im only 18 & dont plan on getting married 4 another several yr.s but my friend who is in2 the teen sex thing(unfortunately) told me that in order 2b able 2fit a guys "thing" up there, u hafta b able 2fit 3fingers up there, cuz theyre that wide. ive nevr heard ne1 talk about getting "physically ready" 4it tho, only being mentally ready. i gotta ask, if i just wait till im married 4physical readiness 2kik in, will my body just naturally get physically ready 4it, like wen yr pregnant & it prepares 4birth? or will i still hav 2stick my fingers up that slimy hole 2stretch it out? cuz i just loathe the slimy feeling. i cant stand touching myself w/out toilet paper or sumthin. the slimy feeling just really creeps me out. i wouldnt b 1bit surprised if my body just naturally gets physically ready 4it, it only makes sense, but i dont wanna just assume it duz that &then my nite comes &find myself goin thru hellish pain&mayb even gushing a serious amount of blood.
2007-07-15 10:46:41 · 12 answers · asked by Tiff 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i understand kids less than i evr did, & i hav NEVR bin able 2understand them.haha
2007-07-15 10:49:37 · update #1
sumthing that mite help u, emily, is not lecturing ppl on their spelling. very very occasionally do ppl do that & as u can c by the #of answers b4 yrs, i obviously dont need alot of help on that. but i can tell by the rest of yr answer & by evry1 elses that my friend's not that brite.
as 4adam, i already know that my vagina is really sterile, my dad told me a long time ago. i just happen 2b a little more sensitive than most ppl thats all, idk y.
as 4masturbating, ive done that all my life, just not the way ive heard other girls do it. ive got like 3other methods, but only use 1, mayb 2of them.
2007-07-15 16:03:24 · update #2
First of all, you need to get in touch with your body. There's no reason to be disgusted by your own body. As far as your first time, if you're worried about the pain, you can help minimize it by doing some stretching exercises. Which, yes, means you're going to have to stick your fingers up there. First start with one finger and move it from side to side. When you can do that without pain, do 2 fingers and work your way up to 3. Believe me, that helps!! I did this over several years before my first time and my first time wasn't that painful....I'd say a 2 on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being unbearable. If you still have your hymen intact and you don't do these things, then your first time could be quite painful. Everyone is different, though so no one can tell you what your first time will be like. But, like I said, you can help minimize the pain by preparing now. I do also believe that the longer you wait, the more physically ready your body will be, too. I waited until I was 27. I can't even imagine what it would have been like if I were 14 like some people. At that age, you're still growing. Before worrying about sex, you need to get comfortable with your body first, though. There's nothing to be ashamed of.
2007-07-15 11:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 04:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I doubt that sticking your fingers inside will make it larger, really. When you're aroused and hot enough the vagina will slowly get larger so that it'll prepare itself (yes, just like you said). And since you're a virgin, the first time you do it might hurt a little bit. The hymen breakes and that causes some pain - but only until you get rid of it, then it'll be all pleasure :) and after breaking the hymen you will bleed a little bit, like in the last day of your period when you only get several drops of blood.
Hope this helps! ;)
2007-07-15 10:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by DianaMC 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your friend is not being honest with you. It it far more important to be emotionally and mentally prepared for sex. I waited to have sex until I was married, and I had no trouble at all. Don't worry. Your body will know what to do when the time is right.
2007-07-15 10:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kathandra 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tiff, stop worrying about it. And stop trying to enlarge yourself. Your wedding night will be beautiful If you are truely in love everything will come naturally and will be fine. Besides many things could happen between now and another several years. You may even find that your bf is not the one for you and find someone else. Not wishing anything bad for you but it does happen. Virginity is something to be proud of. My wife and I both lost ours together on our wedding night. Something we both are not sorry we waited for.
2007-07-15 11:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by sarge 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, don't worry about it. she lied to you. I'm 18 as well, i lost my virginity at 14 (not by choice) but i didn't do any of that and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 1/2 years as well I've seen a few other d!cks...believe me, they are not 3 fingers wide! that is such bull. don't worry about it, if you don't like masturbating then don't do it, you don't have to prepare yourself like that to have sex. your body was made for reproduction...having sex is kind of a key factor in that so don't worry about it.
2007-07-15 10:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something that might help you out alot is to actually spell out words instead of using numbers.
Your friend is an idiot. You will be fine, the only prep you need is the ability to speak openly with your fiance and birth control.
2007-07-15 14:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by emilyjacinda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you follow your friend's advice, you'll just end up breaking your own hymen.
"That slimy hole?" That is your body, a part of you. I can't believe this is 2007 and girls still believe that their genitals are unclean and disconnected from themselves! Please, for goodness' sake, buy or take out from the library a copy of the latest revision of "Our Bodies Our Selves" and learn something about healthy female sexuality.
2007-07-15 10:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your friend is wrong. It will still fit.. The first time, or even the first few times, it will probably hurt but you don't have to finger yourself to be able to have sex... lol. That's ridiculous.
2007-07-15 10:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its jst natural ull be ready for it. its not something u do 2 get ready for it cuse u think EVERYSINGLE women would do that cuse they wouldnt no if 3 fingers would fit in there
2007-07-15 10:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋