teenager asking adults for info?

Question

hi im 18 and i just wanted to know why parents are so afraid to disapline their kids any more?
i mean you see it in the store kicking and screaming
you see other teens curse at their parents for not buying something
why no disapline

Answer 1

Because the world is slwoly loosing all morals, parents are becoming afraid to stand up to their children so they don't 'hurt' them, and nowadays parents are at risk for being sent to jail. The government is slowly taking over everything, trying to make this a better enviroment, but they don't realize that the smallest things make the biggest differences. People who grew up with discipline back then, turned out great, and if you take a look around currently, you see more and more kids growing up not knowing right from wrong...it's horrible.

Answer 2

ignoring a child can be the worst punishment to them. Children do the behaviors you describe for attention. I find what works best with my boys now is to ignore the temper tantrums and praise the good stuff and they have changed a lot with that.

As for the discipline it just depends on what you consider discipline. Each child is different as is every parent. Add on top of that the fact that leaving a mark on your child can be considered abuse and you could lose your child just for loosing you cool and hitting them. Alot of parents though do choose timeouts (extended ignore), ignore, redirection, positve praise of the good stuff....... and find the end result to be worth the time and energy. Parenting is hard work but some parents think you can have a kid, scream and hit them and expect them to respect and listen to you and that is that. They don't want to be real parents just authoritarians with total control. I will say that my kids were the ones kicking and screaming in the store when they didn't get their way but over time with ignoring the tantrums that has pretty much stopped. You have to keep in mind that it takes 18-21 years to raise a child to be a good member of society and learn just the beginning of lifes lessons. To prepare them. To see a 2 year old screaming in the middle of the isle at the grocery store because he didn't get his way is very common, children test the limits. Just ignore the children when you see them doing it because even attention from you will make them do it more the next time. It is all about attention, and avoiding punishment. Some kids want to push their parents buttons with the cussing and such just to distract them from the real problems.

Answer 3

megan_trigg2000 and Monstrar are very correct in their answers. Most parents try to be that cool mom or cool dad and as the kids grow up they become more mature and start taking advantage of it. Their mindset is that well they let me get away with this and that so maybe i should do this and that since i got away with this and that. It starts with little things like cursing, then escalates to sneaking out, then to underage drinking and smoking. And as monstrar said telling a child to go to a corner for timeout is not punishment. That's just giving them time to learn how to build a bomb or some sh!t. And then definition of being grounded has changed so much because, parents still let their kids go out while they are supposed to be grounded. In my household, being grounded is like going to jail they take your cell phone, TV, computer, you can only come out of your room at certain times of the day, visitation and house phone hours are limited, and absolutely no outside recreation. Parents can be a friend to their children at times, but when they get out of line that's when its time to be mom and dad again.

Answer 4

I have a 10 month old son that I'm trying very hard to raise right. Hopefully he'll end up as a caring respectable boy. I think that some people don't discipline their kids like they use is because now a days it seems like you can just get arrested for child abuse by just looking at your kid wrong. I think a lot of people have that fear in the back of their minds, and don't really yell at them like they use too.

Answer 5

I think some parents want to be buddy buddy with them and others are afraid to because you even spank your kid anymore and it is called abuse it seems like. My brother has 3 kids 6 5 and 2 and he discplines he doesn't care if they get out of line he nips it in the bud

Answer 6

My mom did that to me when I was a little girl, I would act up and she would discipline me, those parents need to realize that they are older than their children, so when they are being nice, then those kids are just going to end up doing it again, maybe this time at home, or someone else's home, or somewhere.

Answer 7

These days discipline can get you into alot of trouble. Just spanking your child can get you sent to jail. There are other ways of punishment but alot of times those techniques do not seem to work. Or at least not in my case. My son is very stubborn and punishing him is just about pointless. Spankings don't even work with him. But I believe that most parents these days have just quit trying to discipline their children, which is truely a shame.

Answer 8

I really dont see that in the stores. And Im there with my toddlers alot, where I do see some toddlers have meltdowns, but thats not a discipline thing, thats being a toddler.

What kind of stores do you see this at?

Answer 9

Because the generation in America that is currently parenting the youngest generation is very retarded and too worried about loosing weight and getting plastic surgery.

Answer 10

Because you have all these activists that have nothing better to do than go around stcking their nose in everybody else's business making it illegal for parents to give their kid a spanking & now parents are afraid to swat their own children who they raise, clothe, & feed.