OK, some of you warned me. My husband and I tried our first threesome recently, and it was great! I got to experience two guys for the first time, and it was the best ever. Our deal was that we'd only do this once a month, but I can't stop thinking about it. Every time we make love, I imagine having another guy there. I'm not romantically interested in the other man, I just want the satisfaction! Should I tell my husband, or just wait until the end of the month?
2007-07-15 08:16:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I remember right, your deal was to alternate another man with another woman, right? I agree that asking to have the guy come back right away might make your husband a little nervous, but if you said "Hey, that was great! I want you to have the same pleasure. Why don't we invite the woman now?" He'd probably be thrilled. And I suspect you would love it was well. It may turn out that neither of you wants to do this only once a month, but that it becomes a regular part of your lives. Bon appetit!
2007-07-15 08:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
You're married to your husband, not to the other guy.
So you're entitled to sex with your husband, but not the other guy.
Being that your husband is "allowing" this threesome to happen, I wouldn't go rocking the boat.
If he knows that you are more interested in having the threesome than with being with just him, he might want to call the whole thing off and say "no more".
Then what would you do?
So you should just take it when he agrees to it, and try to put more interest into your husband.
You owe that to him.
Now other questions I have for you:
What would you do if your husband said he wants a threesome with a "woman" this time?
Would that be ok with you?
And what if your husband was more interested in "that threesome" more so than you, how would that make you feel?
You need to think about that ;)
2007-07-15 08:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would just wait till the end of the month and see if you still continue to think about it after that. Do you imagine the guy just there watching the two of you or do you think of him joining in. If it is just the watching then I think it is not that big of a deal.
2007-07-15 08:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok advice from the no spin zone. Been there done that. Threesomes can be alot of fun but be carefull. I know I had alot of resentment towards my wife(soon to be divorced) partly because of this issue. it seemed like it was ok as long as it was her getting to be with 2 men. But hey there was hell to pay if I wanted to do something. communication is the key to this. You can tell your husband the truth but at the same time you have to be open minded to his needs as well. If it isn't right for both, it isn't right.
2007-07-15 08:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it... there is lots of information on www.swingular.com
Also, if you do decide to make it a part of your lifestyle, then lay down some very clear rules. Such as, you only play together. No one on one with another person of the opposite sex (or same sex for that matter).
Be clear, and communicate. You've already taken the major step, you've done it, you're okay after it, now plan out the future of it...
And enjoy!
2007-07-15 09:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Seth F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the fun when it's 2 women and 1 man
2007-07-15 08:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should be open with your husband and tell him the truth. Make it clear you are not romantically intrested in him.Who knows what will happen...maybe you two should try some new postions.
2007-07-15 08:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by frapresident 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tread lightly a mans ego is very fragile especially if he thinks he can't satisfy you. romantically or not you are likely to hurt your husbands feelings. suggest to him that you try it out with another woman so he can get into the action too.
2007-07-15 08:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by ucoshannon 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi, he might be feeling the same way as you. So, talk to him. Maybe you can have your cake and eat it too. LOL I have done this and I know how you are feeling. You just crave the pleasure it brings...
What Jay said is true too. :)
2007-07-15 08:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait until the end of the month, sounds like fun though!! don't tell him you want it more frequent though because he might think you're unsatisfied with him and that could put a strain on the relationship.
2007-07-15 08:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋