Questions for married couples...?

Question

1. What is your age, gender, and # of years married?
2. What does marriage mean to you?
3. Why do we have the institution of marriage in our society?
4. What are the benefits of marriage?
5. What is the male's role in marriage?
6. What is the female's role in marriage?
7. Where did you get these ideas regarding the roles of marriage?
8. Did you and your partner discuss these "roles" prior to getting married?
9. What is the most likely thing(s) to cause problems in a marriage?
10. Would you say that you are generally a happier person due to marriage?

Answer 1

Doesn't matter on age, gender or number of years together. What does matter is this: If your partner can make you smile or laugh just by the mere thought of them or your heart goes aflutter when you see them, and it keeps happening year after year...everything else will fall into place. Stay truthful with them at all times. Good luck.

Answer 2

1. What is your age, gender, and # of years married? 30 something, F, 6

2. What does marriage mean to you? Companion, love, respect, support is just a start Someone who accepts and loves me

3. Why do we have the institution of marriage in our society? For child baring/tradition

4. What are the benefits of marriage? various social, emotional, financial too numerous to list

5. What is the male's role in marriage? Depends on culture. I America Has changed over time consult recent sociology texts. Traditionally provider not so much now

6. What is the female's role in marriage? also changed since women entered work force. Tradition:nuturer/child rearer not so much now

7. Where did you get these ideas regarding the roles of marriage? Again it changes so do I. What message I got from watching p's to marry someone you love it is work, don't take it for granted, not everyday is bliss/challenges come, it is for life.
My mom was college educated when most women her age were not and worked during and before marriage so no June Cleaver of the 50's here. My parents have been married to each other over 40+ yrs. Once on a date a guy and I were discussing my p's
"Your p's are still married?" Yes
"To each other?" Of course silly why?
"That is amazing & rare, most girls your age p's are divorced etc.
Really? Oh well I guess so. (As I thought of all my friends families)

8. Did you and your partner discuss these "roles" prior to getting married? We discussed many issues. I don't think we left any stone unturned if not- not a big stone.
Finances, who handle what, kids, chores, life after kids etc. Down to who would shop and do laundry. Do you know some people we knew never discussed if they both wanted kids? Turned out 1 didn't 1 did. We were shocked when they told us that was why they were divorcing.

9. What is the most likely thing(s) to cause problems in a marriage? Finances I think statistically is # 1, People marrying wrong person, too young at marriage then they change/grow apart, infidelity.

10. Would you say that you are generally a happier person due to marriage? Yes, Thanks for the reminder I will go show him oops baby kids woke up maybe I'll tell himnow show him later :)

Answer 3

1. 25 F, 8 months
2. A technicality that means more to the people stuck in the 1950's than now.
3. Humans have an inate need to be bound to someone.
4. Security, companionship, warm body, someone always on ur side, a second viewpoint, etc.
5. Takes care of car stuff, otherwise we work everything else out together.
6. Cooking, otherwise see previous answer.
7. Whoever was the best at it, did it.
8. Nope.
9. Money, infidelity, kids.
10. Yes. Wouldn't have it any other way.

Answer 4

1. 24, M, almost 7
2. Being with the one you love.
3. Marriage through the church is about love, marriage to the state is about money.
4. Tax Benefits, Being with that person every day
5 and 6. Support the Family according to your strengths.
7. The way I was raised.
8. No, it was just understood.
9. Dishonesty
10. Yes

Answer 5

1. 57, M, almost 38 yrs.
2. Having a lifelong partner whom you can trust; who will stand beside you through the dark times and not just the good times.
3. It is a social construct; a sort of public confirmation of one's commitment to another.
4. Benefits: someone who has your back, who cares about you. No fear of STDs. No more stupid dating pool mind games.
5. & 6. Identical roles. We do what we do best. She's a math whiz, so she does the books and the taxes. I'm the handyman and do the majority of the home repairs and upgrades.
7. By watching our parents, who loved each other and set the standard.
8. Yes, we did.
9. The biggest pitfalls in marital relationships are: a) a lack of emotional maturity, b) a lack of compromise, c) a lack of sympathy and forgiveness and d) a lack of common interests.
10. Yes, I would say that.

Answer 6

Man, you are asking a good question. Let me just give you my version of my answer. I think marriage is a great thing but, only if you are going to respect what getting married means! I think for a marriage to work there has to be honesty and faithfulness, understanding. For me the rules of marriage for a female is to love, cherish, respect your husband and he should do the same for you. The benefit to marriage is that you share a life of happiness with somebody who loves you.

Answer 7

I'm not going to go through and lay all 10 questions out for you one by one, but I am a 30 YO female who is happily married to my hubby of 11 years now and we are still going strong. He is my everything and vice versa.

I love him with everything I have and I know he feels the same. I feel very, very lucky to have found him and plan on being married to him until the day I die.

My marriage has improved my life in ways that I can not even begin to describe. I love being married, I love being a mother, I love being a wife. We share everything 50/50 and have a strong and solid relationship.

Answer 8

1. He's 32 - I'm 34. Married 3 years as of 7-7-07.
2. Marriage is companionship. Sharing your lives together.
3. It's been since the Bible days.
4. Benefits are never being lonely. Having each other to take care of. The companionship, friendship, relationship forever.
5. Male's role is the same as the woman's. They take care of each other in different ways. I believe them man works outside the home to provide for his family.
6.The woman works inside the home as in keeping things clean and tidy, taking care of the kids, breakfast, lunches, dinner, laundry, etc., taking care of the yard, and everything else. They both have to work together.
7.Watching my parents and it worked for them.
8. Yes, we did. I asked him if he would be able to provide for our family while I stayed home and took care of everything.
9.older step-children
10.Yes, of course. I love taking care of my husband...and family...

Answer 9

this is a long question!
1. 24(soon tobe 25) female husband is 29 3years (3/26/00)
2.marriage is a symbol of commimentment, a symbol of love and a symbol of faith in each other to make it through.
3.i think it is because no one likes to be alone. marriage makes me seem needed and commited to someone that i want to be with forever.
4.benefits: someone to love me, someone to love back, someone to wake up to in the morning, someone to have my children with, someone to help me when i am down and someone i can encourage when he is down. marriage means alot of things.
5.husbands are to take care of their family and lead by example and discipline for his children.
6. wives take care of the home and the children by being nurturing and caring and understanding. a wife also takes care of her husband and he takes care of her.
7.i really don 't know. i would say my family but no one in my family is happily married...
8.no it was already established that way before we got married.
9. one partner becoming disconnected or uninterested in the other which may cause the other partner to feel unneeded or unloved. so they cheat or lie. unfaithfulness and distrust i think is the biggest issue facing marriages today. people get married too young and don't know who they are married to or they get married before they are ready to settle down.
10. i would say i am happier now that i am married. i contribute that to being with the right man. i really feel like we are meant to be together and that's the way it should be!

Answer 10

1. 25 F 2 years
2. Unity between 2 people who care about each other, a support system
3. I don't know, it doesn't seem to mean to mean anything anymore
4.same has #2, a best friend, money wise, insurance, religious beliefs
5. Support system, in our household, he is the money maker, and anything that needs fixed he fixes it, he helps me around the house and with the kids too if i need it
6. support system, in our house, I take care of our kids, clean, cook and pretty much do all the household chores
7. it just works the best for us
8. yes, it was very important to both of us that I/ or he if i was making more money stay home and raise the children
9. lack of communication
10. definitely !