I want to keep both:) is it possible:)?

Question

K so My husband that has been in prison for like 2 in a half years, is getting out next month, and well I've been seeing this one guy for 4 months, and well I do have fealling for him, but he can't give me the things I want , money wise, and my Husband can, I do love my husband also but so many years have past that I'am not sure if we would make it:) well no one of the guys know this at all Ive been hidding it from both of them, but I'am thinking of beeing with both sence I live In EP and my husband is getting parole to Lub, and my boyfriend lives in ep also so do you think I should keep on seeing both of them??? I'am so freaken confused:(

Answer 1

Theoretically, you can keep both. It would be hard, though --- and not very advisable.

Realistically, if your husband committed a violent crime - or was housed with men who did - your chances of surviving an affair once he finds out are pretty low. For your sake, choose between the two. If you're unsure your marriage will be what you want when your husband's released, let him go. If your husband can still provide for you as a parolee (fat chance), and your boyfriend can't provide for you what a parolee would (which means he's a loser, too), let the latter go.

Save yourself. Be smart.

Answer 2

Your marriage was "for better or worse"...remember that? You need to stick by your husband when he gets out. Its tough after being incarcerated reentering society and your husband needs you. You need to go be with him when he is paroled and see what happens. Be honest with the 4 month boyfriend and tell him what's up. If you and your husband can't make it then go back to the 4 month boyfriend. If he really loves you he'll wait...it's never good to deceive anybody...karma has a bad way of working and will come back on you...what would you expect your husband to do if you were in his shoes. Lieing to both is selfish in my opinion!

Answer 3

Definitely not! You could hurt either one of these men and could end up with neither one. You either love someone or you don't but you can not keep seeing both and have your bread buttered on both sides. You have a husband - if you dint want him then divorce him for this other man. I understand that your husband has been away for 2 years and it may be difficult but it is time for you to choose between the two. If you keep a back door open you will not be able to give 100% in any of the relationships. It is not what one can give you that matters it is how he makes you feel - maybe you do not love either of these men?

Answer 4

You can be with both but eventually it will cause some kind of drama....i mean, i dont think it would be right of you to string both of them along....eventually the one will find out about the other then you may loose both, so i'd sit down and way the pro's and con's and think long and hard about what you want more, try going out on a date with your hubby one day, tell your boyfriend your going to see a friend and see how your feeling when you see him and talk to him and you can maybe make a decision based on that, but i really don't see the point in seeing both of them at the same time, you really should be open and honest with your boyfriend and tell him about the situation, ell him your hubby has been in prison and that he is gonna get out and you may want to go see him and see how he feels about that,,,,,but don't string both along and leave one cold one day and confused, be honest to both and make a decision that's the wisest thing to do.

Answer 5

Leading a double life and seeing them both is going to be hard. You may get tripped up in untruths that you tell either of them. I'd be afraid of what your husband would do to the guy if he found out about him. What was he in prison for by the way--I hope it wasn't murder!

Answer 6

I sincerely hope that you do NOT have any children, because cheating on one man in prison with another man who, as you say, is not able to support you (and who has for the last 2.5 years?) sounds mighty dangerous. And as people have the tendency to keep dating the same person in another's body (their "type," so to speak), I'm willing to bet that this other man is no better, and possibly worse, than your convicted hubby. Two and a half years? Sounds like drug charges, to me.

With that out of the way, I hope you don't get shot, because, lady, you've got big, big problems coming your way.

Answer 7

Is okay with them? Probably not so I'd be careful. Most guys would consider that cheating and usually don't take it out on the girl but who knows. And dealing with someone out of prison seems scary enough.

Answer 8

regrettably no longer this year, even although i do no longer think of which skill human beings shouldn't vote for a third social gathering candidate. The stranglehold that the two social gathering gadget has in this u . s . a . has improved over various many years and it will take various election cycles of further and further human beings making the call to no longer undergo balloting for the lesser of two evils to triumph over it.

Answer 9

I hope this post is a joke...

If it isn't, then you are very confused- and you need to think things over so you stop making bad choices that will only hurt yourself.

Try to go to counseling or therapy....You must have serious issues and you must deal with them ASAP. Otherwise, you will continue to make dumb mistakes- like you have already!!!

Answer 10

woah just make sure ur husband doesnt find out...caz prison makes pple aggressive and mean. they come out as a whole different person unless they went to prison on many occasions. he might end up going back...if you get what i mean.