did anyone grow up with disfunctional weird parents that deeply upset you growing up & still do?,howd you cope

Question

with it?~ parents that hurt you and made you feel insecure? howd you deal with it?

Answer 1

yes i grew up with a dysfunctional mother.while in school i was the child that sat in the back,kept to myself didn't do very well in school,didn't have many friends and didn't talk very much.i graduated not knowing very much because of being placed in slow classes.i went through life allowing many people to take advantage of me.i dated the wrong kind of guys and married one that was dysfunctional,which caused more damage to me and to our two children.my body started breaking down,i had out of control panic attacks i didn't know what was wrong with me.i went to see a psychiatrist,he diagnosed me having p.t.s depression and anxiety.i have learned that if you yell,scream,hit,threaten,put fear or do any thing damaging to your child or to anybody you can cause that person to have depression,emotional health problems,behavior problems and many other disorders.i have been reciving help to correct the damage that was done to me now for just over 10 years.iv'e come along ways.i am coping because of the people that care enough to help me.i am now living with the guilt of not protecting my children 100%.i feel i should of done more.now i am watching them go through what iv'e been going through to get well.i don't hold any thing against my mother or my childrens father,they repeated only what they learned growing up.i am so grateful that the Lord gave me the courage to get the help i needed and to break the cycle of abuse in our families.

Answer 2

I'm 38 and still dealing with it.

Take a risk, travel across country on your own. Do something that you don't think you can do.

You need to break free of it. I love my parents dearly, but they just didn't get it.

Answer 3

Sorry, you got me there. My parents were very down to earth, although my father and I did not see eye to eye. I at time had trouble understanding him, we disagreed on about everything. I hear it is the first child and first boy problem with fathers.

Answer 4

Dealing with toxic people requires you to set boundaries and put distance between you. Forgiving helps to cope, letting it go, venting, therapy, writing UNSENT letters then burning them.

Answer 5

whenever i get mad or pissed off at my parents i would run, that would allow me to let out all the anger and all the hate that i was carrying, u should try it. that way u wont say or do something that u might regret later

Answer 6

I shot them both and buried them out in the Arizona desert.