should I give up with school?, should I just start working since I struggle independently with it?

Question

I feel I'm behind everyone else academically, I graduated high school last year in 2006, I'm 19, almost 20, I just finished my first year at community college but I did horrible, I was on Academic Probation both semesters, I only gained 3 passing units, when I took the placement test last summer I didn't do well on it & it put me Math 010 & English 098, which are low-level classes, which means I got a while to go & I haven't passed any of them yet. I have A.D.D., which is a reason why I struggle in Academics, & I was in Special Ed. throughout Middle School & first 2 years of High School, but not all my classes were Special Ed., basically Math & English. My parents said the reason I was put in Special Ed. in the first place is because they thought it would help me socially, because I have Asperger Syndrome, & the Special Ed. classes didn't have that many students, but I felt I didn't learn anything because I struggle today to write essays & do math or homework on my own.

also I went to middle school & first 2 years of high school in the Santa Ana Unified School District, which Santa Ana is mostly mexican, so it probably has low academic standards, like all the Special Ed. classes I was in, the students in the classes usually just messed around & didn't care, I wasn't like that, & the teachers almost never handed out homework, like the real teacher would almost always be absent, there would be a substitute most of the time, like in English classes they never taught us well how to write essays, which is a reason I still struggle to this day. Then I transferred into college prep into my junior year & it was hard, cause I was behind everyone else academically in study skills, doing homework on own, like my parents had to help me with my homework pretty much all the time in high school, man, sometimes I wish I could go back in time & start middle school all over again with college prep & continue with that all through high school.

also I don't see the point of transfering to a 4-year university because I have a while to go in community college & that means I would have missed out many years of partying & real college life, I wish I was at San Diego State from the start, anyway, the Special Ed. teachers were pretty much a waste of my time, they never really taught anything, man sometimes I hate my parents for putting me in Special Ed., cause that ruined my future for an eduacation. I don't think I was cut out for school in the first place, like I still need help from my dad when it comes to writing essays & studying on my own, well it mostly depends, & almost everyone in high school & college is able to do it on their own, I feel like I'm not a man yet for not being able to study on my own, the reason why I need help from my dad is because he helps me not get distracted, & plus I don't know what I want to major in, I regret not getting good grades in high school, I graduated with a GPA of 2.6. Thats not so good.

Answer 1

Well, you certainly didn't struggle in writing this question. You did an excellent job. Is it possible to get outside tutoring? Please don't give up school. You'll regret it. If you can, see if there's someone in your class to help you or get a professional tutor. Or take advantage of your parents' help. You're lucky to have them help you. Good Luck. If you need more social skills, look into taking a Dale Carnegie class. It's not cheap, but well worth it. Again, Good Luck.

Answer 2

Well, first, you need to stop getting down on yourself. Your parents did what they thought they had to do to help you. They did not put you in special ed, they had you tested and you qualified. There is a huge difference there. Now, as a teacher people will hate me for saying this but here it goes anyways. College is NOT for everyone. And there is nothing wrong with that. You don't have to go to college to be a police officer and the society certainly can't operate without them. That being said, I would go see your counselor at the college and maybe do some personality and interest tests. These tests usually give job ideas and might give you a better idea of what you want to do with your life. If you decide you want to pursue a job that requires a college degree, maybe you should only take 1 or 2 classes a semester. That will allow you to focus more those classes and do better in them. Either way, I would recommend you continue your education. There are a ton of technical and vocational schools out there that you could go to. Also, see if your school has some sort of Disability Support Services. It's basically special education but at the college level. They will have tutors and support available to you. No matter what you choose, good luck and keep your head up.

Answer 3

First of all graduating with a 2.6 is average. Not everyone can be at the top!

Second, don't give up on school. Just getting a certificate, associates degree, or bachelor's in anything at all opens many doors. It doesn't even matter what you get your diploma in, as long as you get one.

Think about your interests. What makes you happy? What are you good at? Go for it!

Consider a trade school. For one thing, it can be a quicker way to get into the working world with a real skill. Like you learn plumbing at a trade school, and plumbers and electricians can earn more than a business manager! Also since a trade school is specific, you might do better learning something you like. Have a look at this site:

http://www.trade-schools.net/directory/trade-schools-directory.asp

The fact that you care and that you have supportive parents is about 90% of the battle won already. Go for it! Good luck!

Answer 4

I gave up in school before once for a long time, but i tried again because i knew there's too much that i'll be missing in the world if i quit.There's just too much that u're giving up if u stop trying in school. Forget the past and focus on the future. The past is already gone, the future isn't here yet, and wat's important is now. Ask for more help on your studies to a faithful friend or teacher. Even if it feels like u're always falling, and it seems that there's just no way that u can be like your smart classmates, remember that time move on and u can't be a quitter right now because u know that there's always tomorrow where there's always a chance when u didn't give up

Answer 5

Well to begin with, all i hear is "poor me". We are dealt with a hand that may be the worst, but success in life is measured by how you play your cards. I see someone who has thrown his card on the table. Just look at your avatar, you have already branded yourself as a big time loser. You can not get anywhere until you drop the loser attitude and accept yourself for what you are, instead of bringing out excuses. Make a personal assessment of yourself and find out your strengths and work from there. I hope you get out of this rut.

Answer 6

I can only tell you what "I" did, after high school, I was pretty burned out with school, I went for one year of college and I didnt do horrible but I felt like it was all just overwhelming. So I took the year off and just focused on working and having myself a good time. And let me tell you, by the time I decided to go back, I felt excited to return, and I felt a lot better and I actually improved on my grades. So my advice would be to take a year off and if you need to, take two. When you are ready to go back, youll know it.

Answer 7

Like everyone has already said, don't give up. College opens up many doors and college has many resources that you can use--writing workshops, etc. It might be easier if you just worked one class at a time to adjust to college life and help you maintain focus--but don't quit on yourself.

PS. If not college, have you tried a trade school?

Answer 8

if you want to really make something of yourself, you really should stay in college!
it will best for the long run, believe me!
you dont want to get stuck with alow paying job for the rest of your life.. that means you will have to rely on your parents forever..and you dont want that.

i hope that u maybe find a friend who can tutor or help you through your classes!

best of luck! im rooting for you! hope you keep your future bright and remember not to give up... that is the key to success! :)

going to college and completely it will change your life for the best and you will be able to get a good job.. you can do it!!!

Answer 9

At 19 you must realise that academics is not everything. So what if you were in Sp Ed? Is there any vocational/skill based area you are interested in? Dance, drama, cartooning, art, computers, film editing, cooking...etc? Try your hand and listen to your heart it will take you a long way.

Answer 10

College is not for everyone. My two youngest brothers did not attend college. They did continue their education. One is a paramedic and the other recently decided he may go to culinary school. College may not be for you. You need to decide what your interests and abilities are and use that information to decide what additional training you might need. You may do better getting a vocational education.