How attatched to a person do you get when you have sex with them, particularly, losing your virginity to them?

Question

i heard that you become REALLY attatched to that person and i was wondering if anyone has ever gone through this or personally know someone who went through this, to what degree, and how it affects those involved.

i started dating a guy, one of my best friends in dec. 05. last summer, 07, i lost my virginity to him. mar 08, he proposes and i say yes.

if there is a connection, how much would mine be to him, approximately? and to what degree?

Answer 1

Most people who come from families with proper family values are intimate with their one true love, and Yes it does bring you much closer.

As long as everything else like communication, sharing the same interests. etc.. If you are on the same page with everything else of course.

Answer 2

DON'T LAUGH AT WHAT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND YET.
IT AFFECTS YOU ANYWAY.


Metaphysically speaking there are Psychic Sex Connections, or cords, that exist on the Astral plane (where you go when you dream) that are created between two people who have sexual relations. The cords are said to link the individuals at the second chakra level. These cords are strengthened with every further contact and must be cut to properly end the relationship. A man (or woman) may no longer be interested in the other person but may find themselves returning to them for contact, and not being able to move on to other more appropriate relationships.

If you are open to this kind of thing, you will be lead to someone who can help with this. If you are asking out of pure curiosity and would like to learn more about this and other invisible phenomena affecting all of us every day, there are many out there who can help you.

Best of luck, and love.

Answer 3

I believe that everyone you have sex with you become emotionally attached to, if you actually have a relationship with them....
No one can tell you how this will affect you in your situation....you have to look deep into your heart and evaluate the situation TRUTHFULLY for yourself....
Make sure that you really do love this guy....marriage is hard, believe that, but it's worth it!
Ask yourself some questions and answer them truthfully...with eyes wide open....life isn't a fairy tale, so you really have to be honest with yourself.....honesty can prevent heartache....
You need to look at him objectively....look at his good AND bad points....after all you won't be changing any of his bad points....and ask yourself if you could deal with these things for the rest of your life....reminder, that's how long marriage is supposed to last, ....if they are, then great...if you have doubts or get a definite no answer, don't do it!!!
Remember this....LOVE IS A CHOICE... noone can fall out of love with someone, it's always a choice....make sure that you are ready to make that choice and that you go into it with your eyes wide open.....

Answer 4

I saved myself until I thought it was right the first time, for the man I married. He was everything I was looking for at the time - sweet, attentive, strong, masculine, and smart. I was 21 (yes.. believe it or not, 21). I was extremely attached to him after we had sex because it affirmed my love for him, and I thought it brought us closer. And, it did for a while.
But, he ended up cheating on me while we were married, and left me for an ex-girlfriend.
My point of this horror story is not to scare you, it's to tell you that for women especially, yes we tend to get very attached, and it's usually not really a "casual sex" thing for us the first time. So, be careful in choosing who you loose your virginity to. Make sure you're sure, and that you use protection! That's the most important thing. You don't want to interpret his feelings wrong (not that he would, I'm just saying), then get yourself in a situation that will have negative, lasting affects. It only takes one time - remember that.
It'll mostly likely be awkward the first time, and not everything you expect it to be (feeling wise), but that's normal. Try to enjoy it, just use caution.
Good luck.... and enjoy!

Answer 5

I married the first guy I was with and thinking it was the right thing to do, because of sex, I married him and ended up miserable all of my life because I missed out on so much of a young life by being attached permanently to a man I did not really know. Don't do that to yourself, it is no fun.

Answer 6

You always remember "your first" whether he was your first love or a fling.. You will always remember.. .I lost mine to a man that I truly loved and thought that we would be together forever.. I was STUPID and young... We were going to get married blah, blah.. He was a wee bit older than I was and we dated for 2 yrs. prior to losing the "v". So, I thought Wow he must really care.. Well, he turned out to be a big loser, and was cheating on me with my friend, but he was my first, so there's a special place for him in my heart.. I have since run into him years and years later and he has apologized and wishes that things had turned out differently...
I was my husbands first.. In high school... We married 12 yrs. later... We have two children ages 1 and 3 yrs...

Answer 7

Well, I went through it a long time ago...and I do still occasionally think of the partner in a special way. I know the partner (of the other sex) thought of me, too, because the partner once tried to find me, though I didn't learn of that 'til too late and the partner was out of the country. It was a very sweet experience, though, important to us both since the partner was also a virgin.
And we went on with our lives...both happy with the safe and shared experience.
Be safe, be sure, be happy.

Answer 8

Its a fact the first person to make love to you{as opposed to just having sex} always holds a special place in your heart!

Answer 9

yes there is a chemical transferance -kinda like drugs -it will tend to get any open heart hooked, yet if one heart is closed they are ready to move on to the next victim=well I would say you have to pick and check their history with others-if one is mean to another soorner or later he will be mean to you too. Please dont date a guy unless he is kind and you feel you would like him best in all the world to be with forever.
Its important he believes in honor and is not abusive. It is important to turn to Jesus and find non abusive relationships in Jesus amazing grace=Romans 1 repented of sin to be thankful and worship the creator instead of the created. Jesus is the only Person who offers the unconditional acceptance that your heart craves. Your true identity is a beautiful, celebrated, daughter of God (Isaiah 62:3-4).
On the other hand, the affection of a bad boy is always performance-based. Jesus, however, sacrificed His life to love you without expecting anything in return. Your desire to feel cherished and complete can only be met by Christ (Colossians 2:10). If you do not learn to get your need for love met in Him, then your heart can be vulnerable to a bad boy’s charisma.
In addition, human relationships only experience intimacy when both parties sacrifice for each other. By definition, a bad boy is unwilling to offer you sacrificial love. So don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are immune to his lack of integrity. You must be willing to walk away from a man who is unwilling to sacrifice for your needs.
Also, don’t attempt to fix a bad boy’s character flaws. Only Jesus Christ can change a man, and it generally takes years to see real improvement. Change is possible, but a man must be willing to surrender himself to God and take action. First John 4:19 says, “We love, because He first loved us.” This verse reveals that a man’s ability to love a woman is only found in the life that Jesus offers to live through him. A real man knows that he can do nothing apart from Christ (John 15:5). Therefore, ladies, reserve your heart for a guy who will rely upon Christ to love you.
Bad boys may be more common than men with character, but waiting for a man with integrity is worth it.

prayin for you, and best wishes, in Jesus care John 3 worked for me

Answer 10

I fell in love with the guy i lost it too. i was head over heels in love with him. I wouldve done anything for him. It was kinda sad but i was obsessed. THats waht happens to most girls. just do your homework on him and be careful who you give your heart too.