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Well hello i am currently 23 weeks pregnant and i had a u/s when i was 21 weeks and the baby was being really shy and could not see anything! and to top it off the tech was being an ***! well i recently went in for my 22 week appt and the doctor said everything looked fine! but the problem is i really really want to know the sex of the baby! and i have no money to go to and have done a 3d/4d u/s! and i was wondering i have been having some light cramping can i go to the hospital and see if they will give me an u/s i know i may sound selfish right now but i really want to know!!! it's killing me!!! what do you think i could say that is going on with me to for sure get an u/s at the hospital?ONLY NICE ANSWERS PLEASE!

Answer 1

Some hospitals will do a sex check. You can ask your doctor if they offer it. I was able to get a sex check on my baby. I had to have a ultrasound every other week because I am high risk. They could never tell what I was carrying. The ultrasound lady told me to come by in a week and she would do a sex check untill we could catch my baby showing. I was 8 1/2 months when I finally found out what I was having. It was a shy little girl. I am hoping they will do the same with this one if they can't tell what it is. Best wishes. going by my kids I think you are having a girl. Both of my girls were shy.

Oh I had to go to the ER for bleeding with my first and they done a ultrasound and I was able to find out it was a girl. I have went in for cramping and well it never got me a ultrasound. Every hospital is different.

Answer 2

I doubt they will give you an ultrasound. Most likely they will just put a doppler on and listen for the heartbeat. At 21 weeks the technician would have definately been able to see the sex of the baby, but maybe where you had it done, it is their policy not to tell. I would find out what their policy is and then go back and politely ask to know (assuming they normally tell) Talk to your doctor as well, let him know how anxious you are feeling, maybe he can help. My OB ( although I am in Canada and we have great healthcare) does an ultrasound in her office every visit I am there, so maybe you can find a doctor there who has the same equipment to do such a thing.

I have to laugh at the guy( I'm assuming) comment about being an angry pregnant women. Seems to be typical judgement calls from people on here who have nothing better to do than criticize others. Seriously buddy..get a life..people are laughing at you..

Answer 3

If you go to the emergency room for the pain, which is what i think you would be doing if you went to the hospital, the u/s tech does NOT allow the patient, a.k.a you, to see the ultrasound at all....at least i know thats what they do in Louisiana. I went in for pains at around 13 weeks and the tech told me she could not show me the ultrasound nor tell me anything that is going on....but she let my boyfriend see it, which I thought was weird. And I was so upset b/c my boyfriend started smiling when he saw the baby but I couldn't see anything...i was jealous lol

Answer 4

Go to the emergency room and say that you are having many pains. If they ask you do you know the sex, tell them that you never had an ultrasound even after you told your doctor of the pains you were having. Try balling up in fetal position to make the pain seem harsh. They will feel sympathetic. Ask your ER doctor can you see your ultrasound to make sure the baby is doing fine or ask the tech when they are doin it to let you see if your baby is ok.

Answer 5

Not trying to be rude but 3d 4d ultrasounds are $150 here where i live, and you can't afford that? Babys are expensive and take a lot of money...

It's wrong to go to the hospital and waste their time and energy to find out the sex of the baby if you don't feel like there's really anything wrong.

Answer 6

Well...it's likely that you're having a girl. Boys are much easier to identify and if a baby is "shy" it usually means a penis can't be seen but the outer folds of the girl's private area can't be seen either. Penis's are easy to see on an ultrasound so it's unlikely it was a boy. You're having a girl. One that wants to surprise you.

It's unlikely you'll find a reason to get another ultrasound. Sometimes they do one in the last trimester to check on growth and the amount of amniotic fluid. But really, you don't want one because it means they are worried about the condition of the baby.

I know it's hard to wait, but it's probably your only option at this point. Good luck!

Answer 7

You can go back to your doctor and ask him what the sex of the baby is. He should have the results of the u/s in your file. And if it doesn't clearly show the sex, you'll just have to wait and see. Think about it this way - it's like a giant Christmas present. You can see it sitting under the tree, but you can't open it until Christmas. And it's driving you mad, but that's just the way things are. Knowing your baby's sex isn't going to change anything.You're still going to have the baby. You can't change what sex it is. Nor can you change what color its eyes are, or its hair, or whether it will have dimples, or be tall, or short -- there are so many things that you just have to wait to find out. And this is just another one of those things. So take a deep breath, go for a walk somewhere, and relax. You'll find out soon enough.

Answer 8

:) i know how you feel!! and i know ill get thumbs down, but with my last pregnancy, they told me and i was so convinced he was a girl, id do anythign for more ultrasounds. the one 100% thing they WILL give an u/s for is if you tell them you were bleeding; i had called about cramping and diarrhea on fri (im currently 17 weeks with my 3rd) and i more wanted to know what i could take; yet they sent me to the hops when i said i had light spotting on the TP when i went to the bathroom, even though i wasnt anymore. and i go tan u/s. anyway, my last, i wanted so desperately to see again, i had called and told them i slipped and my belly hit the counter in my kitchen, and now i was having small cramping and had light spotting. be prepared to be in there for a few hours though; they kept me for 8 hours to monitor fetal HR and contractions. but sure enough, i got my u/s i wanted; and it was still a boy! just dont make it sound too awful bad; tell them light spotting, or they will look for blood and wonder why all of a sudden youre not anymore; i told them it wasnt enough to be on my undies, but there was some on the TP. good luck, and congrats on baby!! i know how desperate you are to find out!! my baby was being shy on fri, but at lest i have another scan on aug 3rd, hopefully he/she will show us then!

oh btw, whenever ive had to go in, they ALWAYS move my bed and help me get situated and move the screen so i can see everything. they probably wont say boy or girl, but towards the end, ask "could you happen to see what it is?" rather than as soon as they come in and start say "i want to know what it is!" here, in PA, we have a "special" hospital just for pregnant women; so at least here you wouldnt be tying up the ER. call the office, and they might bring you in there rather then send you the ER; call during regular office hours.


which, BTW to those pissed about my answer, good thing i did, cause they found a cyst on my baby; they needed to do extra tests and scans, which could have turned out worse had i not gotten that u/s.

Answer 9

I had the exact same problem as you! My baby is very shy, keeping legs crossed! I am frustrated too, and i was thinking of doing the same thing as you, I know it sounds terrible, but I am feelin you, I want to know also! I will probably end up doing that, maybe wait until I'm a little farther along, just for a better chance of seeing things.

Answer 10

I was 30 something weeks and I could not feel my baby move..... so the gave me an ultrasound. You cold try telling them that the same thing but I dont know if it will work for you that early.

Good luck and Congrats!

P.S Dont listen to any men... they have no idea what its like to be pregnant, go ahead and be selfish... this is YOUR time!