how do you manage the fine line between arrogance and confidence?

Question

I am pretty shy, but am working on becoming more and more confident. My question is, how do you master becoming more confident but not arrogant? I know some people who claim that they are "really confident"- but always come off as arrogant to me (always have to put others down, compare, and think that they are God's gift to humanity.. So in your opinion, how do you master becoming confident but not arrogant.

But I have always heard people say, fake it till you make it- so does that mean that arrogant people will eventually become more confident or will they just become more and more arrogant.

Answer 1

As a good rule of thumb, the people who are truly, genuinely confident...don't feel the need to constantly tell everyone how confident they are.

Answer 2

As cliche as it sounds, confidence comes from within. All you've got to do to feel confident and be more confident is feel at ease with yourself. Don't always pick with the way you look or talk... and don't put yourself down frequently. If you feel comfortable with yourself, then others will naturally sense that you're confident.
There may be a fine line between confidence and arrogance, but it's actually pretty easy to separate the two as long as you have some self-awareness. If you're the type of person to keep yourself in check and make sure that you don't offend others and respect others' opinions (even if you disagree and refute), then you're not going to come off as arrogant. If other people still perceive you as arrogant, then that means that they're just really sensitive. You really can't please everybody because there's always someone who's going to mistake your confidence for arrogance.

Answer 3

In my humble opinion, you have started the process of telling the difference. You said that there are some people who put others down. That, in a nut shell, is the basic difference.Confidence is based on a quality that is learned or that is in-born. For example, you learn to drive a car until you develop the absolute confidence to become a stunt driver for movies.You may also be born with the very good eye-hand co-ordination which then interests you in the business of being a stunt man(or woman).With continued experience comes more confidence and more recognition.However, when you combine this ability with a desire to mock others (who might be learning), or claim that there is no one better than you on the planet, then you have crossed the line.It does not matter if it is true or not.While I have tried to use this scenarios to demonstrate the difference, it is not always easy to master the ability to be confident and not arrogant.I guess it is a life long pursuit. I hope I have been of some help.

Answer 4

This people you describe are in no way confident. A confident person don't have to carry confidence on a sign. People will find out very soon. Putting others down is no confidence and not even arrogance. they are plain stupid. A confident person would always help with the answer hi is thinking is right and without arguing the point.

Answer 5

arrogant = snob!!! thinks they all that !show off alll the time ( but they have their own issue and they put down people just to make them feel good)
confident = you are all that and you know it! you does not need to prove it because other will see it when they want to.

So honey! do the things you like and learn what you want to learn, in the future, you will have more talent than anyone else..you don't need to show off to ANYONE! but only to that special people that you want , whoever really care for you or when you had to because you just can't stand when people belittle you...trust me they will be surprise !! always tell yourself you can do it! if not, its NOT..no big deal!!! as lkong you are still living, you can always try it again and a again..

i tell you somthing what i done last week..i was at a club and flirting, this guy asked if my name was crystal and i said "yes..(with a big smile) but a very expensive one"...then i laugh it of along with my friends...

never too direct but make sure you let other know where you stand

Answer 6

Confident people are NOT arrogant.
The arrogant people don,t feel secure and that is the reason to act as they do,Get it ?
You become confident by finishing what you start,When you do a good job you become more confident it snowballs.

Answer 7

In fact, a person who is arrogant has less confidence and need to compensate by projecting an air of confidence or publicly boosting their self-image. They feel that by saying it, it will make others believe it.

Answer 8

i think arrogant people just like to pretend that they're confident and they're actually trying to hide their selfconsiousness by being overly extroverted, loud, etc.

i'm a little shy as well (i'm also starting to get over it though, it's an amazing feeling!) but people have told me that i have a "quiet confidence". to me, confidence is just being able to know who you are, and even though you may not not like it, you accept it. you don't let others bring you down, you stay positive and you are geniunely you. you have the trust in yourself to know that you are capable.

i tend to like the confident people that are charming as well; they're kind, caring and considerate.

of course, sometimes that feeling of confidence goes a little overboard, but from what i've seen is to stay humble. don't think of yourself too highly and laugh at yourself once in a while.

a good confidence tip: SMILE SMILE SMILE!

& good luck :D

Answer 9

Arrogance involves talking.
Confidence involves being.

In fact, a person who is arrogant has less confidence and need to compensate by projecting an air of confidence or publicly boosting their self-image. They feel that by saying it, it will make others believe it.

Answer 10

By realizing your true assets without feeling that you have to put yourself on display concerning them.

Confidence comes from within. Arrogance is an outward display of it, usually.