Help!!!!! Child Support Question.......................?

Question

The wife and I are planning on getting a divorce to makes things more complicated, she's prego due in SEP07. She's told me that if sign away all my parental rights, basically giving her full custody, she won't seek child support from me. Is this true??? Should I get it done now or wait untill the child is born?? If we do 50/50 custody, am I still liable to pay child support?? Under what means am I free of paying child support??

Before getting married the wife and I both had an agreement that we were both too young (20/18) to have kids, however she went back on that. So basically we got married, but the marriage is going downhill, fast. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

so she'll probably go back on this too don't trust her and do what you feel is best in the interest in the child

Answer 2

If you sign away all parental rights (which I do NOT reccomend you do) you are not financially responsible for the child. If you get 50/50, I'm pretty sure you don't have to pay anything. If she has full custody, but you haven't signed away your rights as a father, yes you will have to pay child support. It is based on how much you make a month.
As a single mother, I recommend that you stay in your child's life!!!! It isn't fair to the child that you and your wife can't work things out. Don't just walk away. You helped to create this child, and you need to be involved. Physically, emotionally, and financially. Think long and hard about your options before making a decision.

Answer 3

signing away parental rights isn't right. While you wont have to pay child support, you are giving up your child forever. Its as though you aren't the father. You can get divorced but hey this is a child not some choice you have to make. If you are any kind of real man, you will tell your wife hell no you aren't signing away jack and stand up and pay your child suport. I'm in the process of getting a divorce right now and I have 2 kids I'll soon be paying on. Stand up and do whats right, that child will need a father even if you aren't married to its mother.

Answer 4

You are getting so many conflicting answers on here that it is completely obvious that allot know nothing about what they are saying. Pretty sad for only 2 points huh? Now listen up, as this is the second and last time that I will be answering this question. Go back to your other questions for my advice on the signing over of rights. As for this post, I will answer your custody question. If you both have joint custody, then most of the time you will not have to pay child support to her. However you will be required to pay 1/2 of everything concerning this child as you will have the child 1/2 of the time. Get it? 1/2 of all doctor visits, 1/2 of schooling, 1/2 of clothing, 1/2 of shelter, 1/2 of foods... everything. To be honest, I know that you are just 20 years old, but this is exactly what usually happens when all of these young punks out there go against our advice and think that "they are all grown up now" and are having early sex. Remember this: Just because your old enough to laugh and joke and "put it in." Doesn't mean that something won't be "coming out" later. Spread this word. Maybe you can prevent the next Forrest fire! Feel me?

Answer 5

just because she tells you that you will be free of financial obligation to this child does not mean that the judge will agree.

besides...what right does she have to make that decision? what if it comes out that she ends up HOMELESS or something awful like that? could you live with knowing that your CHILD is a homeless infant? worse yet, what if something happens to her, heaven forbid, and she dies? you will have to live with knowing that you ABANDON your child, just because she asked you to?

Do not sign anything without a lawyer. If I were you, I would wait until this kid is born, and pay for the paternity test. I know that might sound rather insulting since she was your wife, and you probably assume that she never cheated, but you just never know. Once the paternity is proven, then you can go from there.

I would say that you are better off to live up to your obligations. this kid deserves it. after all, he is she did not ask to be born to parents that were not ready to have kids. and don't put it all off on her. you knew the implications of having sex, and you were in full knowledge that she could end up pregnant.

be a man, and face up to your responsibilities. yeah, it will suck for a while, but when you play house, this is what happens.

get the paternity test. file for your visitation. pay your support. be the parent that this kid deserves. sure, you probably think that you are not ready to be a parent...but the truth is this: none of us really are. kids don't come with instructions -- you will learn as you go. this kid deserves for you to at least give it your best. you might surprise yourself and realize that you are pretty darned good parent. rely on your family for support. they will help you get through. if for some reason the ex balks on this whole parenting thing, you might be all this kid has. don't run out on the kid...you will live to regret it, i promise.


good luck...

Answer 6

Get to a lawyer NOW! DO NOT sign away your parental rights because you may still be responsible for child support regardless of what "deal" you sign with your wife. Sounds like she may be getting some "advice" here. That advice could have you paying for 18 years of child support (or more in college expenses) for a child that may not even be yours.

You're young and you may not have the finances to pay for an attorney. Depending on how important this is to you, do some research in your state and see if their is a law firm or law school that is doing pro bono work in this area of law.

As far as that last staement, I must say that it is unfair for you to state she went back on her word. You could have worn condoms to reduce the potential of a pregnancy. Man up - don't blame her.

Answer 7

This is the second time you've asked the same question. The answer is the same: what kind of a man wants to NOT support his child (emotionally and financially and physically)??? In 20 years, when this child looks you up and asks you why you didn't love him/her enough, what are you going to say? You won't have to pay child support if you sign over your rights, you also will NOT get visits with the child ...EVER.

Answer 8

Stand up and Be a Man. Weather you think you are too young or not is no longer an issue. You are going to be a Father.

So are you a Man or a cowardly snake who would run from that?

All you can think of is the money? Grow up. Never ever give up rights to your child. That baby needs you as much (and maybe more) then it needs its mother.

You should never be free of paying support or of being a Father.

Time to grow up son

Answer 9

Both you and her can sign anything you want, if you want to give up your parental right, you have every right to do so. However, this child is half yours biologically, so she can revisit child support at any time until that child is 18.

Despite your agreement at the time, she didn't create this child on her own. If you have shared custody, then yes, you are required to pay child support.

Answer 10

You'll always be liable to pay her child support unless you have full custody of the child; in which case she would owe you child support.

If she has full custody that doesn't change that you would owe child support. You should also get visitation rights if that is the case.

Answer 11

If she agrees to get what she said in writing then you're not liable to pay. But i wouldn't go signing your kids away like that. Kids without a father never grow up right.