Of late my wife has been telling me about her fantasy of going to a discotheque and having a one night stand with a stranger.First i thought she was joking but,she seems serious.She has been convincing me that there is nothing wrong with that and many people these days have been swinging or trying to experiment beyond marriage.She says that its something that she wants to try in life.In our marriage its she who has an upper hand and all decisions are taken by her.A couple of days back she took me to a disc and said that to start with may be she will just dance with someone in my presence.She danced with a stranger and she paired me up with one of her friends.The stranger and she did get very cosy but they did not have sex.She thanked me and told me that the next time she would like to go ahead.I really dont know what to do.....i want guidance from married people who have faced similar sutuations.I am too henpecked a man.....I really fear my wife.
2007-07-15 08:03:45 · 14 answers · asked by Silvio D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um..........this really seems to be a theme for you doesn't it? I looked at your previous questions and they all dealt with this issue in some form. Pardon me if I'm being presumptous but it is possible that this is all just a fantasy of yours?????
2007-07-15 08:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. I would be freakin out. I am extremely over protective, so I am probably not the best option to go with. I would not let her do it. The reason she wants to do it is because when you meet a new person, hormones are produced, the same hormones found in some chocolate, anyways when you meet someone new, there is all those new feelings of what they might be like, getting to know them, etc. Reason most people comit adultry. While her liking the idea is a human natural response, it is not something to encourage. This type of thinking leads into cheating which kills marriages, so its pretty safe to say that it isn't somethign you want to support.
2007-07-15 08:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen man, Im only 21 years old but anyone can sense a problem arising like yours. Im my Opinion that is compltely wrong. When you get married you're supposed to be with only that 1 person the rest of your life. It doesn't matter what the circumstances are. You need to have a long talk with your woman, and see what she needs from you. Maybe you are lacking something that she needs from someone else. Personally, If i was married and my so called "wife" wanted to be with another man, that would be the end of the story. Check yourself and her. Don't let her push you around! keep it real man.
2007-07-15 08:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by imakamoze 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My (ex) wife had similar thoughts. I thought it was all talk too until I found out (by finding several notebooks full of sexually explicit writings with other men) that she was having affairs. Don't tolerate it no matter how "henpecked" you think you are. If she is wanting to have sex with other men than let her. Just make sure you are divorced and are checked for any sexually transmitted diseases. She may have already been sleeping around and bringing it up to you to cover her indiscretions.
2007-07-15 08:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by egghead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've gone further than I as to allow your wife interact with strangers. However, my wife also brought up this topic of fantasy having her encounter another male for sex. The truth is, my wife was a virgin before I've taken that away from her. With this said, it naturally got her curious about having another man to experience and that I was experienced with other women.
I am very confident about myself and also understand my wife's fantasy. I would definately let her go through with it but I would have to be somehow involved. With me saying that, I would set ground rules. It must be a "win win" situation.
My suggestion to you is to ask yourself if you can handle this lifestyle and that do you trust her. To only move to the next level, trust is key.
2007-07-18 04:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Destro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is asking for your permission to commit adultery. Tell her this is out of the question. She is married to you, and your marriage vows are sacred. In addition, she could pick up a nasty disease from some stranger. If she wants to swing, take her to a children's playground to the swing set. Good luck.
2007-07-15 08:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This type of relationship is meant for people who need a divorce. They decide to ask for an open marriage instead of getting a divorce. Either way, any spouse who lets the other sleep with another person doesnt care about them.
2007-07-15 08:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many years ago I felt that an open relationship was the way to go.
Boy was I wrong.
I'm not sure either of you are prepared for the emotional roller coaster that this will bring.
If either of you have any reservations, the best solution is to not do it.
I learned the hard way that I am not equipped to share.
Don't allow this, you will be better off.
2007-07-15 09:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you so henpecked that you cannot open your mouth and tell your wife that if she breaks her marriage vow to forsake all others and keep herself only for you or you will leave her then you deserve whatever you get. I don't understand why you are complaining.
2007-07-15 08:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the problem in your relationship is that you have let your wife take the lead,and she sees you as a follower,tell her that in no way are you going to allow this stand up to her,once she gets involved with someone else she is no longer yours,and this problem will grow,your wife and you need counseling,be a man and say no way Jose.
2007-07-19 07:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by luka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋