Abortion rights: Shouldn't men have a choice?

Question

Women keep repeating the phrase "my body, my choice." They forget that they wouldn't have a life within to decide the fate of without the help of a MAN. I don't need to tell you about the egg and the sperm, we should be beyond 6th grade health class.

There are men out there that are truly heartbroken when they find out, usually too late, that their child was murdered. Why don't they have a choice?

Why aren't men standing up for their unborn in the courts, and shouting that they should have rights too?

Funny, how I'm automatically assumed to be male. Don't be so presumptuous. Women DO question abortion, believe it or not.

Answer 1

Because men are well known for their ability to turn their backs on their offspring when things get too hard / uninteresting.

Answer 2

Ideally, both involved should discuss what the next step should be. But, the law is the law !! For some couples ( whether husband & wife or boyfriend & girlfriend ), one person wants to have the baby and the other doesn't. Whether they feel that they're not ready to start a family or are just scared. It is not fair if the female doesn't even tell the other about the pregnancy until after the termination. This has been an ongoing debate and probably will be for a very long time. Needless to say, if the pregnancy is the result of being raped, she has the right to terminate. Men, otherwise, should have a choice. But, the law is the law, whether we like it or not.

Answer 3

Great Question:

The fact that men do not have a say in the choice is because of a law that was passed by the Supreme Court and not that of a legal bill put forth by Congress and then signed by any president is the reason(Rowe v. Wade). Way was this one and only law passed by the Supreme Court and never by Congress. I always thought that a law must first be a bill sent to the Hill for congress to pass and then the president to sign and then turned to law. The Supreme Court this one time decided that they would make a presidence in this one case and turn it to law before any one elected offical had a chance to look at or even say anything one way or the other about it.


When they did this it left room enough to Drive a Semi-Truck through; sence then there have been over 1000 amendments added to it and NOT ONE of them that says a man has a Right to say that they would be a willing parent.

It has been taken back to the Supreme Court by men that have said that their rights a father have been infrenged upon and each time has been throwen out because the courts both lower and the higher court say's father (expecting fathers) have NO say in what a woman dose with their bodies.

But today congress will pass amendments to the law but will not say that the law was brought forth by the Supreme Court without the congresses OK first.

Answer 4

In a pregnancy, what is a woman risking? Yes, the field of obstetrics has made huge progress in the last 150 years, but do you know what the leading cause of death among women was back then?... It sure wasn't cancer or heart disease... Childbirth still causes death occasionally.

In a pregnancy, what is a man risking?... Well, I guess you're right- a guy can die from a pregnancy, but only if the woman's father or brother(s) gets involved.



I agree that the father of the unborn should have a say in the matter, but as pro-choicers say, it is her body and her life that is monumentally affected.


PS--
No, I'm not saying that I support abortion- in fact, I don't-- Sure, choices are important, so important that I think the baby should have some of them, as well!

One comment that I'd like to add to the issue of child support being required of a father... If a father chooses, he can relinquish his paternal rights- this basically gets him out of being responsible for anything, but it also gives him no claim on time with the child. I guess it's a legal version of the medical procedure... legally severing ties to the child.

Answer 5

This is one of the major arguments with abortion. Courts are not know for their speed. If a woman informs a man she is pregnant, and desiring an abortion, there is not enough time to argue this in court. Hence, the man has no rights.

The man has no rights until the child is born. At that time, the woman can petition for child support. They are not required to be married. He can be held responsible for medical bills pertaining to the pregnancy. In Texas, if a man misses child support payments, the state will locate the man and throw him in jail. Depending what the court allows, the man may have visiting rights. But, if the woman moves to another town, then the visitation rights may not have to include over night visits. God forbid the rights of a man if the woman moves to another state.

But, what can we do? Courts move to slowly to stop an abortion. If the courts were to accelerate these cases, then they would have to pass laws about when the woman has to notify the father. All we need is a bunch of more laws.

I honestly do not see a solution to this.

Answer 6

Why do the majority of feminists so strongly defend their own personal freedoms and choices, but so vehemently oppose the personal freedoms and choices of others? "How do we feed, clothe and diaper this helpless infant?" Do feminists have the best interests of children in mind when they defend abortion? Yes, I know feminists will come up with all of these reasons why it's actually better for the child to die instead of to live, but let's be honest with ourselves here. Feminists clearly have their interests in the benefit of women over children. Men's rights groups (like feminists) have their interests in the benefit of men over children. I personally don't agree with either viewpoint. I believe that both men and women need to stop being irresponsible, selfish and instead do what is right, to finish what they have started, to not blame others and to not try to find an escape route at every possible chance. But we live in an age where people clamor to be victims, where people loathe the idea of personal responsibility, an age where few of us want to do the right thing, but what is most convenient and profitable to us. Yet my personal opinion cannot be forced onto others, I cannot force a woman to be a mother anymore than I can force a man to be a father.

Answer 7

Yes, but there are a few problems. One is the fact that since abortion was declared a woman's "right" by Roe V. Wade. This means that a woman has a legal right to an abortion, whether or not anyone else agrees. Another is the fact that there could be health consequences to the woman, but not the man, if there is no abortion. However, I do believe that when there is no health issue, men should try to stop the abortion on the grounds that the unborn child is under their custody, and therefore they must take care of it and prevent harm from coming to it. Sadly, this would be very hard without Roe V. Wade being overturned.

Answer 8

I like your question. I wish there was no choice at all but if giving the father a choice may help I am for it. Maybe it would stop some of the abortions but how many 16 year old boys are gonna step up and say "don't have an abortion, I will help you raise your baby"? How many guys that have one night stands with women they meet at a nightclub will say "don't have an abortion, I will help you raise the baby"? I say the choice that needs to be made is the CHOICE OF SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. If you don't want to have a baby, don't have sex.

Answer 9

What a great question! The main problem that we have today is that our government does not have a law protecting unborn babies. They are not real babies to the courts until they have been born and can breathe on their own.

This is also why someone who kills an unborn baby in an automobile accident is not held responsible for that life. The court doesn't recognize our smallest of our citizens.

I would sure like to know what they call a baby in an incubator. I would also like to know what differentiates between a preemie who is saved and a preemie who is murdered. How many of these people who murder these babies call themselves Christians?

In my opinion, a father should have the right to know about his child and be a part of the decisions. If the mother chooses not to keep her child, the father should have the right to raise his child.

However, never should anyone who has conceived a child by force be granted any rights in decisions about the child conceived. The mother may choose to give her baby up for adoption if the child was conceived in a rape or incest. The day after pill should be readily available for anyone who has been through this type of trauma.

"For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works and that my soul knows well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed, and in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them." (Psalm 139:13-16, NKJV)

"When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit…[saying] ‘As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy.'" (Luke 1:41, 44, NIV)

"Woe to him who quarrels with his Maker, to him who is but a potsherd among the potsherds on the ground. Does the clay say to the potter, 'What are you making?' Does your work say, 'He has no hands?' Woe to him who says to his father, 'What have you begotten?' or to his mother, 'What have you brought to birth?' This is what the LORD says—the Holy One of Israel, and its Maker: Concerning things to come, do you question Me about My children, or give Me orders about the work of My hands?" (Isaiah 45:9-11, NIV)

"Behold, children are a gift of the LORD; the fruit of the womb is a reward." (Psalm 127:3, NASV)

Answer 10

im not sure i know very much about this but
if the guy wants to be sole responsible for the child the mother should consider. maybe there can be somekind of lawfal agreement that the dad will take care of all the babys need after it has come of the mother is willing to agree. the mom doesnt have to see or have nehting to do with the child, she can sing off her rights to it. but if the dad wants ot and wants to share the responsability but the mother doesn't then the mother should have the right to not have the baby.
i think peoples life have so many variations that its hard to make a decition like this for evryone

Answer 11

If they would but enter into it BEFORE conceiving a child, there is a legally binding contract that would afford a man equal say in the fate of his unborn child. It is the Contract of Marriage. One should not blame the women or the courts just because so many men are more afraid of this contract than the consequences of not having it in place.