My finace' hates my dog. I will not give her away, is this a sign we shouldn't be together?

Answer 1

Keep the dog and get rid of the fiance.

If your fiance forces you to get rid of your dog, that would be the beginning of a controlling relationship. What else would he make you do against your will?

A dog's love is unconditional. Sounds like your fiance's love is conditional.

Answer 2

Well I think you need to provide reasoning why he hates your dog?

Do you not discipline your dog and he/she craps on your fiances shoes every weekend? Are you overly dramatic about the dog (yeah IT IS just a dog) and he feels like time is taken away from your relationship?

If the answer is no, then you need to know why. Is he jealous? If so, then that is just LAME that he is competing with a dog LOL! And if he is just an animal hater (or not tolerant) this is not a good sign and he will not make a suitable husband and definitely not a good father.

I have a cat and when my ex came over she would spend the weekend in the other room. The man I was currently dating could not get her off his backpack, it was very sweet. It made me realize how sad I was that my ex hated my cat.

Answer 3

No, it means you should get rid of the dog. Dogs usually cause a lot more trouble than enjoyment, and they're ridiculously expensive. They have a ridiculously large amount of rights that other animals don't have. Some animals that are on the verge of becoming extinct can be hunted and eaten, but dogs can barely even get injured without an entire lawsuit breaking out.

Any relationship will require sacrifice from both sides, so you'll have to decide whether you love your dog or your fiancee more. It's illegal to make love to your dog, so, if it were me, I'd choose the fiancee.

Answer 4

You don't give enough info to allow us to give you a decent answer. Does the dog like your fiance'? Or does the dog dislike your fiance'? How do others feel about the dog, and vice-versa? Is the dog a problem animal, aggressive, etc? I usually consider people's feelings about animals a very strong barometer of their personality, and usually, if they don't like animals, that's a strong sign, to me, that they are probably NOT the kind of person I'd want to be with. I have found that most people who dislike animals are usually lacking when it comes to empathy and compassion, both for animals and other humans. If he's trying to make you give your dog away, HE'S THE WRONG GUY for you.
BUT, having said that, here's an example from my own life: my girlfriend of 28 years and I both love animals. I have always gotten along great with all of her critters, except this one dog she's had for about 10 years: a snotty little Pomeranian named "Little." This dog controls her (she refuses to master the dog, or discipline him), terroizes visitors, and he's already bitten a number of people, and tried to bite me. You can't even sit on the couch next to my girl without the dog violently attacking you. I've told her, repeatedly, that she MUST master and discipline this little furry hazard, because someday he'll bite the wrong person, and that person will have every legal right to have the dog impounded and probably euthanized. So, I don't like her dog, either, even though I get along well with all animals. But, the dog knows not to try anything with me because I've managed to let him know, in no uncertain terms, that if he gets aggressive with me, I can "out-Alpha" him. I am also hoping to build a home for the my girlfriend and I, but at that point, she'll be given an ultimatum: if you want to live in my home, and get out of the cruddy, gang-and-drug-infested Section-8 housing you're in now, the dog must be given another home, preferably with our daughter.
So, there may be two sides to your problem.
And, I don't agree with the idea that it's "just a dog." I have had far better friendships with animals than I've had with most people. Anyone who says "people are more important than animals," is just the kind of abusive person you need to avoid. Animals give us truly unconditional love in a way that most humans could only ever hope to do.

Answer 5

Why does he hate your dog? Is it ill mannered? Vicious?

Hard to say it's a "sign" if you don't give more detail. Besides, didn't you know he hated your dog before you accepted his proposal? Sounds like you might be looking for an excuse to get out of the engagement.

Answer 6

If someone loves you, they won't ask you to change things about your life. Your dog is part of your life & I find it selfish that your fiance is asking this. What's next? Your hair, the place you live, or the friends you have? A dog IS a small deal, but if your fiance is picking about something that small, I'd worry about what things are to come.

Answer 7

If you fiance' doesn't like your dog, you don't know how they will interact when you are not there.
I would say this is an issue to be taken very seriously.
Pets are a huge responsibility.
If you decide to find someone else who has interest as a Pet Parent, you can use a dating service like Pet Flames, who specificaly target Pet Parent compatibility.

http://petflames.com

Answer 8

Does he hate this one dog or all dogs. In case the latter, you can plan your life w/o any dogs if that's acceptable to u. Don't hope u can change him. Kind of taking a long time to come to this point.

Answer 9

You've got to be kidding.

You'd break up with a human being that you love because he doesn't like your dog?

Listen lady....the dog is an ANIMAL......do you understand? An animal. Yes we love our pets and they fulfill us in ways we enjoy, but you're talking about a person.....someone you love and respect and admire and think about and are considering spending the rest of your life with.

This takes precedence over a freaking animal....ok. Maybe the guy just doesn't like your dog. I don't know why, but if he doesn't like it he doesn't like it. Respect that, but get with the program....he's a human being and the dog is an animal. Stop putting the damn dog up on a pedestal and put a PERSON up there.

I'm sure the guy would accept the dog as long as you don't give the dog more attention and affection than you do him..and if you do, then I don't blame the guy for being sour toward the dog.

If the guy has ill wills against the dog for no reason and you feel he will hurt the dog then maybe he is a poor choice to be in your life to begin with.

Answer 10

I guess this is kind of "the tip of the iceberg" kind of thing...

You must learn how to pick your battles and how to compromise, if you are planning on getting married!

(I, for one, love animals and have a dog. If my fiance hated her and tried to blackmail me or manipulate me into giving her away, I'd be thinking things over.....RED FLAGS HERE...)