Why did you divorce?

Question

I'm writing an article on why people divorce. Is anyone willing to share why they split from their significant other? All I need is your answer, along with a first name and last initial. If you want to share your state, as well as how long you've been divorced and if you've remarried that would be great. Thanks.

Answer 1

I'm answering for my sister.

They divorced because they had different aspirations in life. Kind of like the answer someone else wrote, he wanted a simple life and wasn't very ambitious at work and she was. She wanted more money, big house, she was constantly trying to stay busy and he just wanted to be laid back and hang out.

I think these traits were aparant to everyone even before they married. We tried to warn her, but at the time she didn't care because she loved him. She used her heart and not her head. And over time emotions fade and the fact that you disagree on many things is still there, except you don't have that love to get you through your disagreements.

She eventually cheated on him once. I think she only did that so it gave her an excuse to get a divorce. I think she tried to make him not want to be with her anymore.

Answer 2

I've only been married once before (and at this point I don't think I will ever get married again, after all I learned my lesson the first time so why go thru it again). I divorced him because: on the surface I would say the reason is because he committed adultery (he had an affair with his best friend's wife and got her pregnant....both men were, at the time, in the military). If you were to scratch the surface and go deeper, I would have to say the reason is: we just grew apart. We were and have always been two different people in every way, shape and form.

I was married for right under 13 years - have been divorced for almost 7 years now. We had two children together.

I have never been remarried and doubt I ever will be again; if I ever did, it would take one heck of a man to convince me otherwise.

Lori M. from Florida.

Answer 3

First time I married was at the ignorant age of 18. We stayed married for 11 years. At first everything was great until he tried forcing his beliefs and goals on me. I had let him know up front while we were dating what I wanted out of life. Once he thought he owned me, my dreams didn't matter. He was determined that I would lead the life his mother did. He was convinced that he was going to make me a house slave that had nothing better to do than to crap out a kid every year or two. Why I stayed with that jerk for 11 waisted years I'm not sure. I think it was the whole better or worse, till death crap. That is no reason to stay in an abusive relationship. Once it was all over, I found the man of my dreams hiding here on yahoo. We've been married over a year and he has never treated me badly. I know this one will never try to force me to do anything.

Answer 4

First husband, we were together a total of 10 years. 5 bf/gf & 5 married. Eventually, I realized we wanted different things in our lives. I wanted children and he didn't. Not to mention he had no aspiration for the simple life...little house, little family, little love. His aspirations were for bigger and better and not in the legal way. We're still friends, keep in touch from time to time.
Second husband, married for 9 years. Short courtship, he wanted all the same things. But I couldn't give him children(yeah, ironic, huh?), he didn't want to adopt. He became very verbally and financially abusive. I suppose it was always there, but it got worse once he realized he'd never have children of his own with me. I think it was a subcousious way for him to let me go...though to ask him, I'm the devil. I finally got away and took nothing...left everything behind, house, my pets (like my children), friends. Started over new, even though he didn't have a pot to piss in when we met and everything was mine. But its a good thing and will be better once I get my credit straightened back out. Though I'd rather never hear from him again, but I answer his calls, so he won't harrass me at work, I do so to keep the peace. I just take solice, in the fact that I don't have to live that life anymore, when he spews his little jabs about my character. The calls have gotten less and less, especially now that he has a girlfriend.

Answer 5

I've been married twice. In process of 2nd divorce. First divorce was because we were not in love and only married because of a pregnancy. My second divorce is due to one physical and one emotional affair that my husband had...i decided that I couldn't live always looking over my shoulder.

Teri H. Iowa - first marriage was 9 years (too long) and second marriage is now at 5 years

Answer 6

it all began with a little disrespect, some fight picking and name calling, than seemed to get worse, finally he wanted a divorce, and i found out about her, the woman he worked with who he had been seeing for awhile. i filed for divorce, told him never to speak to me again, i moved away never saw him again, i went back to a man in my past, we did not marry, but we have a good life.
patty j, Ohio