They found out through my myspace, where I had been posting ultrasound pics and updates. Now they messaged me wanting to meet me and their granddaughter when she is born. My boyfriend isn't close at all with his parents. How do I tell him about their request? I am sure they feel hurt that he hid it from them all this time. Ideas?
2007-07-15 08:17:30 · 6 answers · asked by Alyssa and Chloe's Mommy 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You should let them see their granddaughter!! No matter what the boyfriend did or did not do they will surely love your little girl!! And they will enhance her life as do all ppl who love our children. Just tell him that his parents have asked about the baby and why didnt he tell them?
2007-07-15 08:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would just tell him that I recieved a myspace message that I thought he should read and then let him read it. He may not react how you think he might. Since he's not close with his parents, he was probably unsure how they'd react or knew they might react negatively and he just didn't want to deal with that. Nonetheless, his parents have a right to know their grandchild whether he likes it or not unless they are in some way a danger to the child. It shouldn't matter whether he's close with them or not. Part of being an adult is doing what's right and not just doing what you feel like or want to do. And part of being a parent is doing what is in the best interest of the child whether or not it's something you like or want. I think once he sees that they are accepting of the situation, he may loosen up a bit.
Or if you don't like the idea of letting him read the myspace message then just say that you've been thinking and ask him what he would think about or want to do if his parents wanted to see the baby after it was born and judge his reaction based on that question and then go from there... either way, congrats to both of you and good luck with everything...
2007-07-15 15:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by Love Me or Hate Me... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as grandparents they have a right to at least meet their granddaughter. Plus, as your daughter grows up, she's more than likely going to want to have a relationship with them anyhow.
Now this is assuming your boyfriend's parents are decent people. If they molested or abused their own children or something like that, that's a whole different story.
2007-07-15 15:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sturm und Drang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. They are her grandparents and she has a right to know them provided they are safe for her to know. You all don't have to become best friends or anything, but this is the cycle of life. And babies have a way of bonding other family members as well! What have you got to lose really? Can't lose what you don't have to begin with!
2007-07-15 15:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kishauna_P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wasn't close to my mom until after I had my baby, and I know that my daughter has improved my relationship with my mom. Perhaps the same can happen with your boyfriend.
Just show him the mesage if you can, and let him make hi mind up. Don't force him to decide one way or the other, just let him come to a decision on his own.
2007-07-15 15:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to talk to his parents. and since this is the most important time of both of y'alls life, than it's good to be close to both his parents and yours. congrats! good luck!
2007-07-15 15:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by dmt479 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋