Not at all!! When you forgive someone for abusing you, you are actually doing it for yourself not for the abuser. What this does is it lets you say I am over being angry with you so now I can move on with my life. I'm not going to let this anger eat away at me anymore. Now that I forgive you, you own this!! You can live with what you have done, I'm over letting it eat away at me and ruin my life!! It is not saying what you did is OK, and that you are OK to hurt others. But you own it now!!!
2007-07-17 06:57:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes, I do believe that is what your forgiveness implies.
Abuse needs to be stopped in its tracks, or those who let it carry on become as guilty as the abuser.
2007-07-15 09:08:11
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answered by Anonymous
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It is usually best, in cases like that, to NOT TELL the one you are forgiving. After all isn't forgiveness really for the giver? You could be right, telling them could be giving them permission.
2007-07-15 09:09:56
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answered by phil8656 7
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No. You're saying I'm taking control of my life and I refuse to live in the jail cell you meant for me. You're saying you can look in any mirror and love the person staring back at you. You're saying you have walked through flames and have come out uncharred. You're saying you are a winner. You are strong.
2007-07-15 09:10:25
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answered by Anonymous
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