i am trying to deal with the death of my grandmother she turned 101 on july 8 and she passed away july 9th as far back as i can remember my first call every day would be my grandmother and i keep calling her number and i am having the hardest time any suggestions
2007-07-15 08:44:59 · 11 answers · asked by tnsupermomwhit 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
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2007-07-15 09:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 16⤊ 1⤋
I am very sorry that your grandmother died. This is very difficult and the best way to deal with it is to grieve and let time heal. Don't be ashamed that you feel very upset- it is pefectly normal and you have every right to be sad. If your grandmother believed in God then rest in the promise that she is in Heaven now. Remember that you have not lost your grandmother. She may not be living, but she is alive in your heart and your memories. Perhaps you can make a scrap book with pictures of her when you feel up to it. The death of a loved one is always difficult but you will get past it in time. God bless.
2007-07-15 15:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU CANNOT "COPE."
Don't try to cope. Mourn, grieve, allow yourself the pain. It may be excruciating, but have faith that you have COURAGE.
My mother burned to death, when I was five and one half; I still heard the telephone ringing asking for me to save her, when I was in my twenties.
My suggestion
Accept this pain.
Keep calling her and pretending she is on the other side of the line, sing with her, cry with her.
Don't let the good die silently. "Rage, rage against the dying of the light."* Be the voice of your grandmother!
In time, you will (sadly or not) bore of this, and you will have accepted her separation.
I lost my mom to flames; there is nothing that heals loss but the admission of it, the indulgence in it, and time, itself.
I am envious of you, to be honest, that you had a person whom you called the first thing every morning. I wish you luck in talking to her, telephoning her "in Heaven," whether or not you are religious. It's a magic that heals.
As my own dear mother did for her dead dad, dial the phone (seriously) and talk to your gandmother, sing to her, ask her questions, until your whole being--not just your mind-can accept the trauma.
I am not religious, but I still, somehow, talk to my mom in heaven....
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2007-07-16 04:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just want to tell you I'm so so so sorry. My husband lost his grandmother last October. He was closer to her then his own parents. He is still trying to cope with it. The only closure he gets is that he knows she is there with him everyday. I don't think you ever get over loosing someone close to you. You just need remember every moment you spent together, and Cherish that time. Someday you will see her again and she'll look healthier then you've ever seen her. Keep your head up and know she'll always be with you. Take care of yourself, and best wishes to you, and your family during this hard time.
2007-07-15 16:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by That Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My theory about my self is that I relate to my own death the death of others and my own needs and fears. My dead body feels no pain and knows no sorrow, but perhaps I am reborn in one way or an other. Naturally I want to see for my self, but I guess I'll just have to postpone that until whenever.
2007-07-16 23:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry for your loss ...even i haven't found the solution to this problem...we can't help it when we get used to someone..i say try to think deeply and realize that every living has to end sometime..somewhere..and therefore live your life right...be peaceful with yourself.. always smile..and work hard ..love deeply but don't put your self down and feel awful or guilty unless you made a mistake..your dearest grandmother was very close to you ..that's why you feel terrible and that's normal...but try to make your heart stronger..don't worry you will be strong by time ^_^ all the best.
2007-07-15 18:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by RoChEr 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to come to grips with the awful thing we call death is a part of life. Its all in the bible and God says its your time, its your time. Her work on earth was done and he called her home to the wonderful paradise she deserves. But always remember the special memories and the ones in your heart cause she is watching from above and its a much better place than what we are living in now. You are in my prayers.
2007-07-15 16:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by tanya g 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is really sad and I am sorry for your loss but take comfort in the fact that she clearly loved you very much and she had a very long and interesting life. Now she has moved on and you can still remember her fondly and remember all the happy times.
2007-07-15 17:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by lacldc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry for your loss, you will be in my thoughts and prayers......I would make a special memory spot, and put her picture and something special of hers there, then in the morning go over and say hello to your memory area....
She lead a long life, and you were so blessed to have her as long as you did....remember the good times, and time will heal the wounds.
2007-07-15 16:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by Reda T 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just think about the good times you spent with her. one day you will be with her again. remember, she is watching over you. best of luck to you.
2007-07-15 15:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by whatevaa♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋