Ok . . . .me and my friend were talking yesterday and she said something about being pregnant!!! I was scared but i knew it was true beczause she got lucky the first time. I have no clue what to say to comfort her or anything! I'm getting really scared. If yu have any thing that i can do to help her . . . . . or anything for em to do. We are only going into grade8 and there has never been someone who was pregnant at our school . . .and her parents will freak!!!!! I need answers!!!! and quick!!
2007-07-15 10:13:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well ya yell at her for not using protection. but then get her a pregnancy test and talk to her parents and yours about sex(you seem to be way to comfortable with sex). she needs to stop doing this stuff and i don't think that you should this stuff either. you and her are only in 8th grade i'm a sophmore soon to be junior and i'm emotionally not ready for sex she needs to talk to a counciler about this kind of stuff. but all you can do to help her is to be there for her and when she asks what to do you say talk to your parents. i hope that you take this advice and if not i'm sorry that i couldn't be of more help
2007-07-15 10:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First she shouldn't be having sex in the 8th grade. Second, if she is she needs to use protection, thats what responsible people do. Third, your right her parents will completely freak, so before causing a huge commotion go get a pregnancy test and take it away from your homes and if it is positive, then she definitely has to tell her parents immediately. A teen pregnancy is high risk and their could be serious complications and besides she cant see a doctor without her parents consent.
And if it comes back negative, tell her to quit having sex until she is old enough to endure the responsibilities.
2007-07-15 17:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by KricketP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really is pregnant she needs to talk to her parents immediately. Hopefully they will not just the angry type and they will stay calm and figure out what to do. There are options. They could adopt her baby and raise it as their own(her parents), they could help her care for the baby or have her give birth to the baby and put it up for adoption. Once this is done they need to find a way to get their daughter/your friend to keep her legs shut. She is 13 yrs old, give me a break! Don't have sex unless you are old enough and responsible enough to raise a child. Some day kids will get this through their heads. You will get pregnant if you have sex with out protection.
I have a 12 yr old son and we have talked about sex from the time he was young. He knows how baby's are made and that he needs to wait until he is married to have sex.
STOP HAVING SEX!
2007-07-15 17:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by ~Angel Eyed Pookie~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well i am not even going to get into how wrong it is that he is having sex at the age of 13! You need to tell her parents. Even if she is not pregnant they NEED to know she is doing this. It really could mess up her life. She could have AIDS, an STD, and probably does have emotional problems. If she is pregnant DO NOT let her keep the baby. I grew up with a single mother and I would not trade her for the world! But, This baby deserves a mother and father that are ready for him/her. A 13 is not even ready to take care of herself. Its not fair to the baby. Just tell her parents please!
2007-07-15 20:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't need a lesson in what a stupid decision she made by having unprotected sex at such a very young age. And if she does, there are plenty of people who will give it to her. Tell her you love her. Tell her you're still her friend. Tell her she needs to be very grownup now and find out for sure by taking a pregnancy test and then going to a doctor or crisis pregnancy center. Tell her you'll go with her to tell her parents. If she's afraid to do that, encourage her to talk to another adult like an older sister, aunt or a teacher at school. Tell her that she can ask you for help. Tell her you will stand up to other kids for her--and do it. Tell her you've got ginger ale and saltine crackers in your locker with her name on them. Tell her you believe she's strong and smart and that she can get through this ok.
2007-07-19 16:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by July 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok... i know this might be hard for you but she will thank you later...
1. Tell her parents. They will understand your concern for her and they will do what they need to with her.
2. Calmly talk to her about the dangers of sex before marriage so that she doesn't do it again.
Hope this helps... by the way...do not be scared... the more you are scared, the more she will be because pretty soon she will realize how stupid her decision was.
2007-07-15 17:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will need to make sure she is pregnant first either get her to buy a pregnancy test or if she can't afford one take her to a sexual health clinic this is confidential in case she is worried about people finding out, if she is then you need to encourage her to tell her parents they may get angry at first but they will be able to help her with the practical side of what to do and then all you can do is support her emotionally and make sure she knows whatever she decides she will have you to help her through it
2007-07-15 18:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by jenni h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first, you need to tell her parents. You can't just hide this. She is way to young to be having sex, and I hope that this teaches her, you, and everybody at your school a lesson. She needs to start growing up and being an adult right now. You need to grow up when you start doing grown up things. Abortion is defiantly not the answer. If she doesn't think that she can raise it by herself, then give the child up for adoption.
2007-07-15 17:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Kendra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to convince her to tell her parents and get help. As a matter of fact, even if she isn't pregnant, tell her parents anyway! 13 is WAY to young to be having sex and if she wasn't smart enough to wear a condom then she needs to get in trouble. It will only help her if her parents find out about this.
2007-07-15 17:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by rachel_ohanlon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is a very tough situation. You have to tell an adult that you can trust and get the girl a pregnancy test. If she is pregnant, she has to tell her parents. Always be her friend even if that means telling her parents even if she doesn't want to. her safety is very important. good luck to you
2007-07-15 17:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by starisa218 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋