I am soo depressed all the time I don't feel?

Question

I don't know what to do I have tried everything but I just don't feel right and I really feel like I don't know who I am anymore. I have been married 9yrs and oldest child is 6 and I look at my life I don't know what I want anymore. Need some advice please!!!!

Well here's the thing I have gone to the doctor and I have gotten meds none have worked without side effects.

Answer 1

i've been there too, you feel like no one can really understand and no one can help BUT although i don't know your personal circumstance I can relate as a mom of a young child.

When you say you've tried everything. Does that include counseling. Time AWAY from the kids. Planning goals. Eating healthy. A bit of excersize. Nice dose of together time w/spouse. Nights out with friends.

Email me if you want to chat heretohope@yahoo

*edit* yeah, i'm not a big fan of medicating mothers like us. Do you have a good support group, i.e mom, sis, friends. How about your relationship w/your husband? Can youguys have talks?

Answer 2

I think many of us get lost in marriage and motherhood. You are soooo not alone. It's hard when your kids are young to do much more than focus on them. I think what you are going through is just a wake up call. If you don't know who you are anymore, maybe it's time to start defining that. Take a look at your life. Make a list of the things that make you happy and the things that don't. See where you need to make changes. You should do this on a personal level but you might want to also think about it on a relationship and family level as well. What did you dream about before you had kids? Revisit those dreams. Set some goals. Start slowly and it wont take long for you to turn things around. I don't agree with all the meds being passed out these days. I have my own personal views on that whole thing. If you have a serious problem and you just can't function then by all means, find a good doctor and only take meds if you combine it with professional counseling. Life is about re-defining when things get a little stale. This is YOUR life. You get to decide what you want to do with it! Go ahead and dream big. By taking little steps to change things, you'll look back on this time and really appreciate what you went through. Think about who you reality are on the inside. Let your life reflect that. I've felt a little lost myself. I hit what you're going through around age 30. I was married 6 years and had two kids. I've really turned things around since then. I've also added two more kids to the mix! Many women experience this around that time. Know that there are others out there feeling the same way. Try to reach out a little. Make a few friends that you can talk to. My best friend and I have phone "counseling" sessions every day! You can get through this. I promise. Good luck and hugggggggggggggggggggg :)

Answer 3

You probably feel as if you are alone in your troubles and nobody realises how you are feeling. You are not alone. You have reached a point where your child has become more independent and you are not required for all his/her needs. You have more time on your hands which means more time to take stock and reassess where your life is going. When children are young they are absorbing and we often have little time to think about our own needs, rather than just being 'super mum'. This is a time for enrichment and growth for you, not a time to feel depressed.
Instead of wondering what to do, just go and do it. Find something you really enjoy and try it out. It is a good time to inject some romance back into the marriage also. Nine years of marriage is a long time and maybe you need to put some spark back. Plan dates with your husband, buy a special surprise for him. Instead of feeling dragged down by depression try to buoy yourself up by being the 'mover and shaker' in the marriage. It is easy to sit by and watch life go by and feel miserable. That will achieve nothing. Enjoy what you have, a child, a husband. When you start feeling good about the things you are doing you cannot help but feel happy.
It is too easy to say you don't know what you want anymore, but then do nothing to find out what you do want. Search for what makes you happy. But be careful. You have a husband and child. Turning outside the marriage to others to find happiness never works in the long term. Protect and cherish what you have. Incorporate all the wonderful things you already have with the new thrills you find.
That said: if you think there is a specific reason for why you are depressed rather than just a 'crossroad' in your life, you should visit a counsellor who may be helpful in getting you past those things that are preventing you from enjoying your life.
Smile, and good luck!

Answer 4

There is only one person that can help you and that is you but i think you already know that.I remember you saying you took Zoloft but you had to stop because of allergies. When my husband left me after 18 years of marriage i went into a very deep depression.I was like that for 6 months until the doctor put me on Zoloft and from me not eating having nothing in my stomach the pills took affect the third day. The doctor told me it would take 7 to 10 days for me to feel a differences in my outlook. Well i told the doctor about how good i felt the third day and that's when he told me about having an empty stomach there was nothing blocking the pill from working.I don't understand why your doctor couldn't give you something for your allergies so you could stay on Zoloft. I could not believe the difference in how i felt I no longer mind getting up and going to work or anything else. One thing i didn't like was i had no sex drive so i stopped after one month but i took it long enough for me to get out of my depression and i was fine after that.

Answer 5

get to the dr or a psycho dr to see what your troubles are. Get some help. Your family will benefit also.... they need you. Chin up!!

Answer 6

r u depression???? go c a doctor ,maybe they can help u...