I was an army brat, and was teased all through school. I never had any good friends who didn't tease me or use me for my money, (and guy friends had bad intentions too) status, clothes, etc. I paid to be in a sorority and thought I had good friends there, but when it was disbanded, all of those girls stopped talking to me. Any "friends" I make are temporary, based on what I can offer them at the time (literally, not kidding). Now I'm 23 and single and lonely. I am on myspace (nobody emails me back!), I've tried other networking sites, I've even tried dating guys who had lots of friends to sap friends from him! I'm a teacher who has better friends who are teenaged students than adults. No matter how much people tell me to "try harder" "talk to people" "be proactive" I've done all of the above and it goes unreciprocated. I'm not ugly. What's wrong with me????????????????
Do I have to get married and have kids to get over this?
2007-07-15 10:31:21 · 6 answers · asked by marisa_g1rl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Listen. Sometimes friends suck. Consider yourself lucky...
*smile*
I'm kidding. But listen, you sound like you are really really nice. Maybe start doing things you like to do. Like join a bookclub or take dancing lessons, when people have the same interests as you, thats what draws them in. And trust me, you do not want a friend unless they love you for you. Just be patient, they will come!!
2007-07-15 10:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by love_always_84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any brothers or sisters? I hear what you are saying about how you were an army brat. that usually means that you moved around alot am I right? When you have to move all the time it makes it very hard to make friends and keep them. Were your parents very protective of you as you were growing up? If that is the case, then that might explain a reason why it is so hard for you to make friends. I completely understand your situation though because I had the same experiences you did when I was in school. I hope that I have helped in some little way.
2007-07-15 17:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by Chipper33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for friends in the virtual world or the real world? I'm sure plenty of people here would like to talk to you, includng me. In the real world, it'a bit more complicated. Is it possible you're trying too hard and ending up looking desperate? Be yourself, hang out with people you work with (if they're your age). If you go certain places regularly (a gym, for instance), notice other people who also are regulars, and you get a good vibe, strike up a conversation. Try to be friendly, open, and honest with people, but don't be a pushover. Probably the most significant reason that people take advantage of you is that you let it happen. Check out local events, volunteer...I'm told there's lots of ways to meet people. From there you just have to choose the right ones.
2007-07-16 12:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by czimme3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to quit trying. Instead of getting on networking sites, get into the online game sites. meet people who are focused on something besides relationships. Good luck.
2007-07-15 17:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll be ur freind even though im 12 contact me by sonic_speed_now@yahoo.com
2007-07-15 17:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact me...I'll be your friend
2007-07-16 06:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by SweetBabyLucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋