
10. This responsability should be shared.
11. This sends a true message to the children that marriage is a two way street and also that there is no doubt that both parents truly love these children.

You must understand as I have already mentioned that these were (some still are) our beliefs at marriage. But time changes all things surrounding us. In some cases a second income is needed as inflation affects everyone. Therefore your beliefs are somewhat shifted in all aspects. Meaning that now more (and different) reponsibilities are now placed on both individuals.

Answer 3

1. Female-47-17 years
2. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. It is sharing my life in every aspect with my husband and having God as our guide.
3. The institute of marriage shows stability, responsibility and commitment amoung other things.
4. As for the benefits, there are many to chose from for example, marriage is the core of our lives. The stability our children need. Children need both parents or we would not have been designed to need two to have a baby. I know I focus on children a lot but then they are our future presidents, lawyers, doctors, law makers, etc.
5. I guess I am old fashion. I left medical school and LOVE being a stay at home mom. My husband is the provider, he listens to my bad days and good ones. He helps with the kids and makes the plans for their field trips. He sets the example to our children what a real father is. He teaches our boys to love, respect and provide for their spouses and children.
6. My role is to love, honor and respect. I cook, clean, school our kids, listen to him in good and bad days. I keep the family going as close to clock work as possible. I pick up the slack when he travels and can stand my own ground but chose to share it with him.
7. I see how the successful marriages work. I see my parents marriage of 48 yrs and my in-laws and see them all acting like newlyweds! I want that and to have it, I need to follow their formula of success. I got many things from the bible too.
8. We are catholic and went to classes before we wed. We were able to discuss all this during that time. In the classes, we covered finances, birth control, roles of spouses, childrearing, etc.
9. Taking the other for granted I think it the biggest one aside from having extramarital affairs. Lack of communication is also a biggie. If more couples spoke to each other, there wouldn't be so many cheaters. Many women I have spoken with cheat because they are so hungry to have someone talk to them. I talk with mine a lot.
10. It so takes BOTH to take care of the children but just in different ways.
11. This is my view because I see what has worked and what hasn't as far as childrearing. I can pretty much write a book about this but I won't. Not here any way. I have seen single mothers do finominal work in raising kids alone and have seen couples do a lousy job too. I do not critizise single mothers as I was one too. Nor single fathers because I have a brother who is a single father and doing a great job. But if you had both parents, it is just SO much easier IF you work together.

All in all, I know many people say things about me and my little family but yet they are the ones that come to me when their marriages are in trouble or when they have problem kids. I have 6 kids and I hang with people that have 12 kids, another has 10, etc. I feel if they are doing something right, why shouldn't I follow? I am so glad I did and am!!!

Answer 4

Interesting questions.
1. I'm female, 40 & been married nearly 21 years
2. Marriage means a melding together of two lives to become one.
3. We have marriage because it's a basic building block of our society. A healthy marriage helps to create stronger more balanced children who can become productive adults.
4. The benefits are security, respect (in a healthy marriage), always having someone to talk to, intimacy like none other, being able to have a best friend and lover all rolled into one, having someone you can always count on.
5/6. The man's and the woman's roles in marriage need to be ironed out between them. In our marriage, dh brings in the lion's share of the money, he pays the bills, takes care of the cars and such, is a great dad and helps out with household stuff as needed. I generally am responsible for the cooking and shopping and keeping some semblance of order in the house as well as helping him out with his stuff as needed. We have four kids, so they're able to do a lot of the housework and such, which helps us all out. My most important role (imho) is lifting dh up and encouraging him. His most important role (imho) is helping me feel secure and cherished.
7. I got these ideas from watching my parents, working things out with my own dh and the Bible.
8. We didn't discuss the roles prior to marriage, but we worked through them as time went on & issues arose.
9. I think selfishness is the thing most likely to cause problems. When people act selfishly, they don't take the time to communicate their love and care of their spouse. In a healthy marriage, you choose to find ways to communicate your love to your spouse in ways they'll understand and value.
10. I do most of the child care stuff but that's because I work fewer hours & have a flexible schedule. During school I get home before the first child & take care of afternoon snack and homework while working on dinner. Dh is great about working with the kids. One child and I can't do homework together without conflict so he takes care of that. He also does many things with the kids like playing games, taking them out camping and such.
11. This is our view because this is what works best for us & it's what we've worked out between us. There are times when the responsibilities shift heavier on one or the other of us, but it's a good balance for us.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

1. Female....32 years of marriage

2. it's part of who I am and very important to me

3. it was to protect women and children

4. to have a companion to love and share you life with

5. to love and honor his wife

6. to love and honor her husband

7. my parents....married 37 years before he died

8. no...we lived together first & it just carried over

9. not being open & honest

10. we both took care of my daughter equally

11. ?????

Answer 7

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Answer 8

This is just too long to answer....

Answer 9

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