how to inluence ppl to agree with what i say?

Answer 1

I think the answer to this question has 2 parts. First, you really need to be informed about the point you are trying to make--be able to quote reliable sources and statistics. Nothing defuses a good thesis like finding yourself in the position of saying "Everyone knows that [fill in the blank: global warming exists? bubblegum causes cancer? no Beatle played an instrument on Eleanor Rigby?]", at which point your sparring partner says "How do you know?" and you have to splutter out "Well, I just do" or "My friend says so" or "That's what Sean Hannity/Michael Moore said". It's embarrassing, and poof! goes your credibility. So doing your very best to be well-informed by choosing your sources wisely and being able to name them helps.

But guess what--some people are a lot more interested in feeling like they've won the argument than in whether you might be right or not, and so they're not really listening to what you are saying. My father-in-law, whom I love to death, is always spoiling for a fight and will pull "facts" (which are nothing of the kind) out of thin air if he thinks they will help him win. I've long ago learned that it's useless to try to change his mind about anything. That's just his charming, curmudgeonly self. So I look for a chance to change the subject to classical music or science fiction, and then we go have a slice of pie. :)

Answer 2

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

By that I mean that you can't ever 'make' someone agree with you (well rarely at least) but what you can do is present arguments that are reasonable and hope that the other person sees the reason in them and is willing to agree.

It requires an open mind from the listener and an awareness and sensitivity to the others' point of view on the part of the presenter. Thats why so few debates end in any kind of resolution because both parties are usually more interested in defending their own point of view than trying to come to any kind of mutual understanding.

Tricking the other person into taking your point of view has no real value because the trickery will eventually be discovered and you are no further along than when you started. In fact you have taken a backwards step because deception contaminates the discussion and shows disrespect for both parties and discourse in general.

Answer 3

You have to see their tone level and match it a bit. Then you have to find out their thinking. That means listening. Then they may listen to you also, if you give them a full hearing. Don't try to change the tone level and mind at the same time probably, but gradually. Find agreements to build on. Keep a positive mild attitude, your intensity will increase their opposition. And be willing to change you view some also. Reasoning is first being reasonable, able to be reasoned with not just vice versa. By then I've forgotten my postion, fascinated with their's. Sometimes it's better to think about what they said and come back later anyway. Though, if your really solid on what you know, you probably won't get lost. Never argue, Emotions are like a drug, you can't be reasoned with nor can they, at the point. It's like talking to somone under the influence. Sometimes actions speak lounder that words anyway. It's sort of more about them anyway, especially to them. Did you ever try to explain something to someone, get out a couple of paragraphs and then find they didn't speak English? Often we're just looking for confomation because we are unsure of our ideas. It might be better to talk with people on you own wave length and then broaden out. What really worked for me in the end was using my intuition, which picks up the situation and "shows" you the way to go. It's kind of a dance, after all. Agreement to agreement. Disagreement to disagreement. is more like stepping on toes. Your might look up Emotional Intelligence in negotiation.

Answer 4

Take away their peace of mind, and lead them to believe that what you are saying is the only rational solution. It is actually surprisingly easy to influence how people react to outside ideas. You must merely assert yourself as an authority.

I would argue from personal experience that it is morally apprehensible to force ones opinions on others, or to disrespect someone's supposedly rigid thoughts and ideas. However, biologically and evolutionarily speaking, the people who break out against authority and out of submissivness are not only the ones who best survive, but are often the ones who develop such assertive power to actually develop authority.

In conclusion, I believe it's best for your (and everyone's)
mental health to establish a medium between social dominance and submissiveness. Find a way to respect (or even in some cases, ignore) other people's ideas, and find a way to assert your own ideas so they are deemed respectable (or ignorable) by other people. Influence is control, which is something no person as a right to inflict on other people.

PS The Beatles DIDN'T play any instruments in Eleanor Rigby.

Answer 5

Assume they've already agreed when you talk to them and act as if that's the case. Never be direct. It will do a number on them

If that doesn't work, hold a gun to their head and tell them it's essential for them to think like you.

Answer 6

you should give strong arguments to convince them that what you are saying is right .if it's something more important,you should show them what you or other people that agreed with you have won :)

Answer 7

Bribe them or use big words confusing people into thinking that you are smarter than them and know what's right.

Answer 8

I've got an idea. Why don't you sit down at your desk and write down all your complaints, and when I come back,...Ahh, I'm busy. You go get laid.

Answer 9

AK 47 if you want every motherf... in the room dead.

Answer 10

You should ask Derren Brown that.