or do you tolerate everything to provide a full family to your children
2007-07-15 08:20:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are married with children,and you are unhappy with your husband than you have the obligation to try every possible solution to make your marriage work.However if you are absolutely sure that your marriage cannot be salvaged and there is no chance for you to be happy than at that point it is time for a divorce.
2007-07-15 09:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Julius C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not "tolerate everything" in my marriage for the sake of being an intact family, but having kids does make you try harder. Certain things are deal breakers--drug use, alcoholism, mental illness that they refuse to treat, adultery, mental and/or physical abuse. Those things are not a part of a healthy family, nor are they conducive to good parenting. So if I had to choose between an unhealthy environment with the family staying together OR divorcing, I'd choose divorce.
Your kids will at least be able to see one parent who is functional and healthy. By staying a part of such madness, you are teaching them it is okay to live in a very bad situation and not to ask for what you need to be healthy.
2007-07-15 15:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by wildatheart 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am married and I thought and talked about getting a divorced with my husband. We do fight a lot and he is still in that stage of immature. He always leave me out and it is always about him than we. And plus the biggest problem we have is that we are staying at his parents house. And I don't have privacy because she is always on our business or walking in the room without knocking. We don't have children...thank goodness. I do believe in divorce and I would get one if it doesn't work out. At the same time I don't understand men...they give you the world but once you get married you are more distant, well that's the case with my husband and I.
The reason why I believe in divorce is because my dad was an mental and sometimes physical abuser. He would yell everyday and it seemed that he didn't like the marriage and giving my mother hell. And my mother swallow her pride and took it all just because her children. And to be honest I grow distant from my family...hating my father and my family. I did wish my parents did get a divorced but they didn't. I am 24 and I am trying to have relationship with my family but I am still distant. It does affect children when you live in a abusive home. Trust me I am one of them.
2007-07-15 16:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by racinimod 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I ever get married I wouldn't want a divorce. If you stay in the marriage cause you want a family for your kids they're going to see you guys fighting and arguing they're going to suffer, if you are distant with your husband you know get divorce and kids won't see that fighting but still suffer cause they won't have both parents but you won't be dragging them into an emotional abusive environment. Who knows maybe that way later you guys can make things work and if not at least to get along better than together.
2007-07-15 15:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am on the verge of divorce myself and its at a point where it is in the best interest of my children that we call it a day i still have feelings for my husband but i don't want my children to see us fighting every time he comes home. i wish thing's were different but i am going too have to do this to prevent my kids seeing the fights and having the same horrible childhood i had i want good memories for my babies.
2007-07-15 16:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having your family intact but dysfunctional will cause FAR more damage to the children than a divorce will.
Having two HAPPY parents is MUCH better for their mental & emotional well-being, even if to be happy the parents must divorce.
2007-07-15 15:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hell no if its to the piont where you cant take it anymore then you need to get your stuff and go even if you do have children if they ove you(thier mom or dad) because who knows what a bad marrige can do like you may turn to the same sex or even kill yourself so yes i believe in divorcing even if you have kids
2007-07-15 15:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy dont go through the pain. Your kids and everyone else will/have to get over it. My fiance is now divorced from his ex and he was very un-happy. After he got divorced he is the happiest ive ever saw him.
2007-07-15 17:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by sissy85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I support divorce when their is physical abuse and infidelity. The most important thing is for yourself and your children to be in a healthy family environment.
2007-07-15 15:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, are we a full family if the parents aren't happy? Children are smart and they know when something is amiss with their parents.
2007-07-15 16:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋