If someone told you they were being abused and told you to keep it a secret, what would you do?

Answer 1

If the person was a minor I would tell the authorities. You have an obligation to to tell. That minor may "hate" you for telling but in the end they will appreciate the fact you did something. If the person being abused is an adult, then all you can do is urge them to seek help and be there to help them if they need it.

Answer 2

if you are young and the abuse is also on a minor,someone should know about it as it can damage them for many years afterward.in saying that you may not have the tools to do it correctly and could offer even more distrust by telling the wrong person and letting your friends secret loose.Asking the person to go to a school councelor is a good start as i think they have to keep it confidential..the counseler will know what to do to get some the person the help they need and show that others close can be trusted.

Answer 3

I guess it would depend on the abuse. One of my best friends in highschool was acting really down and quiet for a while and i finally got it out of her why. Her step dad had been touching her in ways he should not be. I convinced her to talk to the school counselor because she said she could not tell her mother, that she would not believe her.
They family went to counseling and got the help they needed and things are better now.
so i would convince them to tell someone they trust. If it's a teen friend then i would encourage her to tell an adult that she trusts. Like an aunt or something or if a male friend then an uncle maybe. I would also talk to my mother about it, not giving names and see what she thought about the situation.
That is what i would do.

Answer 4

I would not keep it a secret. People who are abused and don't want help are the ones that need it the most.

Answer 5

A "Groomer" often does this when prowling on his victims. The groomer starts off luring their victims to do little things that are slightly against their will. Then as the victim does more and more and the little things add up ... well, usually the groomer then takes off the "mask" and slaps them hard with the truth ... like saying, "You're being abused, and you WILL keep it a secrete."

Answer 6

I will not keep it a secret because I will be part of the abuse.

Answer 7

after I had the documention to put a stop to it. If you say something with out proof, it will go on and the abuser will become even more mad and take it out on the abusee. So you have to be careful not to make the situation worse

Answer 8

If it's a minor, tell someone. Safety first. But if it's an adult, then counsel some legal advice, otherwise you're being used for sympathy and pity,perhaps even a champion.

Answer 9

hmm good question but it does depend on the type of abuse i guess but maybe you should talk to them more about it if it's a child being sexually abused then they should really go to the police and you need to make them aware of that.

Answer 10

Without hesitation and without question -- TELL an adult you trust and let them take it from there...